My daughter posted a sign on Facebook that said: “Accusations from a narcissist are actually confessions.” There were comments of people agreeing with this statement one hundred percent. All narcissists use the same vocabulary and say the same words. The fact that the sign said that their accusations were confessions is amazing. If you have ever dealt with a narcissist you would understand. In the media, accusations are an everyday occurance. They throw them out there and then wait to see what happens. Sometimes they are denied, proven to be just false or a new form of accusatory lies appear and the dust settles on the original victim. This is a staple in politics. As the politicians compete with one another, they start with all types of accusations. Often when they are proven false they simply move on to new ones. If a person doesn’t have proof, they should not say things that are untrue just to hurt another person. That is really all it amounts to. The majority of the time it is nothing more than lies. It even happens in elementary all the way up to high school. Once the words are spoken, the gossip spreads and before long a student is hurt. It doesn’t achieve anything. For the person dealing with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to confront them and solve your issues. In the Good Gus series Bad Bart was accusatory towards Bob. However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem and proved that Bad Bart was wrong and that there was a different approach that could solve the problem. You can easily access the books online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who think nothing of making accusations. The book would be great for holiday reading. It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Now that the United States is under full swing for politics, so are the online attacks. There is one politician in particular, running for the presidency, that has been encouraging online attacks. This same man years ago encouraged violence. He breezes on and yet no one is stopping him or his supporters. Political fights are nasty regardless of the country, yet somehow they are much worse in the states. Online attacks are also a famous technique for bullies. They hide behind false names and go after other individuals. This event occurs in elementary, junior and high school. It is also quite prevalent in colleges and universities. The insatiable need for inferior individuals to raise themselves up emotionally while performing online attacks on others is serious. In the schools, children have ended their lives because of the cruelty. Anyone who encourages violence should not even be allowed on any social media or public platforms regardless of the country. We should be able to live happy lives without the failures trying to hurt us and make us fail. Do you ever wonder how they feel when they have bullied someone so much or political rallies end in violence with accompanying injuries and possible death? Obviously, they have no conscious. There was an old song entitled, “Where have all the flowers gone?” It should be renamed “Where have all the morals, ethics, and decency gone?” In the Good Gus series, the importance of all stories was good morals and values. There was a little bullying from Bad Bart in book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart.” However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem logically and without any type of violence. The series is online at Nook, Kindle, and Waterstones with hard copies at the UPS Store, Tierrasanta, California. “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
There is a difference between ignorant and stupid. Many people confuse the words. An ignorant person is lacking in training or knowledge. A stupid person doesn’t have the capability of understanding sometimes even the basics. They have had a poor education or were lazy in school. In any event, when you deal with people on a daily basis do you begin to wonder if they have any brains at all? I have been dealing with an insurance company and am on my fifth person. Do I feel as if they are all stupid? Yes, I do. Let me explain it to you my wonderful readers. I know you will understand. I paid on a monthly basis small payments for my son’s motorcycle. I paid from October of last year to August of this year. A new bill came in for the following year which I paid in full. Every single person I spoke to could not comprehend that I had paid for 2018 to 2019 and that the new amount was for 2019 to 2020. It’s simple isn’t it? One or more of these people were rude. I seriously wanted to tell them to go back to elementary school and learn basic math. It’s a case of simple addition. Ignorant, no! Stupid, yes! I know this sounds insulting but I have spent on each call a minimum of thirty plus minutes. It is a waste of my time. Thank you for reading and letting me vent! The citizens of Pecos were neither ignorant or stupid. One of the stories of the series, not yet published, is entitled, “The New Library.” I wanted the young readers to see how much everyone in Pecos valued education. The series is online at Kindle, Waterstones and Nook. Hard copies are at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California. Many of the characters in “Misplaced Trust” were stupid. For a different read it is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Bookworm is a word you seldom hear. It was even considered an insult during certain decades. However, being a bookworm today seems almost unrealistic because of all the technology. Reading is wonderful and relaxing. It stimulates the mind and gives it a rest from the daily grind of life. Many people fail to realize that reading improves your ‘vocabulary, reasoning, concentration, empathy, social perception and emotional intelligence.’ Research from the Yale School of Public Health showed that reading a book for thirty minutes a day can increase your lifespan by two years. The University of Sussex in England discovered that being a bookworm helps reduce stress, and helps relieve your mind from your daily worries. Their study showed that just six minutes a day reduced stress levels by 68%. That is significant. It also keeps a person’s brain active which helps with cognitive decline. Did you know that according to Steven Coughlin of Augusta University, that about one-third of the adults in the U.S. struggle to understand health information? In elementary school we learned to read. It was truly a gift. Being a bookworm and letting your mind and imagination wander while reading can allow you to travel to places you hope to visit but may never have the opportunity. It can give you insight into understanding others as well. Start the reading habit and become a bookworm. By reading to your children or grandchildren or just reading in front of them gives them a fine example. The Good Gus series is a great place to start to read to your children. The stories are unique and not like the other books available on the marketplace today. Available online at Kindle, and at the website, you can start your child or grandchild on the road to becoming a bookworm. If you are looking for a different style of book, “Misplaced Trust” can start your new reading habit as a bookworm. It might give you the incentive to find other books online. It is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Everyday children go to school and dread the school bully. It’s not just elementary, or high school, it also happens in college. Have you ever wondered why some children start out bullying and then continue throughout their entire lives? There are obviously psychological issues that began at an early age. They may have had a parent or parents, relatives, or even neighbors who started treating them disrespectfully and since they couldn’t fight back they took it out on others. When my son was in preschool, we lived in a small town. He had two friends, a boy and a girl. The girl was harassed even at the age of four by a school bully. The reason was simple. She wore glasses. It never mattered to my son or his friend, but it affected her. It probably helped that she had two friends who liked her just the way she was. When they started elementary school, there were different school bullies picking on her again for the same reason. She was a very bright girl, yet her family felt she didn’t speak up in class enough so as to give the appearance of not being very smart. What is interesting is that school that they both attended had a Readiness Program that was administered by the staff. Their other chum had moved as his dad was transferred. What I discovered was truly shocking. The principal and first grade teacher chose out children they felt should be moved to the next grade at the beginning of the school year. I am not sure how they were chosen. It could have been political possibly the parents contributed to the school or were volunteers. In any event, both children were not really taught to read, any math, and in general were allowed to play while the favored children were given specialized lessons. If I hadn’t taught my son to read, drilled him in math, familiarized him with a minimum of history, geography, good grammar, etc. he would have been forced to repeat the first grade. I found this out from my son when I began asking what he did each day in school. It appeared to be that the staff was actually a school bully to the children that they had decided arbitrarily were not qualified. It also could have been that they wanted to guarantee seating for reimbursement by the government as it was a public school. Unfortunately, the girl’s dad did keep her back and she suffered from it in many ways. At the end of the first half of the year, we moved to a temperate climate as his father had too many health issues. This becomes quite interesting. I explained to his teacher that he didn’t read that well. We both figured out that he loved being read to and therefore showed no inclination to read. Yet when he took his academic testing, he scored quite highly. His teacher was impressed with his reading skills. By the way, today he is an avid reader and prefers it to watching television.The school bully is present in all levels of schooling. Many administrative personnel have a real unacceptable attitude towards the students. They push them around and make things very difficult. They are no different that the playground school bully. In the Good Gus Series the only bully was Bad Bart. However, Sheriff Gus turned him around and refused to allow his behavior to affect the citizens of Pecos. The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide. If the relatives, your family or even a few friends who are part of a will, estate or trust are trying to bully you, remember you were chosen to be in charge. Get a few tips from “Misplaced Trust” which is available on line at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd and Tolino.
When I was going to school it was important to be a good citizen. As students, a grade on our report card was actually entitled, “Good Citizenship.” We were taught to respect everyone, to speak respectfully in all conversations including those with our fellow students, and to follow the rules of the government and anyone in authority. In many countries, including the United States, being a good citizen went out the window during the Hippie Era. Its interesting that now, when a person exposes the wrongs doings, a/k/a a whistle blower, particularly in the government, they are considered at least half the time to be a traitor. The other half they are a good citizen, but often have to be protected. I recently saw an old show about being a good citizen. The dad was trying to instill good behavior by making his children understand they should have good citizenship not only at home, but in every day life. One of the children came across what would probably have been considered a homeless man trying to find work. She went into her father’s closet and took one of his best suits. The parents could not find his suit and it never occurred to ask their child if she had taken it. When they finally figured it out, they were furious with her. However, what could they say. She had listened and tried to be a good citizen. The dad felt even worse when a few days later, the homeless man, in the dad’s suit, knocked on his door to thank him. He said the suit helped him obtain a job. Then, of course, the dad was ashamed. He was basically saying to his children, “Do what I say, not what I do.” We also had Civics classes in high school which impressed upon all students to become good citizens. The classes, I admit, were boring, primarily because it was the same data we had learned in elementary school. There were no grades for behavior. If you acted out, it was simple: detention or suspension. I am not sure what the meaning of being a good citizen today is, do you? The characters in the Good Gus Series, except for Bad Bart initially, were all good citizens. As school approaches, think about the fall reading list for the young child or children in your life. The series is an ideal choice.
Expecting is an interesting word. It has a few definitions. Many times women who are pregnant say that they are expecting. Expecting a good grade or passing a test is automatic. When we attend a meeting we expect certain results. If the meeting fails to resolve whatever problems or goals everyone is expecting, then its considered a failure. Children are always expecting good things and positive results. As parents we are always expecting more from our children. For example, if a child is in a school play, the parents want their child to be in the lead as do all the other parents. When their child is chosen for the lead, their expectations of greatness from their child soars. If, particularly in the lower grades of school, their child is the lead part with no words and wears an animal costume, their hopes are dashed. They are expecting their child to also be disappointed and when the child isn’t, they are crushed. If a child is participating in a school activity with his or her classmates, it doesn’t matter what the parent is expecting as long as the child is confident and happy about their part in a play. I have seen many parents fall apart when they were expecting their child to score 2300 in the SAT’s and instead only made it to 1800. I just saw a comedy show last week about two couples. A man had been in the right place at the right time and just missed being crushed by something falling from a building. He decided he was going to ask his girlfriend to marry him after his life had passed before him. Well, he told his co-worker who couldn’t keep from telling his wife which was also the sister of the girlfriend with the close to near death experience. She in turn slipped with the news to her sister and mother. When they all went out to dinner, the husband kept giving the co-worker looks about when he was going to pop the question. Then when the ladies left for the restroom, Mr. near death told his friend he had changed his mind. Now, everyone who was expecting a proposal was disappointed. In the end, the almost fiance’ decided that it was too much pressure. At work, there are bosses,managers, and supervisors who expect too much from their employees. They also seem to pay a lower wage expecting the people to remain in their jobs. When Bart Bart rode into Pecos he was expecting a nice chocolate ice cream cone. When Bob’s Sweet Shop was out of chocolate, Bad Bart turned into a bully. Not all people expecting something a certain way do that. You can be disappointed but not act inappropriately.
Graduation is generally a joyous time for anyone whether it is day care, grammar school, high school, college, or trade school. Many people look forward to graduation as it marks a new plateau of achievement and the road to success. When I was young there was only one graduation; high school, which meant that you moved on to college or a trade school. Today, there are graduations from elementary school on up. I loved my children’s graduation from Kindergarten. The next graduation was sixth grade. After that it was high school and then finally college. When I graduated high school there were many girls who were sad to leave a familiar life style. They didn’t want to travel away to college. They preferred to attend local colleges to remain near their families. Today, children want to travel to new and exciting places and study. Many children, including my son, studied in Europe. My daughter liked the local college. It’s exciting and sad for us as parents or guardians to watch them grow up. We worry about the challenges they will face and their ability to handle a variety of situations. In the end, though, when they show you their degree, certificate or diploma, our pride exceeds all of our worries and fears. There are no graduations in the Good Gus Series as the books are designed for young children. The real Gus will graduate in May with – you guessed it – a degree in journalism. I hope as your younger children and even the older ones become excited about graduation, you will have as much fun as they plan to. I do think the younger children like the food and party more! So remember to put on your list of gifts a book from the Good Gus Series for all the younger children at graduation time.
When we started school, we were first exposed to the grading system. The report card was everything. When I was in school the grading system was based on your abilities. Sometimes I believe the teachers gave slightly better grades because you put forth the effort. I also think that if they didn’t like you, it was reflected in your report card. Movies and TV shows have had plots with children in fear of bad grades on their report cards. I was surprised in elementary school, when my daughter received lower grades on her report card even though she did very well in school. Her friend, who was classed as a minority, whom my daughter continually tutored, received higher grades. I later learned that the grading system was different and based upon ethnicity. As children moved onto high school, it was not only all about the report card but the SAT’s. There has been much debate over the years about the grading systems in schools everywhere. The SAT’s have endured much controversy. It was discussed in the news, school debates, Parent Teacher Meeting, etc. about the validity of the SAT’s. It was felt many years ago that the SAT’s were geared to middle class, private school students. Any young adult who wasn’t in that category failed the SAT’s. There was constant discussion that the grading system had to be modified to be applicable to all students whether rich or poor, and tests that the average student could pass regardless of their background. It is my opinion that if you are going to require SAT’s for college, make them available to everyone and ensure that the tests are based on the high school education of all. It is up to the student whether they pass or fail based on their studying efforts. In the old west there were not SAT’s. If you had the money and ability, you were able to attend a school of higher learning. I hope as you consider an Easter gift for the child or children in your life, you will choose a book from the Good Gus Series.