Many questions can be answered with either a yes or no. When you ask a person a question, the longer they talk the more they avoid the answer. When you are listening to continual verbiage, you know not only they will not answer what you asked but they will circumvent whatever you asked. Even if it is through a text, they can speak paragraphs without really saying anything. The narcissist is really good at not answering and coming up with a variety of lies. Their only problem is that they cannot always keep their lies straight. It is really true in life about almost anything. For example, an employee decides to ask for a raise. They are entitled to one as they have worked quite hard and their performance reports state that they are doing an excellent job, always on time and stay late to finish projects. The boss can easily say yes or not to his question. Instead, he receives the basic run a round and his question is never answered. He then walks away wondering what had just happened. I have seen this in movies, court, the workplace, and even with family members. You repeatedly ask the same question but never even receive a yes or no answer. If we start now teaching our children to be truthful the world would be a better place. In the Good Gus series, particularly in book four, “Johnny the Cat and Bronco Ride that Bull,” the boys skip off to see the rodeo and don’t even answer either their mother or father. The point of that story was they were disobeying their parents and there were consequences. The series is available online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Getting a yes or no answer by the characters in “Misplaced Trust” is close to impossible. The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
People are preoccupied with many minor issues but often miss the big picture. People are fighting about masks which is minor comparing to catching COVID, the flu or something else. With the lack of socialization, teenagers, and even young children are so preoccupied with not having a social life that they are ending their lives. The State of Nevada is so worried about this that they are considering opening the schools. Narcissists are also preoccupied. They are so envious of others that they have fantasies of unlimited power, extreme success, believe they brilliant and all men or women want them. Sadly, many are failures in life, never succeeding financially and are usually alone as their hopes for love dissipate when the person they think should love them see their true self and call it quits. Being preoccupied with the small and insignificant leads to missing out on important events, frequent loss of money, a lack of success and a poor work ethic. If you work for a narcissist you need to be careful in your everyday work environment. As they usually take credit for your work, you need to watch what you say and do. If you end up being preoccupied with his or her behavior, you will be the one without a raise or promotion and you may end up losing your job. In the Good Gus series, no one was preoccupied except Bad Bart when he wanted chocolate ice cream. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. In “Misplaced Trust” many of the characters are preoccupied with stealing the other beneficiaries’ inheritance and revenge. It’s a good read particularly since next week in the northern part of the states snow be be heavy and there will be rain across Europe. The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
The art of negotiation is a talent that many individuals lack. As a parent, we learn the art of negotiation very quickly. Everything is about how to get a toddler to do just about everything. The best part is that they are really good at it. If you try to get them to do chores you need a reward system. Stickers only work so long. They are smarter and brighter and clearly understand that treats, prizes, or gifts are the only way they will deal with you. By the time they are teenagers, they have truly mastered the art of negotiation. For only a short period we have the upper hand and that is because they need our permission to drive. When applying for a job, the art of negotiation is necessary in order to start out with a good rate of pay. If you accept a low offer that is not affordable, you may pass on the job but you will be ahead at the next position. If you try for a raise, your skills need to be outstanding in order to achieve the maximum. Even in real estate, everything is about the bottom price. Once you make a selection, the art of negotiation takes over. Unfortunately, some individuals are unscrupulous and at the last minute will want further concessions and force you to reciprocate when you are out of time and have no options. In the Good Gus series, available on Kindle, Sheriff Gus used the art of negotiation when he resolved Bad Bart’s demand for chocolate ice cream. The art of negotiation is certainly in many chapters of “Misplaced Trust.” The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Have you ever noticed regardless of what you read that almost everyone and every article has a hidden agenda? One of the reasons I dislike politics is because everyone has a hidden agenda. In the workplace, there are countless workmates who have a hidden agenda. It may be that they want another person’s job, or they are saying and doing whatever it takes to get a raise and promoted. They may be really nice to you particularly if you do your job well. It gives them the chance to check out your methods so they can duplicate them and worse, claim as their own. Many of the TV shows and movies’ plots revolve around a hidden agenda. Sometimes you can guess it and other times you don’t find out until the very end. That’s what makes them enjoyable, in my mind. If you have ever belonged to a condo association or been elected to their board, you quickly realize that many of the members have a hidden agenda. It’s not only the board, its everyone within the community. In my association, there is continual back stabbing and non board members trying to find ways to usurp the current president. What is interesting is that the man devotes most of his free time to the community and tries to meet everyone in case there is a problem. He continually has to contend with individuals who dislike him and create issues where none should exist. In the Good Gus series, the only two people who had a hidden agenda were Gus and Ray, but in a positive way. Available in hard copy and on Kindle, The Special Gift, is the ideal book for gift giving during the holiday season. It always sells out at the Miramar Marine Base, San Diego, California. Almost every character in “Misplaced Trust” has a hidden agenda. They tend to make life miserable for the other characters in each chapter. It is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Many of us are scared to ask for a raise, try for a promotion, or if you are in business take a risk against your more competitive competition. Asking for a promotion can only go two ways, either they say yes or no. It’s the no that makes you feel embarrassed and possibly even humiliated if they treat you poorly. If that occurs, you best move is to find a better position that appreciates you and your skills. The same scenario if you ask for a raise. It is certainly understandable if you need extra money and the business isn’t doing that well. Again, you are better off looking online at the various job sites and find something that will give you the type of salary you deserve. Being scared to try new ideas for your business is understandable. However, you will not progress further if you don’t try new ideas and challenges. If you can recognize your fears that is the first step. Don’t procrastinate simply because you are afraid of the next step. First figure out why. Obviously, the loss of money would be first. However, then we return to being embarrassed or feeling inferior because one particular idea didn’t work out. If you try a new marketing idea, for example, on a small scale your loss if it fails will be minimal. However, if you are successful, your profits will be greater. If one of your staff approaches you with a new concept, rather than put them off or even procrastinate on thinking about the idea, then not only will your staff become discouraged but you could be missing out on a golden opportunity. The second negative part is that the person with the great ideas might move to another company and increase their profits. Go with your instincts and you will probably be more successful than you imagined. In the Good Gus series everyone who moved to Pecos was scared. They were moving to a new area, beginning a new life and starting a new business. The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide. If you are scared to take the next step in business or even personally, muster up the courage and give it a go. You might be surprised. When you take a reading break, please remember “Misplaced Trust” which is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
What makes people find fault with others? Is it a lack of confidence, a feeling that makes them feel more superior, or are they just plain rude. I have heard individuals comment about different people and their appearance. I know a person who feels he can say anything even though he is overweight and dresses poorly. It always amazed me that he criticized individuals because they were heavy, while he was not a slim Jim or even physically fit. He would also make comments about how people dressed when he himself was no where near a fashion plate. Family members will find fault with others simply because they feel they can. They will criticize if they ask you to do something and either you do it wrong or you didn’t have time for it. They don’t seem to take into account that you may be busy and just didn’t get to their request by dropping everything to do it. The same is true in the workplace. A co-worker will ask you for something such as a document and you are right in the middle of another document. If it is a supervisor or manager, you are immediately expected to drop what you are doing and provide the item. Yet, if you are working on a difficult document, and ask if they can wait for a few, often you are met with hostility. They may also find fault with you and consider you ineligible for a promotion or raise. Demands that people put on others are sometimes more than they can handle at a given time. Often people need to be considerate and give the other person a chance. If a person is overwhelmed with work, responsibilities, duties, etc. they may not always be able to honor requests in a timely manner. The requester should take that into consideration and not find fault. There are people that are so unhappy that they find fault with everything. They could be at a gourmet restaurant, seated in first class on a plane or train, a designer clothes shop, and still find fault with the food, the accommodations, the clothes, etc. Even if it was all exactly the way they wanted it or liked it, there will be one excuse or another to criticize, complain and find fault. If the heirs of a will or trust continue to find fault with you, visit maecharlesbooks.com and read “Misplaced Trust.” It might just give you the assistance you need.
There are people who wake up every day hoping that they will have a good day, whatever is wrong in their lives will improve, they will receive a promotion or a raise, their medical report will not be bad at their doctor’s appointment or that they will meet the person of their dreams. Hoping makes everyone feel good but it’s not enough if you want to achieve goals. When we were all in high school, we had huge hopes and dreams. The students who turned their dreams into reality were the individuals who applied early to colleges and trade schools. When I was young, many of the girls wanted to work for the major phone company, AT&T. One of my cousins went straight from high school to AT&T and she retried early. Along the way she purchased stock and by the time she was thirty-eight, she had a retirement income and was quite comfortable financially from all of her stock. The teens who applied to a variety of colleges were not only hoping to be accepted at a particular school, but if they weren’t they already had back-ups lined up. Anyone who wakes up hoping for a promotion needs to face reality and start doing whatever it takes in the company they work for to achieve their goal. In many companies if you start at the bottom without any additional education, moving up the corporate ladder can only occur by attending college. Several companies began years ago paying for college tuition and books in an effort to have “home grown” well experienced staff. It’s a smart move. In today’s employment market, particularly in the high tech industries, educated individuals will not even consider a company unless they receive stock options. That topic was discussed on CNBC regarding certain companies. The financial representative was discussing a social media company that was not offering stock options. He said that if the corporation was hoping to retain staff without the stock options that they were living in a dream world. Whenever anyone believes that a medical report will be negative, hoping that the tests were wrong or inaccurate, facing anything negative will only make it worse. If they received bad news, rather than breakdown, the best approach would be to listen to the doctor, get a second opinion and choose an option to get cured. In the Good Gus Series the children are always hoping to do things without landing in trouble. Remember, maecharlesbooks.com will turn hoping your finances will improve into reality with the Money Manager.
Everyone has a special talent. It can be almost anything such as a seamstress or tailor, untrained mechanic, amateur chef, musician or a computer whiz. What affects people are individuals who are well versed in their talent putting down anyone who doesn’t have the same skills. Going through school, many individuals felt out of place and lacked confidence because they did not excel in sports, cheer-leading, were an honor roll student, or possibly an artist. When I was in school, the girls had to take Home Economics. It consisted of a half year of sewing and a half year of cooking. I tried the sewing, but I was not very good. I did feel like a failure when many of the other girls could sew so well. Some girls made remarks and others who were not as talented, feel embarrassed. The cooking classes were easier for me as I had always cooked at home. Again, there were girls much more talented who made the rest of us aware of our lack of ability. I have seen many movies about this in the work place. It appeared to be the worse in advertising agencies. The person with the most talent received the highest pay and the coveted corner office. However, in many of the movies they were not always the most talented. They counted on the people with talent to make them look good. “Working Girl” is a prime example of the person with the talent. Tess McGill, (Melanie Griffith) covers for her boss, had been doing all the excellent work, and was still a lowly secretary until her boss broke her leg. Once Tess was allowed to show the real boss her talent, everything changed for her boss with the broken leg, Katherine Parker, (Sigourney Weaver). Of course, its the movies and Tess receives a raise, a promotion, the coveted corner office and apparently the man of her dreams. The movie “9 to 5” also highlighted the talent of three women who changed a department in a company for the better. However, these women kidnapped their boss and kept him tied up and confined to his home. It is important that whatever talent a person has they should recognize it and not feel bad if they can’t play a musical instrument, cook like a great chef, and design a fabulous outfit. In the Good Gus Series, everyone has a special talent. However, no one is jealous or feels bad because they do not possess any one particular talent.