Between the adverts online, the flyers in the mail, and the ads that are on the TV, we are all bombarded into thinking about the perfect gift for anyone on our list.  The companies have it set up so that is all we can think about.  Yesterday was cyber Monday.  The sales were probably not what certain businesses wanted because many extended their sales into today.  As we ponder about this, the annoying things in life seem to dissipate.  However, there is another type of gift that is the one of real and true friends.  There are no ads, no fancy flyers, no crazy commercials, nothing that involves money.  It’s the kind of gift everyone should want at Christmas – real friendship.  Not everyone has an easy time during the holiday season.  Many families and individuals’ struggle is worsened during the holidays.  Yet, the friends that help and stand by them are what really matters.  They are the true gift of Christmas.  As our children and grandchildren watch all the fascinating ads for extremely expensive items, before you rush out and run up your credit card, stop and think about what is really important at Christmas. There are many holiday movies reflecting on the important values of Christmas none of which involve presents.  It is the season to help one another.  Many people buy food for the needy, pass out baked goods to friends and neighbors to let them know they are appreciated and a few even volunteer at soup kitchens, community centers, senior homes and shelters.  It’s all in how you look at it what the real gift of Christmas is.  My book, “The Special Gift” sold out last year at the Marine Base in San Diego, California.  It is always available online on Kindle and in hard cover at the website.  It is a wonderful story that many children have told me they really loved.  I hope you will too.  Another easy gift for the adults is “Misplaced Trust” which is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.