Everyone has too much stress. There isn’t a person I speak to that doesn’t comment on how difficult everything is. The bombardment of media in our lives is giving us too much stress. What is worse is that half of it contradicts the other half. How do we cope? Everyday there seems to be a new rule about something. The one positive thing is that there is less traffic in many areas. That does cut down on being aggravated. There continual fighting and anger is frustrating. Sometimes I am amazed that people who lived side by side all these years are suddenly attacking each other. It’s shocking now that these people who are referred to as ‘Karen’ seem to feel they can be mean and hurtful to anyone including children. Where did everyone’s manners go? Their parents raised them to be polite and kind yet they now feel they can be abusive and rude. Maybe the parents need the time outs now! The world needs to calm down and find positive solutions rather than take their anger and frustration out on others. We all need a break. Part of the worst of everything right now in the states is that politics are everywhere. People want to talk about it, argue over it, and force their opinions on you. I don’t want to hear it anymore. My response is a polite version of ‘keep your opinions to yourself.’ In the Good Gus series there really isn’t too much stress. The books are online at Kindle with a few at Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is your best choice for understanding about wills and trusts. It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
When people give you a vague response, they usually have something to hide. They don’t want to answer or tell you the truth. It’s the same with the answer, “It’s complicated.” If a person brings up a subject, then explain rather than retort with a vague response. It is really an insult to you. They could just change the subject, flat out say they just don’t want to talk about it, or not mention it to begin with. I saw a video about a woman who left her husband and wouldn’t tell him why. Every time he asked her all she said were words that were vague. He finally received a letter from her after one year telling him she left because she had cancer and didn’t want to burden him. He, of course, tracked her down, and knocked on her door. He asked her why and this time she didn’t give a vague response. She was wearing a scarf as she had lost all of her hair. She told him she knew at that time he might lose his job and she didn’t want to make things worse. He told her he was so devastated that he worked nonstop. In fact, he worked day and night and became the head of the company. He told her he didn’t care if she had only a few hours he wanted to be with her. So you see, it’s stupid to give a vague response. They lost a year together because she felt it was better when in fact they were both miserable. Of course, the video had a happy ending in that she could be cured with an operation that cost over one hundred thousand dollars or Euros. Think before you respond is always best as sometimes the consequences end up hurting another person. In the Good Gus series, Bart Bart did say foolish things. However, everything turns out for the best in the end. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is your guide to estate planning with stories that will convince you to think about setting it up. It is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
When couples say they are just friends, how many of you believe them? I saw a cute story about a mother who visited her son and had dinner. There was a girl living with him and they claimed they were just friends. The mother did not believe it but she played along. She had a nice visit but she felt positive that they were more than just friends. A few days later the mother received an email from the female roommate. She said she enjoyed the visit, and although she was not accusing her, she couldn’t find her silver sugar bowl. The mother said that she didn’t have but since they were just friends she could find the silver sugar bowl on her bed in her room. I loved it. Often you see a couple in a movie that appear to be on a date, but the man or woman categorically states probably to their server, that they are just friends. Whomever didn’t make that response ends up being hurt as they assumed they were on a date. When you take a person to dinner, the natural assumption is that you are on a date. Particularly if you go to a nice restaurant that has dancing. It’s easy to assume almost anything. It’s better to just tell the truth. Apparently, the young man didn’t want his mum to know he had a live in girlfriend. As parents our children should realize we just aren’t that dumb! In the Good Gus series everyone was just friends. There was no dating. It just wouldn’t fit in with the stories. Children have enough to face without their books including real life drama. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is designed as a self help for planning your estate. It is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Taking shortcuts can be fatal. If you decide to ignore directions and take a shortcut you could end up lost or stranded. Frequently, you see articles about people taking shortcuts and ending up stuck in snow storms. The shortcuts are the easy way out, but they often never work out. When you take shortcuts while working, you usually end up doing the work over and spending double the amount of time. Plus, your workmates and your boss may be angry at you for not doing it correctly the first time. Many parents try to find the easy way out. For example, rather than make homemade or semi-homemade meals they buy take away which over time causes gastric issues for their child or children. There are so many products in the grocery that all you have to do is add a few ingredients, cook on the stovetop, bake, or boil and you can have a semi-homemade meal. The freezer section is full of fried foods, pizza, and prepared dinners that are loaded with fats and salt. None of which is good for a child. Taking the extra time to find good products while shopping for food is the best way, healthwise, to go. There are also the people who refuse to work and find ways to collect from the government so they can have medical coverage and never have to find employment. Then they take the shortcuts to make cash without the tax collector knowing. Eventually, though, they do get caught. In “Cory Returns,” Cory heads to Pecos to visit Sheriff Gus. He ends up staying on the trail when his horse is spooked and is wise to not take any shortcuts so Gus can find him. The series is online at Kindle, with a few copies on Nook and Waterstones. If you need a few minutes break from your children, consider my video at https://www.youtube.com/feed/my_videos. I plan to read and record a second book this week. As you know, children love the same stories repeated. “Misplaced Trust” is basically a self-help book to avoid probate. The stories give you a better understanding about protecting your property. It is available at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
What is your net worth? Most people don’t even have ten thousand dollars or Euros in the bank. Money is just paper and the governments print so much of it that it is practically worthless. However, there is another type of net worth. It’s what you believe your value is as a person. Many people are raised to think that they will never do better than their parents, that they can’t possibly own their own business, and they will never achieve great success. Wealthy parents teach their children that money and success are everything and that is what is most important in life. Trying to convince yourself that your net worth is more that you were programmed when you were raised is difficult. You have to believe in yourself and that you will succeed. It does get discouraging when you finish college and look for work when all jobs want previous experience. It’s the old Catch 22. You need the degree to get a job, but once you have it you can’t get the job as you have no experience. It’s not easy. When you think about your net worth, if you are unsure, sit down and write out all your positive attributes. Then you can easily see you are a fabulous person with your own special talents. In the Good Gus series the citizens had about the same net worth financially, but as people they were well above average. The series is online on Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Nothing but despondency awaits people in a nursing home. Some doctors call it a disease. In a way it is because once an older person is left in a nursing home they slowly and steadily become depressed. Frequently, the despondency makes them pass away. Families believe that their parent is getting the best possible care. Good nursing is no substitute for family love and care. When I was young I had to visit my grandmother who was in a home. She could never stand me as she knew I was adopted. I generally played outside while her son visited her. I hated the nursing home as it smelled and was depressing. Hardly any of the residents had visitors. If you think about it, I wonder if the people dying in rest homes from Covid may actually be dying from despondency and the medical staff labeled it that way. There are children who later regret abandoning their parent. I have seen countless videos of this type of situation. One that remains in my mind is about a son who left his mum in the park with a note saying that she was insane and take her to the nearest nursing home. On that same day a policeman observed him leaving his mother and telling her he would be back. Later in the day he saw the woman still sitting on the park bench. He began speaking to her and she told him she was waiting for her son. She didn’t know where he lived or worked. Then she remembered the note her son gave her. The policeman took the woman with him and quickly tracked down her son. As her son left his work, he was waiting with his mum. Of course, the son realized he had committed a terrible act. My point is why do this? We all make mistakes as parents but do we really want to left alone and abandoned? Think about it particularly when it comes to your parents or your time. In the Good Gus series, everyone treated each other with respect and kindness regardless of age. The series is online at Kindle, with a few copies on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is also available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
We set a variety of examples about life which are teaching our children. If we treat our parents poorly, we are teaching our children to do the same. I have seen numerous videos about children ignoring their parents, letting them be homeless, or taking them in and treating them as a servant. They are often cruel to them. Not all parents are decent to their children and many hold grudges. However, if you have a parent you feel obligated to bring into your home, remember, that could be you some day. Here is a short story of a recent video. You should know I tend to embellish the stories. A man’s father’s health was failing and he could not longer live alone. He and his wife, with their young son, took him in. The grandfather was messy and the couple couldn’t take it so they separated him to sit at a small table in the corner of the kitchen. The only gave him food in a wooden bowl or plate. The family ate meals together and ignored him. When the husband or wife spoke to him it was to chastise him for dropping an eating utensil or even a plate. If they glanced over at him they could clearly see he felt very sad, unwanted and lonely. One day the dad walked into the kitchen and his son was playing with pieces of wood on the floor. The dad in a kind tone asked him what he was doing. He explained that he was making a wooden bowl for both of his parents when they were old. This statement floored the dad. He told his wife and they realized they were showing him how to be cruel and insensitive. They immediately removed the little table and threw out the wooden bowl and plate. The grandfather then sat at the family table for every meal and the couple never complained again about his failings again. We should always spend time teaching our children positive ideas, thoughts, actions and behavior. That is really what the Good Gus series offers. It points out the value of kindness, consideration and helping one another. The series is online at Kindle, with only a few offerings on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Have you noticed that people never listen any more? If they are told to wear a mask, they don’t. If they are asked to keep their distance from others they don’t. It doesn’t matter. It looks like people are just too selfish. They want everything their way and they want it NOW! Many countries are spoiled in the western world. We have had a continuous increase in luxuries while many other individuals struggle to escape war zones or even eat. Not everyone lives in luxury or even in a decent manner. Many have to struggle just to get by. For them luxuries consist of food on the table and in the cupboards with clothes to wear and a job. As soon as a person does become successful, they stop paying attention. Even in daily conversations, parents never listen to their children and vice versa. Why? Is their conversation boring? I think it’s more important to find out how your child’s day went even if they are an adult. As teenagers we never listened to our parents. Many teens ended up in trouble, but the ones who paid attention at least half the time did much better. Older people have this problem as well. They tend to dwell on the past and repeat themselves. It’s not a loss of memory it’s more of thinking of good times and trying not to face what their lives have become. In the Good Gus series sometimes the children, particularly the boys, never listen. This, of course, leads to various adventures with them always being sorry they disobeyed. I have contacted an illustrator to start taking the steps to begin “The Christmas Pageant.” It will never be ready for this Christmas, but it’s such a wonderful book, that when Christmas in July rolls around, it should be ready. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” for the end of summer reading might be a good choice. It’s available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
We have all had creepy experiences. I saw a video that reminded me that the exact same thing had happened to me years ago. A young woman’s parents had passed so she was raised by her grandmother. Once she grew up she planned to move out when her grandmother decided to buy her a new home. Of course, the girl was thrilled as it was an amazing gift. The grandmother was able to buy the house at a huge discount as the owners just wanted to move out quickly. It was a large house which easily accommodated any of her girlfriends when they wanted to stay over. The grandmother helped her set everything up but she kept looking over her shoulder. The girl asked her if everything was okay. The grandmother said it felt like someone was watching them although she never saw anyone. Within a few days, things began being moved, food disappeared from her refrigerator and bath towels disappeared. It became so prevalent that she called the police and they couldn’t find anything. Then, things disappeared even more. After a few years, she began hearing sounds on the second floor but could never see anything or anyone. She asked her friend, a male, to stay for a few weeks. One night they were watching a video when her friend heard a sound. He rushed upstairs and there was an older man trying to sneak up to the attic. Her friend tackled him and she called the police. The man was the previous owner and he was obsessed with her house. Not only that, when she called her grandmother and she rushed over she recognized the man. He had been her boyfriend when she was young and when she broke up with him, he kept stalking her until she obtained a restraining order against him. He had been spying on them and following them for a few years. Needless to say he was arrested and put in jail. What happened to me was similar. I had rented an apartment as a sublet. I began to think a few things were odd such as my items being moved, food missing, etc. Finally, one day I came home from work because I was sick and there he was the former tenant sound asleep in my bedroom. I moved within a few days. In the Good Gus series, the only creepy experiences were for Halloween. I never wrote about Halloween as it does bother some children. The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is also available at these fine websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
When most people hear the word forget, their minds automatically go to Alzheimer’s or Dementia. Yet, we always forget things but are not classified with a disease. However there are times in our lives when we do forget the kindness and wonderful things people do for us. For example, yesterday I lifted a large garden type trash bag full of clothes to be donated to a charity. I lifted it out of the trunk and was struggling on the sidewalk. I thought someone would come out and help me. Then, a young man who had tattoos, and piercing walked up to me and asked me if I needed help. I thanked him and told him his mum should be really proud of him. It’s a small thing, but it was a nice gesture which helped me. Often I see stories or videos about young women who become pregnant. Their boyfriends leave them and their families throw them out. Then, after a period of time, they all call back asking her to forgive them. The majority of times the girls say no as they will never forget that when they needed help, they turned their backs on her. I have also seen videos where an adult son or daughter’s spouse decides that they don’t want a parent living with them and force the child to find a home for them. It’s a sad thing to do as the parents generally have helped their children their entire lives, and when it’s their turn, their child turns their back on them because of the pressure from a spouse. Always remember and never forget that through life people do small and even large things for you and you should always appreciate it. My blog, “Doing Chores,” was literally in a video today. I guess more people read my blogs than I thought. In the Good Gus series, everyone understood and knew the importance of never forgetting all the positive everyday life events. The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.