People continually pass judgment on one another. You see it in everyday life, in movies, on the internet and in public places. I have never understood this. What is it that makes people think that it is acceptable? In the workplace, the workmates pass judgment on a variety of things. They make remarks about their co-workers clothes, shoes, hair, and overall appearance. The criticize their food choices particularly if they bring their own food. I have never been a person to eat take away at the office. I always brought my lunch. I really didn’t care what others thought. While they are so busy passing judgment, they were neglecting their work. I saw a cute story about a set of twins. One twin was quite popular and had her own group. Her sister was quiet and shy. The popular twin and her friends continually would pass judgment on the shy sister. They made fun of her clothes and one day even threw a tomato at her dress. Their mom had passed and the dad heard the two girls arguing one day as the popular twin and her friends had cut up the quiet girl’s dress that she had made for prom. He said it was about time they knew the real score. The shy twin was born healthy and vibrant. The popular twin was failing. The doctors said there was nothing they could do but a nurse had a better idea. She put the healthy twin in with her and before long she began to thrive as well. The dad said, “So you see, your sister saved your life.” After that the popular twin realized the value of her sister. The next day they went to school together and no one was allowed to pass judgment, criticize or do anything negative to her sister. A valuable lesson. Always appreciate people and never pass judgment on anyone. You could someday be in their shoes. In the Good Gus series no one was allowed to criticize anyone. It would have been negative reading and a bad example. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who thought nothing of passing judgment on their benefactors or their shared heirs. The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
During our lifetimes, we have all had to deal with difficult co-workers. When we all worked together, it was frequently frustrating to have to work with a person who was rude, self absorbed, annoying and even the workmates who played practical jokes on everyone. Then, there were the employees who would take credit for your work or someone else’s work. Many people fail to realize that the workplace also has bullies. They think its funny to put a whoopie cushion on a person’s chair, accidentally spill liquids on their work, tape their phones or keyboards with invisible tape, or in general be nasty at a low voice so no one else hears them. There are many videos on Facebook about this type of behavior. With COVID, though, many things have changed. People in offices turn their work in directly to the supervisor or manager because they work at home now. This reduces the difficult co-workers from stealing their work or at the very least taking credit for it. Plus, as you no longer see them on a daily basis, and interface is limited, they shine as the lazy, bad attitude individuals who previously hid. Working with pleasant people makes our days better and go by faster. Nothing in life is perfect, but if this is our income, then we need to make it as pleasant as possible. I remember an incident on “Friends” where Ross’s lunch that Monica had made for him was taken by one of the difficult co-workers. Ross was furious and the writers made a huge joke out of it. Yet, sadly, people do that all the time with no regard for the fact that the lunch was made especially for a person or they cannot afford to eat out. Either way, life is much better when everyone gets along. That was one of the main points in many of the stories in the Good Gus series. It is still available for last minute shopping online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Difficult people is a part of the characteristic traits of the individuals in “Misplaced Trust.” It is still easily available for last minute shopping online 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Adults need to learn self correcting. I saw Will Smith say that on the Ellen Degeneres Show recently. This is a story basically about bullying. We need to learn from our children because since COVID bullying is a regular occurance particularly in the United States. However, children are taking matters into their own hands and self correcting. Three boys who attend a high school in Memphis, Tennessee are part of this story. A small thin boy, with a squeaky voice and worn clothes was constantly being bullied. This boy had been bullied his entire life as he came from a poor family. By the way, this is a different story than the boy I wrote about a few weeks ago. As with the other story, there were two boys who were in athletics. These two boys were on the football team. One day one of the boys went home who had been bullying the thin boy and he began to realize he was doing the wrong thing. He spoke to his friend the next day. They agreed that self correcting was needed and then at lunch the two of them sat down with the thin boy at lunch. The next day they brought him new clothes. Another student taped it all and put it on social media. It went viral and Ellen Degeneres invited all of them. Will Smith joined them and gave them each a bag of new items including New Balance sneakers and he gave the entire school New Balance sneakers as well. Ellen gave them each a check $10,000.00 ($8504.00 Euros). It was a great show with a valuable lesson. In the Good Gus series, Bad Bart was the only bully who needed self correcting. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook Many of the characters needed self correcting. “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who need self correcting. The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Now that summer is here in many parts of the world, swimming is one of everyone’s favorite activities. When I was young you could swim in most places. There was one pond that was polluted. I never understood, but now I do. Local industries were dumping wastes. The city cleaned it every spring prior to opening. I wasn’t allowed to go because the water looked filthy. I did swim in oceans, and lakes. Today, however, there was an article on the internet about areas people should never swim. Most people don’t realize that the alligators and crocodiles have traveled north from Florida as well as snakes. I lived in Florida and in my neighborhood was a small waterway. The snakes, crocs and alligators hid underneath. Residents quickly learned that children could not play in that water. Unfortunately, ducks and small dogs did not understand. They loved swimming in the water and the amphibians saw them as lunch. There are creeks, rivers, and a few oceans that are just too dangerous for swimming. In the Florida oceans as well as up the eastern seaboard of the United States, Portuguese Man of War are readily available. If they sting you, the pain is less than delightful. As the animals have migrated to find new swimming holes, they are being found on people’s porches, back gardens, golf courses and occasionally walking across the streets to find water. Besides sunscreen, being careful about where you wish to frolic in the water is equally as important. In the Good Gus series, there children did play in the water, but only for fishing. The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is a good read during the warm summer days. It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
There is a new fad called Zombie eating. Thanks to technology, the eating habits of many families and individuals have changed into Zombie eating. What am I talking about you may ask? It’s simple. They are both adults and children who eat in front of a screen. It can be a TV, phone or tablet. According to a survey, the number is staggering – eighty percent! It may have started in the 1950’s when TV dinners were invented. I have no idea what they were referred to in the Eurozone since Ireland and the UK refer to their television as telly. Back then it was a novelty. A prepared meal that you warmed in the oven. Today groceries have isles of prepared foods. Many workers in the U.S. eat in front of a screen for lunch. It is rare that an American will eat at a table. Zombie eating has become a way of life for most families. Everyone is in a rush, meals are prepared quickly, and then rather than sit at the table discussing their day, they are silent and eat like a Zombie. Food should be enjoyable. It is our nourishment. Even if you live alone, you can make a simple meal and then relax. I love sitting on the patio often reading a book. It stimulates your mind. When my children were young, we sat at the table and talked. TGIF was a Friday night theme in our home. One of my daughter’s friends would sleep over, and we would sit at the table, along with my son, talking about school that week. When they were in high school and their first year of college, we had fajita night. The group consisted of both their friends. The conversations were lively, with lots of joking and laughing. They are still fond memories any time I meet one of their friends. They remind me how much they really enjoyed it. Rather than sit in front of the TV, or allow phones at dinner time, start a new tradition in your home. Bring back conversation and leave the TV, tablets and phones off. In Pecos, in the Good Gus series, families ate together. If they were alone, they frequently ate at Mary’s Cafe’. In several books, there are scenes where everyone is eating together. So rather than use tablets or phones for eating, save them for bedtime. The series is available online at Kindle and Waterstones with hard copies at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California. “Misplaced Trust” is also available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Here we go again! Another new fad diet that claims you can eat anything you want, but there is a catch. The name of this new fad diet is CICO. The goal of this diet is to eat whatever you want, count your calories, and burn more more than you consumed. If you think about it, if you can check on every food you eat then you can calculate how many calories you consumed in a day. This is a remake on the old type of dieting. The first problem may be that you may eat out at lunch at a restaurant that does not post the calories for each dish. The second problem is that it is time consuming even if you use a computer program. Then, you have the question of how many calories you burn in a day. If you have a program on your phone or a watch that will calculate for you, it may be easier. There are also programs that will sell you pre-made food to help you control your caloric intake. However, they are expensive. It is conceivable as a weight loss program if you have the free time for all of the calculations and input. The smarter version might be to sit down, look up all the foods you like to eat and make your own program. I know weight watchers has something similar. The difficulty in losing weight is that many individuals have medical problems which prohibit them from really remaining at their ideal weight. Losing weight takes time and effort. Anyone who goes to the gym on a regular basis, like myself, see people of all types including really overweight individuals, putting forth their best effort to become healthy. They should be applauded for their efforts. The characters in the Good Gus series are all shapes, sizes and ethnicity. I thought it important that children see people as they really are and not as fairies, vampires and monsters, but rather the types of individuals they come in contact with every day. Remember, the series is available on Kindle and Waterstones and at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California. “Misplaced Trust” can be found at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Your coworkers are the people you spend the most time with every day. They are the people who help you maintain an income and possibly increase your pay or assist directly or indirectly in any promotions for you. Many comments may be well intended, but they may be cruel. For example, a workmate may say any of the following: “Gee I wish I could eat that many carbs? How lucky you are to eat take away. Are you really going to eat all that food?” It’s all rude and insulting. Maybe they think they are doing you a favor, but they aren’t. Their comments can also make you feel self-conscious. How many times have you chosen to eat anywhere else except at your desk, the break room or even outside on a picnic table? It’s an indirect way of bullying. Studies have shown that children who have been bullied have depression, anxiety, a poor image of themselves and possibly earn less than their peers. It has always been my opinion that the kids that bullied in school just grew up and became adult bullies sometimes legally. Part of building an organization is teamwork. Coworkers depend on each other to keep the company successful, their paychecks, and advancement. So the next time you hear a person commenting in a negative way about a coworker, you might gently remind them that if they can’t say anything nice, to not say anything at all and just walk away. The only businesses in Pecos that had coworkers were at Mary’s Cafe’, Ray’s Blacksmith shop, Dr. Moore, Charlie’s Print shop and the ranches. The Good Gus series is available online at Kindle and Waterstones. Hard copies can be found at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California. The start of the tour is slow, but people love my card and are thinking about stocking the books. If the heat is getting you down, find a fan, grab your tablet and read “Misplaced Trust.” It’s only a click away at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
It’s difficult to believe when you read the news with so many parents harming their children that kindhearted people even exist any more. However, every once in a while you come across a few heartwarming stories that will take your breath away. One I saw recently was about a little boy who was always embarrassed that his mother had only one eye. His friends made fun of her and he hated it and her. He grew up and as soon as he had the chance he moved away to college and never returned home to see her again. He eventually married and had children of his own. One day his mother tried to visit. She went to his home and rang his bell. One of his children answered and called to their dad. They immediately started making fun of her. He had apparently raised children who were not kindhearted. He screamed at her to go away and never return again. If you can imagine, her heart had to have been truly broken. A few years passed and there was a high school reunion in his old town. He decided to go and on a whim drove by what he referred to as the old shack. She had passed but there was a letter waiting for him from her. It said,”Dear son, when you were very young we were in an accident. You had lost your eye. I gave you my eye so you would never have to hurt or be embarrassed the way I have been my entire life. Your loving Mother.” Cruelty comes in all forms, shapes and sizes. You never know what a kindhearted person may do for you. The second one I wanted to relate today was a short clip I saw from an Ellen DeGeneres show. A twenty-two year old single mother, who was a waitress, was working one day in Concord, NH at a Ruby Tuesdays. She was waiting on two women who were in military uniforms. When she asked them what they wished to order, they said they wanted a light lunch as it was during a U.S. government shut down and they were low on funds. The waitress decided that they should eat heartily and served them a full lunch. When it came time to pay their bill, they received a note from her instead. It said in so many words, “Thank you for your service. This is my way of letting you know how much you are appreciated. Your lunch is on me.” Ellen asked the girl the cost of their lunch and how much money she made that day. The lunch was $27.75 and she ended up with $8.00 not even enough to cover her gas. The servicewomen put the note on Facebook and it went viral. Naturally, Ellen, being extremely kindhearted, gave her a new huge TV (hers was broken and she couldn’t record her show) and a check for $10,000.00. See there are kindhearted people left in the world. In the Good Gus series, available on Kindle, was a town full of kindhearted people. Always a good choice for the young reader. In “Misplaced Trust” there are very few people who are kindhearted. It’s more like hearts of greed and stone. It is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
The decision process can be very difficult. However, if you approach it correctly and weigh the pros and cons it may be easier than you think. Some people make a list to see which are the decision factors that they need to consider. Unfortunately, individuals don’t always include everything in their analysis. Let’s take a job offer. You receive a job offer that is not as close to your current position, but the pay is higher. Things to consider. When people look at jobs, they don’t see the whole picture. For example, your new job is slightly father so what is the cost of the extra commute? If you take a train or a bus, the price of the ticket will be higher. You will have to allow extra time because it is further away. If you drive, you not only have to consider the cost of petrol but also the wear and tear on your vehicle. Most people never consider that factor. Again, you will have to leave earlier to arrive on time. Next could be attire. Does the new job require a more formal business attire? If it does you meed to factor the cost of dry cleaning and/or laundry. You also need to include an upgrade to your wardrobe. If the new job is really far you need to consider the cost of eating lunch and/or dinner as opposed being to able to pop home for either meal. Once you examine all the factors, then the decision process can be much easier. Nothing is ever cut and dry which is why it is so important to take time and weigh in all factors before making a final decision. In the Good Gus series, when the children decided to do things they did not consider the decision process and often there were consequences. The series, set in Texas in the old west, available on Kindle worldwide, offers a different type of story for the young reader. In choosing books to read, the decision process could lead you to read “Misplaced Trust.” It is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
What ever happened to the family dinner? It seems that with work and school obligations, there isn’t any time for the family dinner anymore. Many of the pitfalls are commuting such as delays with traffic or public transportation along with all the planned activities and sporting practices for the children and teens. Often people grab foods that can be microwaved quickly or take away. The whole point of the family dinner is for everyone to talk about their day and relax. When JC, who was named after one of the characters in the series, was in high school he didn’t have time for family dinners during the week. Between basketball practice and a part time job, he arrived home after dinner was finished. I would make his dinner and sit with him while he ate. What we did do, however, was to have a family dinner every Sunday. That way we all still connected and discussed the past week’s events. When my children were teens I came up with a new idea. As even then, many of the teens didn’t have family time or dinner together I had fajita night every week. It was a big hit. What was great was that they all discussed school, their lives, and there was a great deal of laughing in between all the conversation. It is difficult in this era to get everyone together at the same time, but it’s worth the effort. I think it helps to make families stronger and closer. That way in times of strife, rather than go their separate ways, they help each other and band together. In the Good Gus series there were special dinners that united the entire town. In addition, Mary of Mary’s Cafe’, was always closed for lunch so that their family dinner (lunch) continued to occur. The series is available on Kindle worldwide and the first two books on YouTube at Mae’s Story Time. After a relaxing family dinner, why not treat everyone to a chapter of “Misplaced Trust.” Not only interesting reading but it opens up new conversation topics. The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.