Learning to say no is not easy for everyone.  The word no is very powerful.  As children it comes easy to say no, however as adults we seem to have great difficulty.  Many people feel incapable of saying no.  They believe others will dislike them, find them to be a horrible person, and they will have guilt simply because they said no.  The first thing to consider when asked to do something or a favor is think about what is at stake.  Do you really have the time?  Do you want to help or be available?  If you are already a busy person, you may not have the time, inclination and possibly money to spare.  If you are on the fence when a person asks you, rather than give an immediate answer tell them you have to think about it.  If they demand an answer immediately you may need to say no because it might be a waste of your time.  Often family and friends will repeatedly make the same request.  Unfortunately, if it’s money your ability to say no must be enhanced otherwise you will end up broke and in debt.  If you refuse emphatically, then the requester will move on to someone else hoping to heighten their chances of a yes.  Saying no may not always be about family or even work.  If you have decided that you need a break then take it.  Don’t allow anyone to interfere with your time to relax your mind or possibly get some extra rest.  You always need to consider yourself first.  My late aunt used to say, “Take care of yourself first because you can’t take care of anyone else if you don’t.”  She was right.  You should never feel guilty about declining a request.  It’s your life and your choices.  In the Good Gus series, Bad Bart had to learn that being a bully didn’t mean someone would always say yes.  Sheriff Gus clearly made him understand that no was in his vocabulary.  The series is available on Kindle worldwide.  If you decide to say no because you need some “me” time, I hope you will consider grabbing your tablet and reading “Misplaced Trust” which is available at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.