My daughter posted a sign on Facebook that said: “Accusations from a narcissist are actually confessions.” There were comments of people agreeing with this statement one hundred percent. All narcissists use the same vocabulary and say the same words. The fact that the sign said that their accusations were confessions is amazing. If you have ever dealt with a narcissist you would understand. In the media, accusations are an everyday occurance. They throw them out there and then wait to see what happens. Sometimes they are denied, proven to be just false or a new form of accusatory lies appear and the dust settles on the original victim. This is a staple in politics. As the politicians compete with one another, they start with all types of accusations. Often when they are proven false they simply move on to new ones. If a person doesn’t have proof, they should not say things that are untrue just to hurt another person. That is really all it amounts to. The majority of the time it is nothing more than lies. It even happens in elementary all the way up to high school. Once the words are spoken, the gossip spreads and before long a student is hurt. It doesn’t achieve anything. For the person dealing with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to confront them and solve your issues. In the Good Gus series Bad Bart was accusatory towards Bob. However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem and proved that Bad Bart was wrong and that there was a different approach that could solve the problem. You can easily access the books online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who think nothing of making accusations. The book would be great for holiday reading. It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Everyday in the news or on the internet there are countless people behaving in an accusatory manner. It’s becoming tiring. What makes people believe they should act this way? Frequently, their accusatory remarks are based on lies, innuendos, and their opinions. In western countries, particularly the United States, it appears to be never ending. Individuals of various ethnicities feel that they can act any way they choose without any regard to manners, if they are behaving appropriately, or in any type of reasonable acceptable manner. I was in a warehouse type store today to purchase my Pellegrino, organic sugar, and bath tissue. It was my first time in this store so I was walking slowly checking each aisle. I came upon a man, from another country, who was yelling quite loudly at a woman who was at the end of the row where he was waiting with his trolley. It was evident that he was impatient. Even in another language, it was obvious he was being extremely rude. As I passed by he gave me a nasty look. When I began passing the next row, an employee of this warehouse asked me what was happening. I explained that a man was yelling at a woman and quite rudely at that. She stopped what she was doing and then there was quiet! This is just one example of how people are being abusive, accusatory, rude and inconsiderate. In the Good Gus series, there were a few accusatory remarks by Bad Bart in book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart.” He was demanding chocolate ice cream and accusing Bob of not having any. Even though Bob explained the delivery had not arrived, Bad Bart was not accepting his answer. It took the calm, cool Sheriff Gus to diffuse the situation in a positive way. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Accusatory remarks are a daily occurance for the characters in “Misplaced Trust.” This is the most interesting and best self help guide you will find to help you do an estate plan. The book is online at: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
As if everyday bullying wasn’t bad enough, we now have to contend with the cyberbully. One of the worst things about a cyberbully is that they can remain anonymous. They can hide behind fake names, phony IP addresses and even use certain websites. I would think that most decent human beings would consider the cyberbully to be the worst. They can pick on anyone without the individual knowing who or why. Social media today is full of just that type of behavior. Today there was an article about a girl who was not only bullied but also cyber bullied all because she had an overbite. Seriously, do these people have nothing better to do? Why are they sitting in front of a computer screen attacking others while trying to make themselves feel better and raise their self esteem. The reality is that underneath it all they know they are nothing and no matter how much they hurt others they can’t feel good about who they really are underneath. Almost every day on the internet famous people are being criticized for something. Usually it is their appearance. These people have no lives. They need to escape from their computers and do something positive such as volunteer or help a neighbor in need. Then, they might feel a little better about the type of people they are and raise their self esteem. In the Good Gus series, available on Kindle, there was no technology so hence no cyberbully. In book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart,” it appears that Bart is trying to bully Bob at the Sweet Shop because he was out of chocolate ice cream. However, as the story progresses it gives the young reader a chance to see how a negative situation can be turned around without violence, harsh words, and bad behavior. “Misplaced Trust” doesn’t really have any cyber bullies. It does, however, have people who try to bully other characters. The book is available at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Someone posted on Facebook recently, “Who will I offend today?” It seems wherever your turn someone is offended by something. It all seems so petty and trivial. The internet spends a great deal of effort posting articles about people being offended by other’s remarks, mommy shaming, insults to celebrities, the royal families, etc. Are their lives so empty that they have to find ways to make themselves appear important? As children we were often offended but we were little and didn’t understand. It was childish and still remains true today. Don’t you find it petty and small minded? The best part about the offended people is that they always find someone else to blame. A Buddhist Monk, a religious sect that prides themselves on peace, beat and killed a nine year old boy because he was annoyed and offended by his behavior. That was shocking that people are going so far. He was a child acting out. He wasn’t hurting anyone or saying anything negative. He was just being a boy. What is wrong with a person’s mind to take things to that extreme? The sad part is that you read about this behavior everyday. Maybe people should stop being so self absorbed and focus on the good in the world and be more helpful to the less fortunate. In the Good Gus series, available on Kindle, Bob at the sweet shop was offended by Bad Bart’s behavior, but he was also trying to bully him. Bob, however, rather than resort to violence tried to appease Bart and give him other options. That is one of the reason so many parents and children love book one is because it gives the children a chance to see a problem resolved without yelling, screaming and violence. If you think any characters in “Misplaced Trust” are offended by almost everyone else, you would be correct. The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Why do most of the plots in movies involve a misunderstanding? Is it because it creates drama? Often they are so simple that you can figure it out fairly quickly. Sometimes people take a misunderstanding too far. They tend to take something small and insignificant and blow it out of proportion. Then it escalates and anger ensues, hurt feelings and worse. A misunderstanding at a bar leads to fighting, possibly jail, and injuries. The alcohol compounds the problem but it tends to explode. How many movies have you seen where a girl is waiting for her boyfriend and another fellow starts talking to her? The later the boyfriend is the longer they speak and sip drinks. Once he arrives, he sees them, assumes the worst and then it turns ugly. Even though it wasn’t really anything except a simple misunderstanding, people seem to over react and then allow their emotions to run wild. If they took a few minutes, didn’t assume, and allow the other parties to speak, then there wouldn’t be a misunderstanding or any issue. Remaining calm helps just as in the Good Gus series, in book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart.” Sheriff Gus assessed the situation. As Bad Bart’s temper and voice raised, he spoke in an even tone and made it clear that the problem could be solved. Rather than resort to violence or name calling, Sheriff Gus came up with a plan to satisfy Bad Bart. It was easy but Bad Bart misunderstood and took out his frustration and anger on Bob at the sweet shop. Available on Kindle, the series is a good starter for young readers. “Misplaced Trust” is full of people misunderstanding everything. They take their anger, greed and frustrations out on the person available. Each chapter is unique in that it gives the adult reader an idea of how people really behave, related or not, when money is involved. It is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
One of the favorite tactics of a bully is to intimidate. All day I was bothered about an article on the internet today about a teenage girl who was bullied in Franklin, Tennessee. She has a skin condition which causes her to have dry scalp and her hair to break. In order to feel beautiful at age sixteen, she started wearing wigs. Apparently a few teenage boys made a bet for five dollars to see who would snatch the wig off her head. Their stunt did intimate the lovely girl so much so that she rang her mother crying and begged her to collect her at school. Her mother was furious over the bullying actions and immediately reported the incident to the school. She then posted it on Facebook to get the word out that boys who wish to intimidate should be brought into the public eye. They should be ashamed and their parents should be notified about their behavior. To top if off, the boys are a little old for that type of behavior. I don’t think they would like it if a group of girls decided to intimidate them. People who behave that way can’t stand it to happen to them plus they would probably cry like a baby quite unmanly. In the Good Gus series the only person who tried to intimidate was Bad Bart to Bob at the sweet shop. Sheriff Gus made him aware of his bullying and Bart didn’t like it when the townspeople thought he was acting like a baby. You can hear this story on YouTube at Mae’s Story Time or purchase the series online at Kindle worldwide. If you have had a day of intimidation, don’t allow it to ruin your life. Learn how to deal with bullies and when you need a quick read “Misplaced Trust” is always available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Many people shy away from conflict because they simply can’t deal with it. There are individuals who are very harsh during any type of conflict which makes it even more difficult for the shy, quiet reserved type of individual. Unfortunately, conflict has been used in wars as a definition when it was exactly what they were, wars, not just a few people standing around with weapons fighting. When people use vocabulary they should really use it in the true sense and not just change the definition simply because they don’t want to call it what it really is. People who are in a relationship always have disputes and arguments. If they call it what it exactly is and communicate openly and honestly they can weather the rough patches and be happy rather than resort to divorce. I remember reading a long time ago about Hollywood movie stars constantly getting divorced and remarried. Many of them would have a simple argument and call it quits rather than sit down and communicate speaking openly and honestly and then resolve the issues. It’s easy to run away from the conflict then it is to face it if you don’t have the courage. The real difficult part though is facing yourself so that you can resolve issues that occur in life whether it be at work, home, or even in a social setting. Life is much easier if you solve all problems without resorting to name-calling, harsh words, threats, innuendos, and even violence. In the Good Gus series, book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart,” Sheriff Gus resolves the conflict Bad Bart has with Bob at the sweet shop. It’s the best way for children to learn that just because something is wrong doesn’t mean you have to get upset, yell, scream or resort to hitting just to get their own way. The series is always available on Kindle worldwide and books one and two on YouTube at Mae’s Story Time. If you’re handling someone’s finances and feel conflicted, a good resource is “Misplaced Trust” which is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Many people embarrass easily. Sometimes it doesn’t take much such as a backhanded insult, a direct comment or a situation. There are individuals who go out of their way to embarrass others. In high school, in some circles, it is considered mandatory. It is almost a form of bullying without being obvious. Yet, these teens who one can assume, feel inferior to everyone else, go out of their way to embarrass a classmate to make themselves feel better. The end result doesn’t last long unless they have a group of friends who need to feel superior towards others. Deep down inside, they must feel that it is wrong because if they thought about it, they wouldn’t like it happening to them. Adults are no different. It is possible that they were bullied and embarrassed as youths and were so hurt by it, that rather than recognize it was wrong, their approach is revenge. Still bad, yet it takes another bully who will embarrass them so badly that they will see the errors of their ways. A low self esteem may be the answer as to why one person will embarrass another so they feel better about themselves. Even when this type of behavior is pointed out to them, they often ignore it rather than take a look and see why they feel the way that they do. It’s not rocket science, just logical. In the movie “Legally Blonde,” the character Vivian Kensington, played by Selma Blair, invited Elle Woods, played by Reese Witherspoon, to a party telling her it was a costume get-together. It was simply a party but she did it to embarrass Elle. It was cruel and unkind but Elle handled it gracefully. She didn’t hold a grudge and realized that she was far and away a prettier girl, who had style, grace and class. Elle had strong self confidence which showed in the movie. In the Good Gus series, the only person that is embarrassed is Bad Bart after he bullied Bob at the Sweet Shop and a few of the town’s folks. If you feel you might embarrass yourself while handling your family’s will, estate or trust, don’t feel that way. Read “Misplaced Trust” which is available on Kindle, Nook, Apple and several popular e-book websites.
How many times have you been in a discussion or argument when you ask the other person to simply drop it? They not only keep going but you reach a point where you begin to lose your patience. There are people who constantly bring up negatives things that happened to them in their life or possibly something negative you did to them and they will not let it go. Even a dog learns that when you say, “Drop it,” they let go of whatever they are carrying in their mouth. Usually when individuals are involved in an argument, and they are losing it they will say, “Let it go, drop it.” Then, the person who knows they are in the right, moves in for the kill to destroy them and whatever their theories were. There are also people who refuse to let go of an error or mistake. They are the ones who makes tons of mistakes but never own up to them. They consider that whatever they did is insignificant and doesn’t really matter. If you remember when you were young and even the teenage years, if you did one minor thing wrong, one silly little infraction, many parents would hold it over your head and make your life miserable. It’s like the people who say, “Do what I say, not what I do.” Seriously, that is how we all learn is from each other. As children and even as adults, we never stop observing, learning, trying new things and pushing our education whether formal or otherwise. This occurs in the workplace as well. It’s particularly annoying when a workmate throws it back into your face. There is an episode on the “Big Bang Theory,” in which Leonard is reminded of an error he made and Sheldon goes into a fit of laughter over it. Of course, Sheldon doesn’t let the error go with Leonard. In fact, any of Leonard’s mistakes are thrown into his face. Once in a while, the writers should have Leonard say, “Drop it.” When insignificant arguments arise, if drop it fails, walking away is always a good choice except when they follow you. The only argument in the Good Gus Series is in book one, between Bard Bart and Bob at the Sweet Shop. However, Sheriff Gus resolves it peacefully.
There are people who become annoyed over the least little thing. I was watching an old show from the 1960’s today. The show was about a family; a mother who was a widow and her two sons ages approximately ten and eight. The ten year old was staying at a friend’s and the eight year old wanted to go on a father and son camping trip. The mum called her dad who lived on a farm about one hour away from the family. The family had moved to the city when the mother had obtained a job. It was a shorter commute. The grandfather was already out of town attending a Grange meeting. The boy was so disappointed that the mum said she would go on the trip with him. Off they went and arrived at the campsite. The camping leader wanted no part of the mother staying. He quickly became annoyed with her. She, however, was determined and wore him down. The mother and son went about trying to put up their tent. Not one dad would assist. Finally they gave up and slept under the starts. Of course, right after they fell asleep it began to rain heavily. She quickly whipped out an umbrella. The next scene opened in the morning with the mum and son eating eggs and flapjacks. None of the dads could get a fire going so they were all starving. The leader and his son were eating cold beans out of a can. First one dad showed up and then all the dads to be fed. The leader was still annoyed and would not allow his boy to join the rest of the group. Of course, as the day progressed the leader became even more annoyed as the mother and son team won all the contests. They had various types of races and the mother and son won every one. The leader was sure that when they started the fishing contest, that the mother would finally fail. He continued to become further annoyed when the mother and son were ahead of the group in catching the fish. No one had known, that the mother’s mum had passed when she was a girl and her dad had taught her all about farming, camping and fishing. The annoyed leader finally came around and in the end everyone had a great time. It is always difficult when you are being serviced by a person who becomes annoyed with you and your problem. It is not an easy task trying to solve an issue when the person in charged is annoyed and doesn’t really give you the help you require. I have seen this at the bank, the grocery, department stores, utility companies and even the Post. Their jobs are to treat everyone with respect and do their best to solve the problem. Often they don’t and are rude, disconnect you when they are supposedly transferring you to another department, or simply refuse to help. In the Good Gus Series, Bob at the Sweet Shop does his level best not to become annoyed with Bad Bart. In the end, of course, the issue is solved by Sheriff Gus. A book from the series is a great way to start the child or children in your life off for their reading requirements in the new year.