People continually pass judgment on one another. You see it in everyday life, in movies, on the internet and in public places. I have never understood this. What is it that makes people think that it is acceptable? In the workplace, the workmates pass judgment on a variety of things. They make remarks about their co-workers clothes, shoes, hair, and overall appearance. The criticize their food choices particularly if they bring their own food. I have never been a person to eat take away at the office. I always brought my lunch. I really didn’t care what others thought. While they are so busy passing judgment, they were neglecting their work. I saw a cute story about a set of twins. One twin was quite popular and had her own group. Her sister was quiet and shy. The popular twin and her friends continually would pass judgment on the shy sister. They made fun of her clothes and one day even threw a tomato at her dress. Their mom had passed and the dad heard the two girls arguing one day as the popular twin and her friends had cut up the quiet girl’s dress that she had made for prom. He said it was about time they knew the real score. The shy twin was born healthy and vibrant. The popular twin was failing. The doctors said there was nothing they could do but a nurse had a better idea. She put the healthy twin in with her and before long she began to thrive as well. The dad said, “So you see, your sister saved your life.” After that the popular twin realized the value of her sister. The next day they went to school together and no one was allowed to pass judgment, criticize or do anything negative to her sister. A valuable lesson. Always appreciate people and never pass judgment on anyone. You could someday be in their shoes. In the Good Gus series no one was allowed to criticize anyone. It would have been negative reading and a bad example. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who thought nothing of passing judgment on their benefactors or their shared heirs. The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Many people shy away from conflict because they simply can’t deal with it. There are individuals who are very harsh during any type of conflict which makes it even more difficult for the shy, quiet reserved type of individual. Unfortunately, conflict has been used in wars as a definition when it was exactly what they were, wars, not just a few people standing around with weapons fighting. When people use vocabulary they should really use it in the true sense and not just change the definition simply because they don’t want to call it what it really is. People who are in a relationship always have disputes and arguments. If they call it what it exactly is and communicate openly and honestly they can weather the rough patches and be happy rather than resort to divorce. I remember reading a long time ago about Hollywood movie stars constantly getting divorced and remarried. Many of them would have a simple argument and call it quits rather than sit down and communicate speaking openly and honestly and then resolve the issues. It’s easy to run away from the conflict then it is to face it if you don’t have the courage. The real difficult part though is facing yourself so that you can resolve issues that occur in life whether it be at work, home, or even in a social setting. Life is much easier if you solve all problems without resorting to name-calling, harsh words, threats, innuendos, and even violence. In the Good Gus series, book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart,” Sheriff Gus resolves the conflict Bad Bart has with Bob at the sweet shop. It’s the best way for children to learn that just because something is wrong doesn’t mean you have to get upset, yell, scream or resort to hitting just to get their own way. The series is always available on Kindle worldwide and books one and two on YouTube at Mae’s Story Time. If you’re handling someone’s finances and feel conflicted, a good resource is “Misplaced Trust” which is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.