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When things look their worst, don’t despair. There are many old sayings about not giving up.  Sometimes it is difficult to keep going when everything around you keeps falling apart.  Frequently, there are videos on Facebook about men or women and families tossing out a person and letting them live on the streets.  First of all, that is incredibly cruel. What are individuals supposed to do?  Where can they go?  They are suddenly alone and depressed.  They sink into a new low and then as the videos go, a person appears and tells them ‘don’t despair.’ When people are selfish and unkind, how is a person supposed to react?  I think the worst feeling is when you give your heart and soul to a person and not only do they not appreciate it, but they continually demand more money and help from you.  In many of the videos, ungrateful adult children find a way to wipe out their parents and then toss them out.  It’s a difficult world today and it’s not getting any better.  Many people are looking for work because of lack of employment from COVID are having a terrible time.  Telling them, ‘don’t despair’ is almost a slap in the face.  It is easy to be discouraged but it takes strength and courage to face life’s difficulties and move forward.  In the Good Gus series there are obstacles in many stories.  Yet, the characters find a way to solve the issues, fix the problems and go in a positive direction.  The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is easily found on these fine websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Most of us live a glam free life everyday. Celebrities probably do but if they go out being glam free they are photographed and the publicity is upsetting to them.  We all don’t look perfect all the time.  Many people who work at home now wear their loungewear, don’t fix their hair and some don’t even shower regularly. Talk about glam free!  The amazing thing is that the celebrities are frequently unrecognizable when they go out glam free. Without makeup and their hair fixed they look like average people.  Many women dress perfectly everyday and try to be glamorous.  Of course, if you wear makeup everyday it wears down your skin.  Our faces aren’t made to wear it on a daily basis.  I have worked at home for many years and I dress down slightly, but still dress reasonably every day.  Instead of a suit or a dress, I wear nice track pants with a nice shirt. I always fix my hair as well. It’s amazing that glam free also extends to people in public.  How many times have you been to the grocery and seen people in sleep pants and slippers?  The first time I saw that I was in San Diego, California at a smoothie shop.  I was amazed. Many people who work at home now dress the upper half of their person while they sit in their office chair in sleep pants if they have to attend a meeting or speak to someone on Zoom. It probably saves money.  I just think we should all try to look our best everyday.  In the Good Gus series, everyone dressed nicely.  I thought it was important that children see that as a positive example.  The series is online at Kindle, with a few copies on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 

Once you have lost trust from a person, it is almost impossible to get it back.  There are numerous people who betray  people who really care about them, then they have lost something precious. Couples do it all the time to each other. On Facebook videos the characters think nothing of cheating, lying, and betraying their partners.  Once they blow it, then can’t fix it.  The old saying, “You can’t change the past,” is quite true.  You can make amends, but it still doesn’t change anything.  People who are too trusting end up with problems.  They believe  in people and they are always let down.  They could be, for example, the contractor who is making repairs in your home.  He may say things that lead you to believe things are much worse.  However, if you get another opinion, you may realize the first person is wrong.  For example, my family has used the same heating and air conditioning company for years.  We never lost trust in them as we were sure they were doing a good job.  The reality is that they were mistreating us.   Their original installation was put in backwards.  The ducting is falling apart and they put a hole in the roof.  All these years of believing them has now shown my family they were untruthful. I have totally lost trust in their firm. Now I need to find a company that is truthful and guarantees everything and replaces the entire unit.  In the Good Gus series, I never allowed the parents to lose trust in their children.  The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” has everyone who has lost trust in each other. It is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 Life is all consuming. Sometimes we become overwhelmed with all the details.  For many people work is all consuming.  They become so involved that they forget about their families. They believe that by working late they are doing the best job they can for their families.  Sadly, they are not.  If they allow the job to overcome them, they end up with no family, poor health and very few friends.  There are videos all the time on the internet on Facebook about dads and even mums trying to earn money and working late just to please their boss.  In the end, many of the hard working people end up without the promotion, the raise or a corner office because they weren’t savvy enough to play the politics game. They thought that their work would shine and it did.  However, frequently a co-worker would take credit, claim that the employee was part of his or her team, etc.  It’s not fair but that is the real world.  There always needs to be a balance.  Respecting yourself and your family needs to placed above your job. My late husband would become all consuming on the few occasions he made breakfast.  He liked eggs over easy.  However, if it broke, he threw it away.  There were times he would throw out almost a dozen of eggs.  In the Good Gus series, children tend to be all consuming when it comes to playing.  In book twenty, “The Flying Cat,” JC becomes all consumed in rescuing a cat. He even risks himself.  The series is available at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” has characters who have one all consuming goal in mind.  That is to get all the money and cheat everyone else.  The book is available at these fine websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 

Good Gus Books, Children Books, Cowboys  People continually pass judgment on one another.  You see it in everyday life, in movies, on the internet and in public places.  I have never understood this.  What is it that makes people think that it is acceptable?  In the workplace, the workmates pass judgment on a variety of things.  They make remarks about their co-workers clothes, shoes, hair, and overall appearance.  The criticize their food choices particularly if they bring their own food.  I have never been a person to eat take away at the office.  I always brought my lunch.  I really didn’t care what others thought.  While they are so busy passing judgment, they were neglecting their work.  I saw a cute story about a set of twins.  One twin was quite popular and had her own group.  Her sister was quiet and shy.  The popular twin and her friends continually would pass judgment on the shy sister.  They made fun of her clothes and one day even threw a tomato at her dress.  Their mom had passed and the dad heard the two girls arguing one day as the popular twin and her friends had cut up the quiet girl’s dress that she had made for prom.  He said it was about time they knew the real score.  The shy twin was born healthy and vibrant.  The popular twin was failing.  The doctors said there was nothing they could do but a nurse had a better idea.  She put the healthy twin in with her and before long she began to thrive as well.  The dad said, “So you see, your sister saved your life.” After that the popular twin realized the value of her sister.  The next day they went to school together and no one was allowed to pass judgment, criticize or do anything negative to her sister.  A valuable lesson.  Always appreciate people and never pass judgment on anyone.  You could someday be in their shoes.  In the Good Gus series no one was allowed to criticize anyone.  It would have been negative reading and a bad example. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who thought nothing of passing judgment on their benefactors or their shared heirs.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

children's books, Good Gus Books Things tend to go wrong when people are jumping to conclusions.  If they automatically assume the worst, many times they are wrong.  It’s easy jumping to conclusions if you hear or see something but aren’t one hundred percent accurate as to what you heard or witnessessed.  For example, a woman begins snooping on her husband’s phone.  She finds a picture of him with another woman.  She instantly begins jumping to conclusions.  She believes he is cheating on her.  She decides to keep watching his phone to see what happens.  She doesn’t see them kissing only hugging. She begins to become angry and is thinking of leaving him.  Then, one day he comes home with the woman.  She begins to lose her patience and asks why he is bringing her into their home. She continues to rant and he  tries to explain.  He finally forces her to calm down.  He then states, “I would like you to meet my sister.” Naturally, the wife’s face drops and her face turns red.  She is humiliated and embarrassed. She starts apologizing when the sister just steps up and hugs her.  Then, the real story of how they found each other is revealed.  This is a happy ending, but most stories end up unpleasant.  Sadly, the assumptions are often correct and hurtful to the other party. In the Good Gus series jumping to conclusions was only via Bad Bart.  He assumed the negative but Sheriff Gus did the positive. The books are online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is easily accessible at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Many questions can be answered with either a yes or no. When you ask a person a question, the longer they talk the more they avoid the answer.  When you are listening to continual verbiage, you know not only they will not answer what you asked but they will circumvent whatever you asked.  Even if it is through a text, they can speak paragraphs without really saying anything.  The narcissist is really good at not answering and coming up with a variety of lies.  Their only problem is that they cannot always keep their lies straight. It is really true in life about almost anything.  For example, an employee decides to ask for a raise. They are entitled to one as they have worked quite hard and their performance reports state that they are doing an excellent job, always on time and stay late to finish projects.  The boss can easily say yes or not to his question.  Instead, he receives the basic run a round and his question is never answered.  He then walks away wondering what had just happened.  I have seen this in movies, court, the workplace, and even with family members.  You repeatedly ask the same question but never even receive a yes or no answer.  If we start now teaching our children to be truthful the world would be a better place.  In the Good Gus series, particularly in book four, “Johnny the Cat and Bronco Ride that Bull,” the boys skip off to see the rodeo and don’t even answer either their mother or father.  The point of that story was they were disobeying their parents and there were consequences.  The series is available online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Getting a yes or no answer by the characters in “Misplaced Trust” is close to impossible.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Happy Easter everyone! This is the last world holiday for many months. Easter comes in two forms.  One is for the Christians who consider it the end of Lent and a holy day.  The other is simply a family holiday where everyone gets together and feast.  Although this year it is still difficult due to the pandemic.  However you do celebrate it, it should be an enjoyable day.  I saw on Matt Fraser on Facebook, his family making lasagna for the family get together.  If we can be together without becoming sick, it is a good day.  We all need to be reminded that holidays are to share and enjoy.  I did my baking today so I will be ready for tomorrow.  Easter is great for children.  The story of the Easter bunny is fun.  Hiding the eggs, little gifts, etc. are a nice treat for children.  I always gave my children small presents in an Easter basket with candy hid in obvious places.  They would joke about it when they were seven and eight.  It is a day to enjoy each other’s company and friendship.  If you are alone, watch movies that will cheer you tomorrow.  Whatever you do have a wonderful day.  In the Good Gus series I never added the Easter holiday.  The books are still a great gift online or through the website for tomorrow, the end of the school year or just for fun reading.  You can find them at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  I tried to return to the video readings with my former radio company, but COVID ended the business.  “Misplaced Trust” is also available online for your reading pleasure at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 

My daughter posted a sign  on Facebook that said: “Accusations from a narcissist are actually confessions.”  There were comments of people agreeing with this statement one hundred percent.  All narcissists use the same vocabulary and say the same words.  The fact that the sign said that their accusations were confessions is amazing.  If you have ever dealt with a narcissist you would understand. In the media, accusations are an everyday occurance.  They throw them out there and then wait to see what happens.  Sometimes they are denied,  proven to be just false or a new form of accusatory lies appear and the dust settles on the original victim.  This is a staple in politics.  As the politicians compete with one another, they start with all types of accusations.  Often when they are proven false they simply move on to new ones.  If a person doesn’t have proof, they should not say things that are untrue just to hurt another person.  That is really all it amounts to.  The majority of the time it is nothing more than lies.  It even happens in elementary all the way up to high school.  Once the words are spoken, the gossip spreads and before long a student is hurt.  It doesn’t achieve anything.  For the person dealing with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to confront them and solve your issues.  In the Good Gus series Bad Bart was accusatory towards Bob.  However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem and proved that Bad Bart was wrong and that there was a different approach that could solve the problem.  You can easily access the books online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who think nothing of making accusations.  The book would be great for holiday reading.  It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 

        Everyday on Facebook people post and tell others “Don’t give up.” They are nice sayings but the pandemic has taken its toll on the world.  Not to mention, violence is cropping up heavily in the United States and a few European countries.  Large numbers of people have lost their jobs and have no idea when they will be employed again.  Many businesses have closed resulting in fewer positions available. Looking for work is not easy.  Many of the positions available are for lower pay because the companies know individuals are desperate.  It is wrong as there is inflation and everyone has the same bills to pay every month.  Employers should really try to think it through and remember what it was like when they might have been struggling.   All you see on the internet are people who can’t go on and are acting out their aggression on other individuals.  Just the other day, a woman was killed over road rage while she was on an anniversary getaway with her husband. I am sure people are telling him ‘don’t give up.’ Life isn’t easy but if we dwell on everything that is wrong, nothing right will ever happen.  There are videos all the time on Facebook about men and occasionally women, leaving their families. The person left behind always tells themselves, “Don’t give up.”  They make a plan and have the determination to make it without their partner.  In the Good Gus series there were never any stories where people gave up.  The point of the series is to remind children if something goes wrong, there is always a solution.  The books are available online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online for your reading pleasure at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

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