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My daughter posted a sign  on Facebook that said: “Accusations from a narcissist are actually confessions.”  There were comments of people agreeing with this statement one hundred percent.  All narcissists use the same vocabulary and say the same words.  The fact that the sign said that their accusations were confessions is amazing.  If you have ever dealt with a narcissist you would understand. In the media, accusations are an everyday occurance.  They throw them out there and then wait to see what happens.  Sometimes they are denied,  proven to be just false or a new form of accusatory lies appear and the dust settles on the original victim.  This is a staple in politics.  As the politicians compete with one another, they start with all types of accusations.  Often when they are proven false they simply move on to new ones.  If a person doesn’t have proof, they should not say things that are untrue just to hurt another person.  That is really all it amounts to.  The majority of the time it is nothing more than lies.  It even happens in elementary all the way up to high school.  Once the words are spoken, the gossip spreads and before long a student is hurt.  It doesn’t achieve anything.  For the person dealing with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to confront them and solve your issues.  In the Good Gus series Bad Bart was accusatory towards Bob.  However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem and proved that Bad Bart was wrong and that there was a different approach that could solve the problem.  You can easily access the books online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who think nothing of making accusations.  The book would be great for holiday reading.  It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 

 Everyday in the news or on the internet there are countless people behaving in an accusatory manner.  It’s becoming tiring.  What makes people believe they should act this way?  Frequently, their accusatory remarks are based on lies, innuendos, and their opinions.  In western countries, particularly the United States, it appears to be never ending. Individuals of various ethnicities feel that they can act any way they choose without any regard to manners, if they are behaving appropriately, or in any type of reasonable acceptable manner.  I was in a warehouse type store today to purchase my Pellegrino, organic sugar, and bath tissue. It was my first time in this store so I was walking slowly checking each aisle.  I came upon a man, from another country, who was yelling quite loudly at a woman who was at the end of the row where he was waiting with his trolley.  It was evident that he was impatient.  Even in another language, it was obvious he was being extremely rude.  As I passed by he gave me a nasty look.  When I began passing the next row, an employee of this warehouse asked me what was happening.  I explained that a man was yelling at a woman and quite rudely at that.  She stopped what she was doing and then there was quiet!  This is just one example of how people are being abusive, accusatory, rude and inconsiderate.  In the Good Gus series, there were a few accusatory remarks by Bad Bart in book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart.” He was demanding chocolate ice cream and accusing Bob of not having any.  Even though Bob explained the delivery had not arrived, Bad Bart was not accepting his answer.  It took the calm, cool Sheriff Gus to diffuse the situation in a positive way.  The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  Accusatory remarks are a daily occurance for the characters in “Misplaced Trust.”  This is the most interesting and best self help guide you will find to help you do an estate plan.  The book is online at: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

When allegations are made, there should always be proof. Often people make false allegations which cause the destruction of other people’s lives. The social media is known for making false accusations.  When people say negative words that are accusatory, they rarely have the proof.  The rumors fly and often when people repeat the same lies it almost becomes a fact.  It is wrong on so many levels.  It’s clear that people often do it because of jealousy.  The green eyed monster can quickly destroy a person.  If you think back when you were in school, and today for your own children and grandchildren, nothing much has changed.  A girl or boy might become envious of another person.  Rather than let go of a situation, they will let the jealousy fester until they do irreparable harm to the other individual.  It is often a plot of many TV shows particularly ones that include school aged children.  The story lines allow the bad behavior and show the bullying side of individuals.  They don’t write the scripts to include a solution except a negative one.  Part of the reasoning behind “Pecos Meets Bad Bart” was that bad behavior and bullying had to be addressed and resolved without anger, jealousy, fighting, or any type of violence.  The world could take a lesson in solving its problems with real conversations and less jealousy.  Allegations are not in a single story line in the Good Gus series.  It would have been a bad example to the young readers.  While their minds are eager to learn, teaching them to do the right thing is more important that super heroes, fairies, and unreal types of characters who act inappropriately.  Always available on Kindle, the series offers an alternate choice for parents in the books their children read.  Allegations fly fast and furiously in “Misplaced Trust.”  When money is involved, it’s fairly easy.  You can find the book at these websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

factsfalsely accused People often accuse others of wrong doings without any real hard evidence or facts. If an individual plans to accuse someone of an act, they should be sure of all their facts before they do. Many times, based on improper assumptions, people will make an accusation without thinking it through. Often it ends up, if they are wrong, the the person accused will no longer speak to their accuser. There are a number of people in jails in the United States because they were accused of despicable acts, and later with the law students studying their cases have helped many individuals be released from prison because they were truly innocent. I saw a show that is a series on the Hallmark Channel where a man was in the wrong place at the wrong time. The actual criminal who killed his uncle so he could take over his business, was in the park that day and brushed up against the innocent man. He stole his wallet and then hid it in some bushes so the innocent man couldn’t find it. The best part for the criminal was that the innocent man had similar features and the same color hair as the murderer. The government did accuse and try the innocent man and he was put in jail. Through an unexpected development a Postal person discovered that there were pictures of the day the man had spent in the park. Once they discovered a photograph showing the other man, it was cut and dry and the innocent man was released. The prosecutor as well as the defending lawyer didn’t do any research and based the innocent man’s guilt solely on his lost wallet. As children I am sure all of us had our fair share of being accused for something we didn’t do and then punished.  It made it easier to lie rather than be honest when telling the truth only gave punishment.  Most parents today check their facts before making accusations.  Its a better way to be a parent.  There are also co-workers who will accuse another person of an event that was clearly their fault.  Often the innocent person cannot prove they didn’t do it and end up being sacked.  I also did not include any characters making false accusations against any individual in the Good Gus Series.  Its difficult in life for children without reading negative things that happen in their lives.

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