I saw an article today about dismissive words. What was intresting was that when people have said these words, I thought many thoughts but them bascially dismissing me was not one of them. However, when you think about it that is exactly what they are saying. Whether it is an adult or a teen how much do you hate the words “Who cares?” When your teen has said it to you what thoughts ran through your mind.?That they couldn’t be bothered, weren’t interested in what you were saying or just saying those words just to get rid of you. According to psychologists, those are dismissive words, but also can heightened whatever argument is occuring. It usually ends up making the parties involved even more angry. When I think of the words ‘who cares’ I think about all the useless social media about what a person may have worn, will wear, how they look, what they said or did. Let me ask you, “Do you really care?” What makes their lives and what they wear, eat or do more important than you and your life? The other phrase that annoys people during an argument is “Calm down.” Those are two words that can really make a disagreement take off. First of all, whomever is being told to calm down believes that they are fine and that the other person needs to settle down and just stop. Do they or will they? Of course not. Once an argument takes off, it takes a great deal of effort to get it to end. It is often the reason couples break up and get divorced. This is also true in a business environment. One person may disagree and if the other individual is short tempered or hot headed, it turns into a huge mess. Sometimes people are fired or just quit. Of course, again saying “Calm down” will only make matters worse. When people have a poor attitude during a disagreement, it is to actually smarter to remain clam, be respectful and try to make sure the fight doesn’t get out of control, don’t you agree? When I lived in Ireland, I always loved November first. I would go to the grocery, which was in the mall, just to see the decorations. Reading a book for both a child and adult is a good gift for Christmas. It is much better than all those video games. Reading broadens a child and adult’s mind and gives them something to think about. Remember the Good Gus series is readily available with “The Christmas Gift” as a new book for a Christmas tradition. Also consider “Misplaced Trust” for that difficult relative. It would make your gift giving so much easier. Please remember a book donation to a sick child from the Good Gus series is a wonderful treasure for a child in the hospital. The Good Gus Series is available online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. Hard copies, personally autographed, are available through our website www.goodgusbooks.com along with past blogs for your reading enjoyment. Now available audio and videos for the Good Gus series on YouTube! Digitizing for all the books are available now on YouTube! “Misplaced Trust” is now available on Amazon in e-book form. It is also available digitally at www.misplacedtrustbook.com. If you are thinking of a Will or a Living Trust, “Misplaced Trust” will give you the information you need to make an informed decision. The Good Gus series, books one through four, are now available at the Morgan Mill Mail/UPS.