late husband

 Life is all consuming. Sometimes we become overwhelmed with all the details.  For many people work is all consuming.  They become so involved that they forget about their families. They believe that by working late they are doing the best job they can for their families.  Sadly, they are not.  If they allow the job to overcome them, they end up with no family, poor health and very few friends.  There are videos all the time on the internet on Facebook about dads and even mums trying to earn money and working late just to please their boss.  In the end, many of the hard working people end up without the promotion, the raise or a corner office because they weren’t savvy enough to play the politics game. They thought that their work would shine and it did.  However, frequently a co-worker would take credit, claim that the employee was part of his or her team, etc.  It’s not fair but that is the real world.  There always needs to be a balance.  Respecting yourself and your family needs to placed above your job. My late husband would become all consuming on the few occasions he made breakfast.  He liked eggs over easy.  However, if it broke, he threw it away.  There were times he would throw out almost a dozen of eggs.  In the Good Gus series, children tend to be all consuming when it comes to playing.  In book twenty, “The Flying Cat,” JC becomes all consumed in rescuing a cat. He even risks himself.  The series is available at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” has characters who have one all consuming goal in mind.  That is to get all the money and cheat everyone else.  The book is available at these fine websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.


My late husband always said that in the matter of trust  it depends upon the circumstances. He was right.  People frequently put their trust in people only to find that they have lied, cheated and stolen from you.  One time my daughter had help moving and her late father was assisting.  He was dying of cancer so they hired two people to help.  He trusted them which was a big mistake as they stole two of her televisions and more.  The circumstances were ideal for these two thieves.  The matter of trust because he was sick proved to be wrong. Then, when my daughter gave to the police,  the thieves names, and pictures but nothing happened. When couples get married they believe in each other.  However, in the matter of trust, it can all change if there are money issues, or if they are wealthy, an individual decides that the marriage should end because they want the money.  The men and women who seek money and have affairs to destroy marriages is obviously high.  There are many videos where people are tested to see if they are trustworthy.  Again, it’s all a matter of circumstances.  If a person is asked to hold one thousand Euros or dollars, if they are doing well, the money is safe. However, if they are in financial straits, that money could disappear instantly.  In the Good Gus series, everyone counted on each other so the matter of trust was always one hundred percent. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. In “Misplaced Trust” no one trusted anyone.  Now that the weather is improving, it might be a nice read lounging on your front porch.  The books can be easily located at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 Everyone is looking for a payday. Most people look for the get rich quick scheme.  There are so many it is literally impossible to see if any of them even work.  One of the bigger ones that clearly states that if you follow their procedures you will receive a huge payday.  However, I receive postcards with these ads for my late husband almost everyday.  I feel sorry for these people as they are spending money for what it appears to be a pyramid scheme that will never pan out.  One of the reason casinos are so popular is that people are looking for that payday.  They are sure they have a system and can win easily.  They usually lose all their money or worse become addicted and end up losing their family, all assets, job and become homeless.  It’s also true with the lottery.  There are lotteries around the globe.  As you all know I am a paralegal.  One day a man called me about winning the lottery in Spain. It was really a scam.  I had asked the client if he had purchased a lottery ticket and he said no.  He had some ridiculous excuse that convinced him he was the winner.  The con men were asking for over Fifty Thousand dollars to convert to Euros.  They claimed it was for taxes.  I really tried to convince him that it was fake.  He wouldn’t listen and lost that money.  He was sure his payday had arrived.  In the Good Gus series there was no discussion of money in any of the stories.  You can view the series online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  I appreciate the views at my crowdfunding.  The site is  “Misplaced Trust” can be found at these fine websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Rather than think with their brain logically, most people have an immediate emotional response to any given situation.  My late husband referred to it as ‘a knee jerk reaction.’ If you ever watch any of the home shows on HGTV such as “Buying and Selling,” “House Hunters,”  plus their international version, it’s amazing how frequently people have an emotional response to a home rather than think about their budgets.  Often they go over their budgets without any logical thoughts.  The same is true when purchasing a car.  If its used you really have to verify that it is in good condition, that the mileage is accurate and that it really is worth the money.  At a former gym, I used to watch a small auto lot while I was on the treadmill.  They would take in a used car, clean it, steam the engine so it looked brand new, and do a variety of exterior and interior clean up completely skipping the important part which of course is the engine.  The cars really did look good and they sold cars every day.  I could almost guarantee that the emotional response at how nice the cars looked was the key to all their sales.  In the gossip magazines, and celebrity news, I can still remember Hollywood stars divorcing because they had an argument.  It was shocking.  Life is full of minor arguments.  They don’t mean anything unless there is a serious matter attached to it.  In the Good Gus series, Bad Bart had an emotional response when Bob at the Sweet Shop was out of chocolate ice cream.  He literally had a temper tantrum.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” has countless characters all having an emotional response which always had the consequence of spending money to solve the situation.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Today very few people have heard of the old classic TV shows. Yesterday, the infamous character on ‘Leave it to Beaver,’ Eddie Haskell, a/k/a Ken Osmond, passed away.  If you ask anyone under fifty, they have no idea who he was.  His character was always a jerk on the show, but in real life he was a wonderful human being..  There are other old classic TV shows that should return such as “The Ozzie and Harriet Show,’ “My Three Son,’ “Leave it to Beaver’, just to name a few. They were good family shows. They were the programs that families watched together.  They were lighthearted but they also expressed good morals and values.  They weren’t like many of today’s family shows that include politics, harsh reality, and themes that are not appropriate for children.  Make believe and fairies are fine, but many production companies and studios go too far.  I was never a believer in monsters and refused to allow my children to watch those types of shows.  When ‘Young Frankenstein,’ an old classic, was released, my late husband took me to see it.  I didn’t understand the concept as I had never watched those types of shows.  People talk about good morals and values, yet that is all it is, just talk, most of the time.  I do have to point out that recently the Republic of Ireland donated a large sum of money to the Choctaw, Navajo Tribes and a few other American Indian tribes.  They wanted to reciprocate for their assistance during the famine.  I mention this as there was no publicity, fanfare, social media, etc.  I stumbled upon it by accident because a man posted about it on the Irish Post site. Just an act of kindness during these difficult times.  The Good Gus series could easily be part of classic TV shows for this era.  The series is online at Nook, Waterstones and Kindle.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

  Our grandparents understood how to economise. What has been occuring with this virus is panic and hoarding.  During the Great Depression everyone played their parts.  They didn’t hoard, bully or be rude.  They stood in lines and eventually learned how to economise.  My grandmother opened up her home as a boarding house with two meals.  In turn, the boarders gave her their food cards and everyone ate quite well.  She knew how to cook and economise.  Sadly, a large part of the population either eat out or eat prepared and/or frozen meals.  When panic ensued, they rushed to the groceries and bought every canned fruit, vegetable, packaged food and all frozen foods.  There were still a few frozen foods and fresh goods available.  When I went at the end of last week, the shelves were stocked with fresh foods.  It was perfect for me.  When I went after the initial panic, surprisingly I was still able to buy fresh organic spinach!  My son told me that almost all of the organic fresh produce is on sale as the hoarders can’t save it.  The point is, though, that people need to learn to economise.  Rather than buy frozen dinners, prepacked quick foods including cakes, biscuits, soups and noodles, start by learning how to make some of these foods.  For example, making any type of soup is easy.  You can use any and all ingredients in your refrigerator.  If you have items that may go bad, make a broth.  I used to make split pea soup for my late husband and my best friend.  I started with the broth by filling up a large pan with filtered water.  I then added a few carrots, onion, garlic, any fresh herbs I had available, celery including their leaves and if I had a ham bone I threw it in and cooked it all for about two hours on simmer. I also do the same for a chicken or turkey broth.  After the broth was ready, I drained all the cooked vegetables and removed the bone.  I then added fresh vegetables along with the slit peas.  They loved it plus it made a huge batch for both of them and it could be easily be frozen.  In the Good Gus series being able to economise was a way of life.  The series is available online only at Kindle, Nook, and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

So many people today tell me they are pinching pennies.  Economies claim to be good and for some people they are.  However, the cost of living continues to rise everywhere so it makes things difficult for them financially.  Rather than dwell on the fact that you can’t buy lobster or filet mignon, find ways that can help you eat well and be tasty.  For example, cheaper cuts of meat tend to be tough.  If you make a brine and soak them prior to cooking, they will be quite tender.  Combining any vegetables with chicken or turkey in a sauce and making a pot pie. If you don’t have the skills a thick creamy soup can be used as a gravy and there are many pre-made pie crusts that can be utilized.  You end up with a large tasty meal that can fed several people, or you can freeze the leftovers for another day.  Utilizing baking soda and vinegar for cleaning is a great way of pinching pennies.  I do recommend you use a decent detergent.  Many people use too much in their washers and over soap.  I have been guilty of that.  If you are pinching pennies with detergent, your appearance will suffer.  After all, these are the clothes you wear to work and it is important to look professional regardless of your profession.  Many years ago, I knew a man who was an engineer.  He dressed like all the engineers in a flannel shirt, khaki pants, and inexpensive shoes.  He really wanted to get ahead.  So, my late husband I took him shopping.  He nearly fainted at the cost of  decent clothes.  When it came to a leather belt and shoes, he looked like he was going to pass out.  However, the first day of wearing those expensive shoes made him realize at the end of the day that his feet didn’t hurt.  Within two weeks, a top executive was walking through the plant when he spotted my friend, the only well dressed man in the entire area.  He choose him for a presentation and today my friend is a top executive with a worldwide company.  Sometimes pinching pennies for the wrong things is a bad idea.  In the Good Gus series, I had different characters wear various colors to make them stand out.  The series is online at Nook, Kindle, and Waterstones.  Hard copies are still available at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California. “Misplaced Trust” is also available for these dreary winter days online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Everyone wants to fit in. It’s not easy because somehow there is always someone in control who determines who can fit in.  The problem with fitting in is that it usually revolves around money and/or status and sometimes both.  People with money are portrayed in TV shows and movies as being snobs and look down on anyone that doesn’t have as much money as they do.  They treat them in an inferior way.  There was a man I knew who was quite wealthy.  He drove an expensive car, the Delorean.  One day when the weather was terrible, my late husband was with him, when the windshield wipers stopped working on his vehicle.  It was snowing and he needed to keep his windshield clean.  My late husband recommended a petrol/gas station that did minor repairs.  He knew the owner and explained the situation.  The owner sold the wealthy man new wipers and then his employee put the wipers on the car.  There was no fee for the courtesy of installing the wipers.  My late husband suggested the wealthy man tip the young installer.  He declined and said he had an hourly wage.  Needless to say, my late husband tipped the boy.  When people believe they are superior to others they look down on them.  Even if that boy won the lottery the next day, the wealthy man would still have treated him exactly the same.  There are situations that no matter what anyone does, they simply cannot fit in.  In the Good Gus series everyone fit in.  There are no stories judging anyone.  It is available online at Kindle, Waterstones and once again after it is fixed, Nook.  Hard copies are still available at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  As the weather deteriorates, remember “Misplaced Trust” may be an ideal choice on your gift list for the adults.  It is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

We all have taste buds. However, if you smoke, it does deter your ability to really taste foods.  When I was really young and first went to expensive restaurants with clients, I didn’t understand why they brought a light lime sherbet to clear our taste buds before the next course.  Once, I was at a restaurant that claimed to be upscale and they didn’t bring the sherbet, I instantly understood.  Many restaurants over salt their foods but as my late husband would say, and he was usually right, “The chef smokes.”  It impaled his or her taste buds.  The fast food restaurants do add extra salt and if you wren’t aware, other ingredients to help you become addicted to their food.  Bars always offer salty foods that make your taste buds feel like you need more to drink.  It definitely increases your spending.  There are food type TV shows from the UK and the states that test the contestants’ abilities to stimulate the judges’ taste buds.  Sometimes at the gym, I choose a treadmill with the food shows because I can read the closed captions and follow the shows.  It makes it less boring.  Today, for example, there were four contestants who were celebrities.  I truthfully didn’t know any of them.  I was on the treadmill for the second round.  They gave the chefs boar, patty pan squash, cranberries and a Japanese flavored dipping sauce. They only had thirty minutes. Two of the three people added rice too late in the cooking process.  The person who lost didn’t properly cook all the food and you can see in an instant that her food was unappealing to the taste buds of the judges.  In this hustle and bustle lifestyle, we really need to take time to prepare good food or purchase the types of foods that will stimulate our taste buds and that we will enjoy.  At Mary’s Cafe’, the food was always tasty and was pleasing to the diner’s taste buds.  The series is online at Kindle, Waterstones and Nook.  Hard copies are at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” is available at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

There are families that go through life and are never affected by misfortune.  Do you ever wonder why?  Do you feel as if you are cursed?  Often it just bad luck.  Sometimes we are in the wrong place at the wrong time.  The individuals who are fortunate in life to escape negative events, don’t seem to appreciate the difficulty others have.  I knew a man who was quite wealthy.  One time he was at a petrol station and needed help installing new windshield wipers that he had purchased elsewhere.  The attendant gladly assisted him as it was a cold rainy day.  My late husband was with him and suggested he give the attendant a few dollars.  He said no, so my late husband gave him a tip.  The attendant was working a minimum wage job, had an old beat up car and was just trying to do a kind act.  His life had been full of misfortune.  Yet, the wealthy man couldn’t see any of that and felt that the attendant should just do his bidding because he was rich.  The attendant really appreciated the tip, so much so, that when either myself or my late husband stopped to purchase petrol, he always cleaned our windows and went out of his way to give good service.  Not everyone has an ideal life which is why those of us who can donate our time, items, and money to help the less fortunate in life.  In the Good Gus series, there are events that appear to be a misfortune.  However, what really occurs is that the citizens of Pecos band together and all pitch in and do whatever is needed.  It’s the type of series that gives your child reading these books a sense of family and community.  Remember, as hot as it is, the series is at your fingertips on Kindle and Waterstones.  If you are passing Tierrasanta, stop in at the UPS Store for a hard copy or two. “Misplaced Trust” is available for your relaxing reading pleasure at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

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