People continually pass judgment on one another. You see it in everyday life, in movies, on the internet and in public places. I have never understood this. What is it that makes people think that it is acceptable? In the workplace, the workmates pass judgment on a variety of things. They make remarks about their co-workers clothes, shoes, hair, and overall appearance. The criticize their food choices particularly if they bring their own food. I have never been a person to eat take away at the office. I always brought my lunch. I really didn’t care what others thought. While they are so busy passing judgment, they were neglecting their work. I saw a cute story about a set of twins. One twin was quite popular and had her own group. Her sister was quiet and shy. The popular twin and her friends continually would pass judgment on the shy sister. They made fun of her clothes and one day even threw a tomato at her dress. Their mom had passed and the dad heard the two girls arguing one day as the popular twin and her friends had cut up the quiet girl’s dress that she had made for prom. He said it was about time they knew the real score. The shy twin was born healthy and vibrant. The popular twin was failing. The doctors said there was nothing they could do but a nurse had a better idea. She put the healthy twin in with her and before long she began to thrive as well. The dad said, “So you see, your sister saved your life.” After that the popular twin realized the value of her sister. The next day they went to school together and no one was allowed to pass judgment, criticize or do anything negative to her sister. A valuable lesson. Always appreciate people and never pass judgment on anyone. You could someday be in their shoes. In the Good Gus series no one was allowed to criticize anyone. It would have been negative reading and a bad example. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who thought nothing of passing judgment on their benefactors or their shared heirs. The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Everyday in the news or on the internet there are countless people behaving in an accusatory manner. It’s becoming tiring. What makes people believe they should act this way? Frequently, their accusatory remarks are based on lies, innuendos, and their opinions. In western countries, particularly the United States, it appears to be never ending. Individuals of various ethnicities feel that they can act any way they choose without any regard to manners, if they are behaving appropriately, or in any type of reasonable acceptable manner. I was in a warehouse type store today to purchase my Pellegrino, organic sugar, and bath tissue. It was my first time in this store so I was walking slowly checking each aisle. I came upon a man, from another country, who was yelling quite loudly at a woman who was at the end of the row where he was waiting with his trolley. It was evident that he was impatient. Even in another language, it was obvious he was being extremely rude. As I passed by he gave me a nasty look. When I began passing the next row, an employee of this warehouse asked me what was happening. I explained that a man was yelling at a woman and quite rudely at that. She stopped what she was doing and then there was quiet! This is just one example of how people are being abusive, accusatory, rude and inconsiderate. In the Good Gus series, there were a few accusatory remarks by Bad Bart in book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart.” He was demanding chocolate ice cream and accusing Bob of not having any. Even though Bob explained the delivery had not arrived, Bad Bart was not accepting his answer. It took the calm, cool Sheriff Gus to diffuse the situation in a positive way. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Accusatory remarks are a daily occurance for the characters in “Misplaced Trust.” This is the most interesting and best self help guide you will find to help you do an estate plan. The book is online at: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
An introvert is a person who is simply very quiet. Frequently, if a person is an introvert at a young age they are picked on and bullied. They are never chosen for any activities when there are sides such as in sports, debates, general classroom activities, etc. There is nothing wrong with them. They just like less noise. It’s not a bad trait, a disease, or anything negative. They just like life differently. In reality, being an introvert may make you brighter, more powerful, effective and extremely interesting. They aren’t shy as shy people are generally scared. They tend to hang back, not become involved or participate in anything. It stems from fear which may be easy to figure as they have probably been rejected too many times. It’s foolish to change who you are if you are happy. A person shouldn’t believe that if they are introverted that they should try to be extroverted. The reverse if the same. It’s always better to be true to yourself. Just because you prefer quiet doesn’t mean that your family and friends should think less of you. You like them for whom they are and the same applies if you prefer to be more of the silent type. After all, the silent strong type was always popular in the movies. There are famous people who are an introvert such as Bill Gates, Elon Musk and Meryl Streep just to name a few. In the Good Gus series the characters were a happy medium. The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino. Please check out my crowdfunding site at https://www.gofundme.com/f/multicultural-gift-of-reading.
The internet and TV’s have been filled with the recent royalty wedding of Harry and Megan. It has also included a sidebar about Megan’s half brother. If anyone was to hazard a guess, it would be that he is a poor sport, is quite jealous of his sister particularly marrying into royalty or good old fashioned sibling rivalry. I suggest it is jealousy. His letter was a rant about how horrible his sister is and yet no one else made any negative comments. It has to be embarrassing to the Queen that someone would stoop so low to get their name in the news. The same is true of Megan’s father. If they were smart they would have just kept quiet and not tried to ruin her day while trying to make money from her. The royalty were smart, they ignored all of it. Often if you give too much attention to something or someone negative, it will continue to dominate the tabloids, magazines and the internet. If you stand firm, ignore it, eventually something else will occur and all the previous negative publicity will be replaced. The royalty have a right to their privacy the same as everyone else. They don’t need or probably really desire all the unwanted attention they receive on a daily basis. The worst part is that the writers tend to overplay everything right down to the smallest, minute detail. Believe it or not, royalty does come to Pecos in book fourteen, “The Surprise in the Sky.” The published books are available on Kindle worldwide. There are no royalty in “Misplaced Trust.” Only liars, cheats and thieves. The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Many people shy away from conflict because they simply can’t deal with it. There are individuals who are very harsh during any type of conflict which makes it even more difficult for the shy, quiet reserved type of individual. Unfortunately, conflict has been used in wars as a definition when it was exactly what they were, wars, not just a few people standing around with weapons fighting. When people use vocabulary they should really use it in the true sense and not just change the definition simply because they don’t want to call it what it really is. People who are in a relationship always have disputes and arguments. If they call it what it exactly is and communicate openly and honestly they can weather the rough patches and be happy rather than resort to divorce. I remember reading a long time ago about Hollywood movie stars constantly getting divorced and remarried. Many of them would have a simple argument and call it quits rather than sit down and communicate speaking openly and honestly and then resolve the issues. It’s easy to run away from the conflict then it is to face it if you don’t have the courage. The real difficult part though is facing yourself so that you can resolve issues that occur in life whether it be at work, home, or even in a social setting. Life is much easier if you solve all problems without resorting to name-calling, harsh words, threats, innuendos, and even violence. In the Good Gus series, book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart,” Sheriff Gus resolves the conflict Bad Bart has with Bob at the sweet shop. It’s the best way for children to learn that just because something is wrong doesn’t mean you have to get upset, yell, scream or resort to hitting just to get their own way. The series is always available on Kindle worldwide and books one and two on YouTube at Mae’s Story Time. If you’re handling someone’s finances and feel conflicted, a good resource is “Misplaced Trust” which is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Yesterday, for the first time, I heard the words tone policing. “Tone policing focuses on the emotion behind a message rather than the message itself – and you might think you’re helping by making the conversation more “comfortable.” This is a direct quote from an article on the internet regarding feminism by Robert Hugs. People now have a name for a way of quietly bullying individuals in an argument or discussion. He refers to it as protecting privilege. I am not sure I understand his idea of privilege. He wrote a cartoon about how people use various phrases for tone policing during a discussion. I have discussed this in previous blogs, but not in his way. Individuals will make statements such as: “You are not acting like a mature adult. You have too much anger and you need to remain calm so that we can discuss this rationally etc .” He refers to tone policing as a “silencing Tactic.” It is true. When a person raises their voice to another individual, a reaction ensues. Often if they are loud they will emotionally force the other person to be quiet. Rather than allow them to speak, they literally shut them down. There are, however, people who do not tolerate this type of behavior, and instead raise their voice to be even louder. In Mr. Hugs’ cartoons, he stated that “people distant themselves emotionally, along with their fears, anger or frustration in order to be heard.” There was a second article with a video in which Jonathan Scott expressed his admiration for the women’s marches held last week-end. As a celebrity in both Canada and the United States, he wanted people to know that he supported the women. Instead, he was instantly cyber bullied. A form of tone policing via the internet. Everyone is allowed their opinions, and if famous people choose to express theirs, they shouldn’t be bullied or tone policed. Our children cannot learn if they are unable to see all points of view. It is the only way they learn and form their own thoughts, ideas and opinions. In the Good Gus Series, there definitely was no tone policing. The series is still available exclusively on Kindle worldwide. If family members are using tone policing tactics on you while you handle legal affairs, voice your opinion by reading important information in “Misplaced Trust” which is available on Kindle, Nook, Apple and several popular e-book websites.