questions-happy-facequestions Have you ever noticed that people ask questions when an event occurs before you even have time to collect your thoughts?  Something will happen and right away people begin asking questions such as, “What are you going to do?”  How can you answer when you have just received the information?  In an episode of the “Big Bang Theory,” Leonard tells Howard that his future wife is seeking a prenuptial agreement.  Before Howard has time to think, Leonard asks him what is he going to do.  When a person passes and leaves a family, the first thing anyone asks is how are they going to get by without him or her.  There is no consideration for the individual.  Everyone needs time when events occur that they weren’t expecting.  A friend of mine’s daughter was just confronted with something earth shattering to her.  She and her husband were moving to a new home.  Right before they were about to move in, the husband tossed the wife and child out.  They had to move in with her mother and he basically stripped her of everything she owned including cleaning out their bank account.  Anyone who knew her at least had the decency not to ask her questions about how she was going to fare.  Situations of surprise that are negative take time to think through, come to the correct decision by weighing all the facts, possibilities and in this woman’s case start over.  It is not an easy task.  Look at what happened to families during any of the wars.  In World War One and World War Two, many men did not return home.  Ladies had to seek employment and find other women willing to watch their child or children.  There were no day care, child care facilities or even government assistance to help them through very difficult times.  I doubt that anyone asked these women questions as to their circumstances.  Many women banded together to help each other through their dire situations.  Even neighbors helped by listening to children at night, while a parent worked.  Back then they simply left their apartment door open so that a neighbor could hear if the child or children needed anything.  It was a tough way to grow up.  Many children never went to school and instead worked wherever they could.  In the Good Gus Series, the children never questioned their parents or their authority.  They contributed in their own ways to help their families in the businesses and farms.  If you are full of questions regarding wills, trust, and greedy relatives, take a few minutes and read “Misplaced Trust”.  (available on all popular e-book websites)