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children's books, Good Gus Books Things tend to go wrong when people are jumping to conclusions.  If they automatically assume the worst, many times they are wrong.  It’s easy jumping to conclusions if you hear or see something but aren’t one hundred percent accurate as to what you heard or witnessessed.  For example, a woman begins snooping on her husband’s phone.  She finds a picture of him with another woman.  She instantly begins jumping to conclusions.  She believes he is cheating on her.  She decides to keep watching his phone to see what happens.  She doesn’t see them kissing only hugging. She begins to become angry and is thinking of leaving him.  Then, one day he comes home with the woman.  She begins to lose her patience and asks why he is bringing her into their home. She continues to rant and he  tries to explain.  He finally forces her to calm down.  He then states, “I would like you to meet my sister.” Naturally, the wife’s face drops and her face turns red.  She is humiliated and embarrassed. She starts apologizing when the sister just steps up and hugs her.  Then, the real story of how they found each other is revealed.  This is a happy ending, but most stories end up unpleasant.  Sadly, the assumptions are often correct and hurtful to the other party. In the Good Gus series jumping to conclusions was only via Bad Bart.  He assumed the negative but Sheriff Gus did the positive. The books are online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is easily accessible at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Words matter even when people don’t think that they do.  They can be hurtful and insulting.  If people are in an argument they continually claim that they didn’t mean what they said.  However, if they thought it, said it,  they meant it.  Words matter as they are a reflection of your thoughts.  If you hide anger against another person and then say terrible things, reversing yourself is a lie.  You spoke those nasty words, expressed your innermost thoughts, and now to say well you didn’t is a lie.  Why do people believe that you can say anything and then use the excuse, “Well I didn’t really mean that.”  The trouble with people when they disagree is that their innermost thoughts are revealed.  Regretabley, they can’t be changed.  No one is perfect but if you are involved in an argument, consider your words before speaking.  Once they have been uttered they can’t be taken back.  Many people believe that just because they are words and not tangible that whatever they say can be removed, erased, changed or even ignored.  That is never the case.  Parents say cruel words to their children and vice versa.  The divorce rate may be so high because when couples fight they forget that words matter.  Everything is relevant, it’s just how you use it.  I chose the words carefully in the Good Gus series.  It’s available online at Kindle, Waterstones, Nook with hard copies at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” clearly has chapters where individuals believe that words do not matter.  It’s available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

When we speak we often fail to recognize that words have consequences.  If people are arguing, they forget that their words have consequences.  If they say mean or nasty phrases, raise their voices, criticize, insult, or make inflammatory remarks, they are hurtful towards the other person.  Look at the political arena in the United States.  People say all types of things and make accusations that frequently are false.  Yet, the news, internet, TV and radio stations repeat it.  They don’t seem to check their sources any more to see if what they are saying or printing is true.  Often these unsuitable conversations leave permanent scars, particularly on young children.  If a parent tells their child they are stupid, a failure, unattractive, overweight, or that they will never succeed, what do you think happens to those children?  They grow up feeling inferior, unloved, unwanted, unappreciated and in general they frequently become the bullies of the world.  If we think before we speak, then our words can have positive consequences, rather than lasting negativity.  There are children who mature and realize they were treated poorly and put forth the effort to change.  Many use therapy as a way of changing into positive happy people.  So, remember, the next time you may say an insult or criticize a person, think before you speak.  Make  sure your words that you speak  are positive .  The church bazaar was a huge success for Miss Patty today.  Remember it is the Garden Grove Catholic Church in Kearney Mesa, California.  Miss Patty will have a table again tomorrow after the masses.  As it is hot everywhere it seems, keep the kids indoors with their tablets and offer the Good Gus series for their entertainment.  It is available on Kindle, Waterstones and the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” is available for you at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

There are often people in life who pretend to be your friend but in reality they are nothing more than a phony.  As children we learn early on who a phony is and we avoid them.  However, even as children adults who are a phony can trick us.  That is one of the reasons there is high abuse among children as they cannot tell the difference.  If they are tricked it will cloud their judgement as they mature.  They will find it difficult to distinguish the difference.  On “American Housewife” obviously a TV show in the U.S., her son has a friend who is rich but tends to be a phony.  In the most recent episode, the mother (Katy Nixon) was teaching him how to become a down to earth person and stop flaunting his parents money.  It is very disappointing as adults to realize a person you may really like is a phony.  If it is a best friend or a family member it is extremely difficult to handle.  Over time, though we all learn.  If it is a person you are in a relationship with, it can hurt almost as much.  When you learn he or she is not real, it can take time to adjust to the situation.  We all know one or two people who are phonies but they never existed in the Good Gus series.  Remember it is an ideal Easter gift and is available on Kindle worldwide.  If you are tired of anyone in your life who is a phony, it is better to face who they are and then move on.  As you recover, reading is always an ideal escape.  “Misplaced Trust” is a good start and is always available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

In 2004, a Movie entitled “Mean Girls” was released starring Lindsay Lohan. It was aimed at how cruel teenage girls can be. However, they should release a new movie about mean girls for the younger set.  My little three year old granddaughter has encountered mean girls much to my shock and disbelief.  If I didn’t witness it with my own eyes, I would have never believed it.  What is worse is that it appears to be condoned by their mother.  The children are newly introduced to the United States.  I find it difficult to understand that this behavior is tolerated in other countries.  At first glance it seems that it’s just children playing.  However, when you are there you can actually see what is going on.  The older girls, who are not teenagers yet, have mastered the art.  For example, all the children are playing and then they decide to go inside their home.  As my granddaughter follows them, they slam the door in her face.  Then they make faces at her through he window where she can see them.  Once she gives up and walks away, they open the door just enough so she can see them and then as she runs back they slam it again in her face.  I never thought that a four year old would be a mean girl so early.  When all the girls are together and my granddaughter walks over to play they tell her to go away. It’s quite hurtful.  Many of us have experienced this type of unkind behavior, it’s common.  However, as we matured we possibly forgot that mean girls started at an early age.  In the Good Gus series, there were no mean girls.  In the old show, “Little House on the Prairie” had a girl who was spoiled and cruel.  It gave the example to the Ingalls’ girls not to act that way.  Kindle is always available for your child’s reading pleasure.  If you remember the mean girls in your life or you need a refresher as to their behavior, “Misplaced Trust” can show you  several examples.  The series is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd and Tolino.

Whenever individuals quarrel often the loser of the argument resorts to name calling.  They cannot win the argument with logic or facts, so they start by using insults.  The sad part about any quarrel is that people say hurtful words that can never be taken back.  If you point it out to them, they almost seem to accelerate the abusive words.  What I find amazing is that I know a person who is dying from cancer.  Yet, whenever he is having a quarrel with me, when he becomes annoyed he begins by attacking my ethnicity.  There are many groups around the globe who feel their ethnicity should never be spoken about and in some countries it has even been outlawed.  However, people will continue to make disparaging remarks, criticize and use whatever words are in their arsenal to attack another person to be hurtful in any way possible.  What do they get out of it?  Does it make them feel superior?  They should feel inferior as they appear not to have enough vocabulary to win any argument or quarrel.  In the BBC show, “Vexed,” in the first season the female character is in an episode with her husband in therapy.  As it progresses, he lashes out to her and basically tells her how awful she is and he can’t even stand the sound of her breathing.  Obviously, she was taken aback.  He did attack her and said horrible things.  He seemed to feel good afterwards, while she sat there in shock.  Even in the political arena, the name calling, abusive language, and as many insults as they can possibly hurl at any given moment seems to be acceptable when it really should not exist.  What is the end result of all this?  It boils down to continued anger, possibly more quarreling, arguments, hurt feelings and absolutely NO resolution whatsoever.  Maybe the next tine some hurls insults to you or attacks your ethnicity, suggest that they return to grammar school and learn vocabulary.  In the Good Gus Series, the only person who liked to quarrel was Bad Bart, in book one.  The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide.  If you have relatives who love to quarrel with you, try not to speak to them and take a break and read “Misplaced Trust.”  It is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

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