inside It is what is inside that counts. How often have you heard that? Sadly, it doesn’t always matter.  There are shallow people who seem to have little or nothing inside when in comes to caring, sharing, helping others and just being a good friend in times of trouble.  There are probably millions of self help books around the globe who offer guidance to find the real you.  Do they work?  No clue.  However, it does take time and effort to figure out who we all really are inside.  The old saying, “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover,” was meant for people to look beyond the outward appearance and find out who people really are.  In times of difficulty, you can learn quickly just what individuals are like.  Many people can barely cope with everyday life and end up becoming dependent on medications, illegal drugs, and alcohol.  There are numerous programs around the world available to help people but they can only be helped if they want to be.  There are individuals who do what is called soul searching.  They believe that it will help them find their inner self and be true to themselves.  Much of what is inside us was taught to us when we were young.  We also learned by observation, how we were treated by others and life lessons.  For anyone to say that they really know who they are must be difficult.  How we perceive ourselves and others see us are completely different.  A person can see their inner self as a good human being with strong morals and values.  Yet, another person, simply by the first person’s behavior and words, can see them as a liar, possibly a cheat or even a thief.  For example, parents may tell their children to lie about their age so that they can get into the movies at a lower price or at a restaurant or buffet.  The parents teach the children to lie and cheat.  Then when the child shows that behavior they become extremely upset.  They say such things as, “I never lie or cheat, how can you?”  Guess what, you taught them and they learned that it was acceptable behavior.  Sometimes a few small incidents teach children and even adults how far they can go and what they can get away with.  Not only do children have temper tantrums, but adults do as well.  They want it their way and then if they don’t receive what they were asking for, the threats, fighting arguing, etc. begins.  Not only is it immature, but it sets such a poor example for children.  In book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart” what really happens is that Bart has a temper tantrum and becomes a bully.  However, Sheriff Gus solves the problem with a positive solution that is a valuable lesson to the young reader.  When you feel inside that you may just explode from the nagging and pushing from the beneficiaries of the trust or will you are handling, stop and take a break and read “Misplaced Trust” at maecharlesbooks.com.  (books available on Kindle.  Book two, “The Cattle are Restless” is now available on Kindle.)