Life is all consuming. Sometimes we become overwhelmed with all the details. For many people work is all consuming. They become so involved that they forget about their families. They believe that by working late they are doing the best job they can for their families. Sadly, they are not. If they allow the job to overcome them, they end up with no family, poor health and very few friends. There are videos all the time on the internet on Facebook about dads and even mums trying to earn money and working late just to please their boss. In the end, many of the hard working people end up without the promotion, the raise or a corner office because they weren’t savvy enough to play the politics game. They thought that their work would shine and it did. However, frequently a co-worker would take credit, claim that the employee was part of his or her team, etc. It’s not fair but that is the real world. There always needs to be a balance. Respecting yourself and your family needs to placed above your job. My late husband would become all consuming on the few occasions he made breakfast. He liked eggs over easy. However, if it broke, he threw it away. There were times he would throw out almost a dozen of eggs. In the Good Gus series, children tend to be all consuming when it comes to playing. In book twenty, “The Flying Cat,” JC becomes all consumed in rescuing a cat. He even risks himself. The series is available at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” has characters who have one all consuming goal in mind. That is to get all the money and cheat everyone else. The book is available at these fine websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Many questions can be answered with either a yes or no. When you ask a person a question, the longer they talk the more they avoid the answer. When you are listening to continual verbiage, you know not only they will not answer what you asked but they will circumvent whatever you asked. Even if it is through a text, they can speak paragraphs without really saying anything. The narcissist is really good at not answering and coming up with a variety of lies. Their only problem is that they cannot always keep their lies straight. It is really true in life about almost anything. For example, an employee decides to ask for a raise. They are entitled to one as they have worked quite hard and their performance reports state that they are doing an excellent job, always on time and stay late to finish projects. The boss can easily say yes or not to his question. Instead, he receives the basic run a round and his question is never answered. He then walks away wondering what had just happened. I have seen this in movies, court, the workplace, and even with family members. You repeatedly ask the same question but never even receive a yes or no answer. If we start now teaching our children to be truthful the world would be a better place. In the Good Gus series, particularly in book four, “Johnny the Cat and Bronco Ride that Bull,” the boys skip off to see the rodeo and don’t even answer either their mother or father. The point of that story was they were disobeying their parents and there were consequences. The series is available online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Getting a yes or no answer by the characters in “Misplaced Trust” is close to impossible. The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Everyday in the news or on the internet there are countless people behaving in an accusatory manner. It’s becoming tiring. What makes people believe they should act this way? Frequently, their accusatory remarks are based on lies, innuendos, and their opinions. In western countries, particularly the United States, it appears to be never ending. Individuals of various ethnicities feel that they can act any way they choose without any regard to manners, if they are behaving appropriately, or in any type of reasonable acceptable manner. I was in a warehouse type store today to purchase my Pellegrino, organic sugar, and bath tissue. It was my first time in this store so I was walking slowly checking each aisle. I came upon a man, from another country, who was yelling quite loudly at a woman who was at the end of the row where he was waiting with his trolley. It was evident that he was impatient. Even in another language, it was obvious he was being extremely rude. As I passed by he gave me a nasty look. When I began passing the next row, an employee of this warehouse asked me what was happening. I explained that a man was yelling at a woman and quite rudely at that. She stopped what she was doing and then there was quiet! This is just one example of how people are being abusive, accusatory, rude and inconsiderate. In the Good Gus series, there were a few accusatory remarks by Bad Bart in book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart.” He was demanding chocolate ice cream and accusing Bob of not having any. Even though Bob explained the delivery had not arrived, Bad Bart was not accepting his answer. It took the calm, cool Sheriff Gus to diffuse the situation in a positive way. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Accusatory remarks are a daily occurance for the characters in “Misplaced Trust.” This is the most interesting and best self help guide you will find to help you do an estate plan. The book is online at: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
There are people who cannot let go and take things too far. They simply cannot let anything slide particularly when it affects their ego. Miss Patty and I worked with a man who recently quit. It was his choice. He was not forced to quit. He decided that his pride was worth more than anything else and he stated so. However, today, he has taken his leaving too far and over the edge. He faxed a threatening letter to the office and used foul language. He obviously has no control over himself. Besides being a narcissist, he basically lied, cheated and stole from the company. He wasn’t even a top produced in sales. The management was trying to be kind to ease him out gently. He became furious one day with Miss Patty and was quite rude. His language went too far when he was speaking to her and she refused to be treated with such disrespect. Everyone has a breaking point with a bully and that day it was hers. She let him have it. Did she go too far? Absolutely not, possibly no far enough! In any event, anyone who is stupid enough to threaten in writing over a fax has completely lost it. It is clear that his pride means more to him than anything including income. While he is busy trying to destroy us, we are quietly utilizing other individuals to handle what might have been his sales. In the Good Gus series, in book one, which is available on YouTube at Mae’s Story Time, or Kindle worldwide, Bad Bart did go too far. However, Sheriff Gus handled it with diplomacy. There are people who go through life and never have to deal with anyone who goes too far, but if you do always remember you are more important than they will ever be. They are the types of individuals who have to prove they are always right when in reality they very rarely are. In “Misplaced Trust” many of the characters do go too far. The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Many individuals find it difficult to prioritize both personally and in business. They can’t seem to make up their minds what is most important. Sometimes people have no idea where to begin. When we teach our children organizational skills, they need to learn how to prioritize. For example, when they have to clean their closet and room, their first skill should be in learning how to prioritize. Once they master that at an early age, it will carry them through life. In the workplace, whether you are an employee or a business owner, it is the bottom line that is most important. If it is your responsibility to produce, design or improve a product your first thought should be whatever you do has an impact on profits which translate into money in your pocket. Even as an employee, sales are the direct result in your salary. As you think about this, it is important to recognize whether it is a large project or that there are several facets to it and many of them are simply tasks. If you are building something, your eye is on the completion and the satisfaction of knowing you did a wonderful job and have produced a superior product. If you are in an office, being able to prioritize the paperwork is necessary to finish a project. For example, if you are in accountancy and handle the finances and taxes for various clients the first advice you probably give them is to organize their receipts and prioritize the primary expenses. That way when they arrive at your office you aren’t sitting there wasting your valuable time sorting their receipts and paperwork. The important segment of being able to prioritize is that if you get the difficult parts out of the way first, then you have breathing room to finish the job. In the Good Gus Series, the children learned to prioritize in many of the stories. The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide. If you are handling the finances or estate of an individual, prioritize your tasks and then if you need additional help read “Misplaced Trust.” It is available on these fine e-book websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
This is National Autism month. It is a misunderstood condition. However, individuals with kind hearts recognize it particularly in children and really do their best to help whatever is happening at a particular moment to make it less stressful. For example, there was a recent article about a little boy who was in love with a few toys that were displayed on a kiosk. The restaurant had run out of the toys in their Happy Meal and her little boy was devastated. As the mum was explaining this to her child, an employee overhead her. Even though it was against the rules, she asked her manager if she could dismantle it. The manager agreed and all though it took almost twenty minutes for the girl to take the kiosk apart, she finally handed the toys to the little boy. He was overjoyed. The mother posted a thank you to the McDonald’s in Speedway, Indiana. This one girl made a huge difference in an autistic boy’s life. Many children with autism have meltdowns. It is unclear why, yet the parents cope and try to do the best they can. Often there are understanding individuals observing this difficulty the child has and rather than look away, make snide remarks, they jump in and offer kindness in an effort to not only help the child but the parent as well. There are strangers who say nice words that not only help the parents get through an autism meltdown but give them the little extra that helps them deal with their situations in public. The lack of judgement of both the parents and child from these individuals is a wonderful gesture. There are high and low functioning autism people. An article I read said that “high functioning means your deficits are ignored and low means that your assets are ignored.” How autism affects individuals differs greatly. Everyone seems to have a different perspective. The point really is that whether a child or an adult has an autism episode, kindness, consideration, assistance if allowed, are the positive ways to help. There were no children with autism in The Good Gus Series. However, just recently, “Sesame Street” added a new character, a puppet with autism. The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide. “Misplaced Trust” is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd and Tolino. I am really thrilled about the excitement at the Cotuit Library for my appearance on May 13th. Remember, 10:30 a.m. for the Good Gus Series and 1:30 p.m. for “Misplaced Trust” and author tips and discussion.
There are many words to define a stingy person such as cheap, frugal, tightwad, etc. Yet, this type of person can be really annoying in everyday life. My late father-in-law once played golf with a man who was so cheap that he almost gave up the game. This man went beyond cheap to stingy. He was a business associate of his son’s and the man went out of his way to avoid paying, tipping or even contributing anything in the way of money. There are employers who tend to be that way as well. I know a man who is a multimillionaire. Yet, he doesn’t really pay his staff. He has a contract with a small firm for basic clerical services in return for the business they provide him. However, he goes beyond that on a daily basis. When any holiday rolls around he never gives a gift and rarely does anything extra for his staff. They go out of their way to make sure he is protected legally as he has a professional license. He uses the administrative aide for his personal business and dealings which was not part of his service contract. Now, because he appears to be spending so much money on himself, he is demanding money from the service contractor to handle his overspending. He recently had lavish dinners at an extremely expensive restaurant that could have easily given his aide a nice little bonus and helped her in a positive financial way. However, he appears to be stingy in almost everything except when he is dealing with other wealthy individuals or clients. Then, he will do the work for practically nothing just to impress them. Being a cheapo may stem from early childhood for many people. Waiters and waitresses know all too well just how stingy a person can be even if the server did an excellent job and the customer appreciated it. My late aunt tipped everyone as anyone who has read my blogs knows. Yet, she always had good service and when she moved into an apartment building, she was always taken care of first. I do not live in an apartment, but I am following her tradition. There may have been individuals during the Good Gus era that were stingy, but not in the series. The books were written to give children a positive perspective about life then and translate into their lives today. The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide. If the relatives or family members you are assisting are being stingy towards you, take heart and read “Misplaced Trust.” It will guide you in a way to help you receive the compensation you deserve. The books are available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd and Tolino.
Many people turn a blind eye to everything that goes on around them. Often people simply don’t want to see what is happening even though on a subconscious level they recognize it and truly don’t wish to deal with it. It is as if they are wearing dark sunglasses. There are those who have no sympathy for individuals in times of trouble and so they just ignore it. In the workplace, it occurs all too frequently. Often over the years, there have been people who blew the whistle on their co-workers or boss rather than turn a blind eye. Frequently, particularly in the United States, the witnesses or even employees of an unsavory group, would have to go into hiding, and change their identity. They were given new lives and had to give up whatever they possessed and their former family and friends. If they didn’t, they would one day disappear and then they would be unable to testify in court against their former employer or employers. The old movie, “My Blue Heaven,” starring Steve Martin had that very theme. He and his wife moved from New York to California to the suburbs. After only a day or two his wife left him and he was on his own. Rather than abandon his plan for witness protection, he decided to remain in California with his new identity. Rick Moranis is the FBI agent in charge of making sure that Steve a/k/a Vinnie remained happy and eventually returned to New York to testify. Often, Rick had to turn a blind eye to Vinnie and his activities. It’s a funny movie if you can find it. However, the reality of life is that there are a large number of individuals along with their families that had their whole world changed forever simply because they chose not to turn a blind eye. Friends and family often turn a blind eye rather than face what may be going on. When they decide to wake up and possibly take action it is often too late. In personal relationships, there are individuals who suspect something may be happening but the other person is so good at hiding and manipulation, that by the time they do find out the truth, it is beyond being out of luck. This could include a range of situations such as money, health, being unfaithful to a partner, cheating in business, etc. The list is almost endless. When they finally learn the truth, and face the reality, it is possible to turn it around. However, often the person has been so remiss that the other person cannot forgive or forget. In the Good Gus Series, no one turned a blind eye to anything. If they did, the consequences to the citizens in Pecos may have been disastrous. The books give the young reader a sense of community along with the ability to understand right from wrong. In “Misplaced Trust” at maecharlesbooks.com, the characters in the book found it impossible to turn a blind eye. (books available on Kindle)
When a person says to you, “Don’t take it personally,” does it annoy you? Often those words are said when someone is about to insult you. “Don’t take it personally,” but you are a failure, you will never succeed because, etc. Of course when someone says those words to you, you will take it personally. They are making a statement about you which is negative. For example, “Don’t take it personally, but that dress makes you look fat.” The so called friend could have phrased it differently and said, “That dress doesn’t really flatter you, why don’t you try on another dress?” There is a show in the United States entitled, “Say Yes to the Dress.” I have seen a few commercials and watched it on occasion. The future bride is very excited to try on wedding dresses. Yet, whomever she brings with her, often has absolutely no manners, tact, or consideration for her. They literally insult her instead of saying something such as; “That dress doesn’t really show off your beautiful waist, or figure, or anything other than the insults they hurl. I saw a mother once bring her daughter to tears with the unflattering remarks. The staff finally took the mother aside and reminded her that it was the daughter’s day and her upcoming wedding. In the workplace, the words are just as insulting. For example, an individual is working on a project. They have even taken the work home with them because they are so anxious to do a good job. When they present it to the manager or supervisor and hear the words, “Don’t take it personally, but your work is not the quality we were hoping for,” they are crushed. Rather than insult and hurt the employee’s feelings, a better choice of words could be, “I can see you have invested a great deal of time on this project. I feel that it just needs a little something extra to make you shine. Let me give you some assistance or a few suggestions to make the higher ups notice you and see how hard you work.” Then, if the manager has to completely redo it, so what. The employee will remain with the firm and put his or her best foot forward to continue to out perform the other co-workers. Its the simple difference of choosing the right words to make a person feel good or feel horrible. In the Good Gus Series, there are no insults. People make mistakes, but they learn from them. The stories are excellent lessons for children without lectures from adults.
How often have you been told to take a chance? People take a chance on love, a new friend, a job, a career change and even trying new foods. Often the person telling you to take a chance is not willing to do it themselves. If you make a life style change it can be positive or the biggest mistake of your life. In many of the old movies, the lead character generally decided to give his daily grind at the office to become a farmer. The plot usually goes something like this. He is happy to take a chance, but then reality sets in. He has to work really hard physically and he doesn’t have all the modern conveniences including television and in some of the really old ones, no phone either. After a very short time, he realizes he has been a terrible mistake and wants his old life back. Of course, because its the movies, he is able to get his old job back or his business. In real life, if a person did that, they would basically hope that they could sell the farm and start fresh in a new city with a new job or take the money and start a business again. There are people who decide to take a chance on something risky. They end up with more problems as it was the wrong choice. With all the matchmaking programs advertised on the TV, the internet, magazines and newspapers, single people are constantly taking a chance on a person in the hopes of true love and happiness. The ads claim that the programs work out very well; I hope so. There a programs everywhere for people who have lost everything and really need a second chance. They are given decent used clothing, help with their overall appearance including hair, and for women make-up, to help them start over and land a decent job. The employers who hire them are counting on them to do a good job and rebuild their lives. Many times the chance the employer gives these people is one of the best decisions they could make. As these people just want to start over, they give 110% to their work which benefits both the employer and the employee. If you are thinking of taking a chance on anything, weigh your options, list the pros and cons, (this can even apply to people) and then hopefully, checking on contingencies, you will make the correct choice.