road rage

        Everyday on Facebook people post and tell others “Don’t give up.” They are nice sayings but the pandemic has taken its toll on the world.  Not to mention, violence is cropping up heavily in the United States and a few European countries.  Large numbers of people have lost their jobs and have no idea when they will be employed again.  Many businesses have closed resulting in fewer positions available. Looking for work is not easy.  Many of the positions available are for lower pay because the companies know individuals are desperate.  It is wrong as there is inflation and everyone has the same bills to pay every month.  Employers should really try to think it through and remember what it was like when they might have been struggling.   All you see on the internet are people who can’t go on and are acting out their aggression on other individuals.  Just the other day, a woman was killed over road rage while she was on an anniversary getaway with her husband. I am sure people are telling him ‘don’t give up.’ Life isn’t easy but if we dwell on everything that is wrong, nothing right will ever happen.  There are videos all the time on Facebook about men and occasionally women, leaving their families. The person left behind always tells themselves, “Don’t give up.”  They make a plan and have the determination to make it without their partner.  In the Good Gus series there were never any stories where people gave up.  The point of the series is to remind children if something goes wrong, there is always a solution.  The books are available online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online for your reading pleasure at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Have noticed the way people drive is getting worse?  Today I saw a young man on a motorcycle go back and forth in a crisscross pattern in traffic.  That is dangerous for everyone concerned.  Another driver was so upset that there had been a delay in traffic to allow people to cross the street, that he sped through a red light at rate above and beyond the limit.  As we all try to keep in our appropriate lanes, people cut in front of us, tailgate, or if in an opposing lane, drift back and forth. They don’t even look drunk, they appear to  be unfocused.  I also love the people who are so busy on their phones they almost hit you and ignore what they are doing.  Learning to drive and continuing to do so is serious business. It’s a quicker way to go from one place to the next without walking.  When I lived in Ireland, I could not drive on the left hand side of the road.  On Saturdays, I would walk up to a specific grocery and purchase everything I liked that was on sale.  Now that I am in the states at the moment, I appreciate driving.  There were times though, that I would walk to the Post for packages, and the clerk knew me so well, he would ask people to give me a ride which helped on various occasions. People need to simply pay attention to the way they drive and not take their anger, frustrations, etc out on others.  That is how accidents occur and people are injured.  In the Good Gus series, horses and wagons were a way of life.  In “The Special Gift,” it took over a day for Sheriff Gus to reach Monahans to find the orphanage.  It took even longer to find the orphanage as it was out of town.  In the end, though, it was a Happy Christmas for all.  The series is online on Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  If the crowds and fear of COVID are getting to you, give an online book to the adults on your gift list.  There is still time for “Misplaced Trust.”  It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

These days overreacting seems to be common among everyone.  If you hear news that isn’t to your liking, your brain races, your mouth opens and the next occurance is overreacting.  It’s not always easy to calm your brain down.  It also depends upon the news.  If you are remodeling your home and the contractor opens up your walls and all you see is termites, mold or carpenter ants, overreacting is allowed.  It means an instant problem with money and more repairs as the solution.  You can view it all the time on the home shows.  Nothing ever goes according to plan.  You may also have a fit if you arrive at a resort and the room you requested was given to someone else or your room is dirty.  How many times in past travels have you been in a hotel room that looked clean but had bed bugs?  The vandalism  I wrote about yesterday is another example. What if you selected several apples and when you arrived home a few had been bitten?  The grocery might refuse your return and an overreaction would be justified.  Sadly you see it on the road when people are in a hurry and they want you to move, get out of their way, or speed up.  That is never pleasant including the yelling and hand gestures.  In the Good Gus series the only character that was overreacting was Bad Bart.  He wanted that ice cream immediately.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino. My crowdfunding site is https://www.gofundme.com/f/multicultural-gift-of-reading.

I saw a quote on the internet that said, “Weak minded people seek revenge.” I found that quite interesting. The need for revenge is a way of shoring up the weak person’s inner self.  When you really think about it, weak people are the individuals who become addicts, alcoholics, kleptomaniacs, and habitual criminals and liars.  It all stems from a total lack of self worth.  The weak person pretends to the outside world that they are perfect in every way.  Yet, they are the people who lose their tempers, take their bad days out on their families and are the road ragers.  Just the other day, a man had road rage in Benbrook, Texas and killed a seventy year old woman who was simply driving and minding her own business.  The worst part is that the euphoria they feel doesn’t last very long and then they have to feed their need to feel better about themselves.  There are weak people, though, who will not succumb to crime, lose their tempers, hurt others but rather be unable to cope.  Whether it is a man or a woman, they may cry and then be angry with themselves for feeling weak.  There are individuals who find ways to overcome feeling or acting weak.  They make the decision to start small and possibly be real and let their vulnerability show.  They listen to self help videos which can inspire them to begin to feel good about themselves again.  Therapy is another plus or simply talking to a friend that will encourage them to believe in themselves again and turn their lives around.  In the Good Gus series, the only weak person was Bad Bart.  He had a temper tantrum because he wanted chocolate ice cream.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” has many weak characters who are the ones who lied, cheated and stole.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 Have you ever noticed how quick tempered people are? The often speak before they think.  They don’t take the time to listen, understand the facts or what is going on, they simply react.  It’s frequently negative.  First of all they hear only partial sentences or words and then jump to conclusions.  Most of the time the conclusions are wrong.  With the amount of reading that we have to do for many of our jobs, we frequently skim documents often missing data.  Then, the obvious happens with a co-worker.  They become upset and there goes their quick temper.  It is probably the result of more fist fights, bar fights, road rage arguments that have lead to severe injuries, and even taking out misinterpretations on the playing field.  It’s all the same.  People just do not listen nor take the time to understand what is really happening rather than react.  Being quick tempered might be fine in the old west when you needed to defend yourself, but this is the new age where we are supposed to be civilized.  It also sets a very bad example for children.  If they grow up with a quick tempered parent, they will have learned reactions and duplicate it.  The only person in the Good Gus series that was quick tempered was Bad Bart.  Available on Kindle, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart” along with three other books plus the Christmas book is an ideal gift to reward the child for doing their chores, getting good grades, or tolerating that obnoxious relative for half a day.  Many of the characters within “Misplaced Trust” are quick tempered.  They all believed they were getting all the money and when they weren’t you can just image their reactions.  The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.  It’s an ideal gift for an office mate’s birthday.

Often we say regrettable words. Unfortunately, there is no delete button to take them back or remove them from existing.  Yet when a person becomes cross or angry they say words or phrases that they soon regret.  Not all people are like that, though.  There are individuals who lose their tempers and never even have one ounce of remorse.  The regrettable words comes generally during an argument that heated up.  Frequently, it is at the start of a marital spat that ends up going out of control.  Once all the nastiness has been said, how does the other person expect to forget it?  On one of the episodes of “Vexed” in season one, the lead female character, Kate, played by Lucy Punch, was in counseling with her husband.  He released a rant of every negative thought he had about her.  Regrettable words?  He said so later, but it was unbelievable so the last show of season one showed her walking with Jack, the other main character, talking about being single again.  Once the words were said, apology or not, they can’t be taken back or forgotten.  It’s probably how many marriages end because one partner says too much and is so cruel that it  cannot be erased.  Even in everyday life, people lose their patience and say regrettable words to service individuals such as bank tellers, clerks in a grocery or in shops.  They have no right to be so unkind as these individuals are doing their jobs to the best of their ability and if they are wrong, then the manager of any business should step in and assist their staff.  It’s unfortunate how many people lose their tempers have road rage and say words that should be regrettable, yet unfortunately the person speaking them keeps right on going seeing nothing wrong with their actions.  Of course, there are situations in life that definitely try our patience.  However, it doesn’t mean that anyone should be ruthless in their speech hurting the other person’s feelings simply because they cannot control their mouth or their thoughts.  In the Good Gus series, Bad Bart, in book one, does say regrettable words.  You will also notice that he does not apologize for his actions.  The reason is that I thought it would be small lesson for the children to understand and to see how Sheriff Gus handled the situation.  The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide.  If you have been hearing regrettable words while handling another’s finances, estate, trust or will, don’t let it get to you.  Instead, take a reading break and read “Misplaced Trust” which is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino. I have an additional site that now carries the book.  Also, the number of people on Facebook and at the site are liking the series and the blogs has been steadily increasing.

security-guard-communicating-15965678temper mancars on fire11-gusandbart2-300x2401-150x150-largeself discipline Many of the articles on the internet are primarily about people losing self control.  The majority of the stories are set within the United States.  There was an article about a man who was being pursued by two policemen in two states in the Northeast.  Once they finally caught him, they used a great deal of force and it appears that they both lost their self control as they were punching him.  With all the strife in the states, how can anyone feel safe any more?  There are now several articles about the police losing self control and it’s affecting the entire country.  There has to be a better answer than telling them all to stop it.  Now, individuals are resolving the problem  in their own way by going after the police.  Losing self control is never good.  Often people completely lose it over something insignificant and they end up doing and saying things they regret.  Once it happens it cannot be reversed.  Look at road rage.  Individuals who are under stress, possibly late for an appointment or work end up letting their temper get the best of them and they start yelling and screaming at other drivers.  They even cut them off, run red lights and stop signs all for the sake of a few minutes.  Their lack of self control wreaks havoc and spoils other individuals days.  Not only that, if they are in that much of a rush they often have accidents and individuals are injured sometimes severely and occasionally fatally.  Supervisors and managers occasionally lose their tempers which is regretable.  By just that very action, they shouldn’t be in a position of authority as they lack good self control.  Sure, there are many things in life that aggravate us.  You can start your day with everything going smoothly and then one minor thing sets a chain reaction and before you know it, holding your temper is a chore.  There was an article recently about a woman who brought a housekeeper from her country to the U.S.  While she worked for the family in Bangkok, everything was wonderful.  Once she arrived in the states, the employer seemed to suddenly get angry over everything the woman did.  She began beating her, starving her and generally taking all of her frustrations out on her.  The worst part is that the small community which is quite wealthy, was in shock over the employer’s behavior.  The woman finally ran away when she had the chance and the police found her on the side of the road.  They had to locate a Chinese interpreter to understand what had happened.  All the woman wanted was to return home. However, the employer had even taken her passport which was also illegal. The neighbors said that the employer was a quiet woman and that they couldn’t imagine her losing self control in that way.  The only character in the Good Gus Series who basically had a temper tantrum was Bad Bart in book one.  It may sometimes feel like the beneficiaries  for the trust or will you are handling, are pushing at you so hard that at any moment you will lose self control, but don’t let them get to you.  Instead visit maecharlesbooks.com and read “Misplaced Trust.” (books available on Kindle)

repeat signrepeat Why do people repeat the same mistakes over and over again?  Even when it is pointed out to them, they continually make the same errors.  You would think that their brain would register that the same ending will occur yet, it doesn’t.  Einstein said that the definition of insanity is to repeat the same mistake over and over again and expect different results.  Yet people continue to do it.  Are they insane or just have some glitch in their brain that makes them think it will somehow turn out differently?  Look at the person in a relationship who continually lies and cheats.  They promise that they won’t do it again, yet they will continue until the other person wakes up and realizes that the relationship has ended and walks away.  When we teach children they learn from their mistakes.  The child who repeatedly causes harm, hits his or her sibling, destroys items, etc. has a problem.  Pavlov’s dogs learned by conditioning.  That is basically how we teach children.  If they learn something we praise them,  and if they do something wrong they learn that there are consequences.  The same is true in the workplace.  There are employees who will basically not understand their job, but rather than admit it they will continue to repeat their mistakes until they find someone who will do the work for them.  Look at criminals and repeat offenders.  How do they think that the end justifies the means?  They always get caught and yet as soon as they are free they think that the next time will be different and they will walk away without getting caught.  Of course, Einstein’s theory does apply and they probably are insane.  Sadly, drunks repeat themselves to the point that you wish they would pass out.  I had a relative that was an alcoholic and she would ask the same question four to five times.  One day, her doctor put fear into her mind that she would pass prematurely and she quit cold turkey.  Even in driving there are individuals who are repeat offenders.  They always go over the speed limit, are inconsiderate of other drivers and constantly display road rage.  I remember reading an article in Texas about people starting to carry guns and shooting individuals who threatened them with their vehicles.  There was a sudden drop in road rage.  The great part about reading a book from the Good Gus Series is that  the characters didn’t repeat their mistakes.  They learned their lessons.  If you find yourself repeating everything to the beneficiaries of a will or trust, stop and take a moment to read “Misplaced Trust” at maecharlesbooks.com. (books available on Kindle)

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Is it my imagination or do you notice more people being short tempered? Lately, wherever individuals are driving they are playing games on the road with their vehicles trying to take out their frustrations on other drivers. They seem to be driving too fast and then suddenly braking for no reason. Then there are the ones who deliberately drive below the speed limit and cause a massive line behind them particularly in areas where no one can pass. I saw a man doing that the other day. People were honking their horns; had rolled down their window and were yelling profanities; and of course, there were the people giving hand gestures. When a person is having a bad day, it doesn’t mean that they are entitled to take it out on random strangers. Do they somehow think that it is acceptable? Bar room brawls are started by short tempered people. Something insignificant escalates into punching, hitting, broken furniture, glasses, bottles, and multiple injuries. How many times have you seen it in movies and TV shows, particularly the older ones. Charlie Sheen had a show entitled “Anger Management.” I saw a few clips here and there, but all the characters were there primarily because they were short tempered. Often, court ordered anger management classes are sentences to avoid jail time. I have known people who are so short tempered that when they become annoyed or frustrated with inanimate objects or electronics, they completely lose it and smash or destroy the item.  I knew a man who was so annoyed with a typewriter that he opened a second story window and threw it out onto the parking area.  Years ago, when the economy was really bad, and particularly in Texas, people had such road rage and were so short tempered that they would get out of their vehicles with theirs guns and shoot another driver who had driven too close, tapped their bumper, and gestured them.  You can find the articles at the library if it sounds unreal. When children are frustrated and have temper tantrums, that is the time to nip it.  Otherwise, the behavior becomes acceptable in their minds and they believe that being short tempered is normal and an appropriate reaction.  Look at the murder statistics.  The number of people killed due to someone losing their temper is astronomical.  It’s higher than the planned assassinations.  In the Good Gus Series, Bart is short tempered.  It was an example to children to understand that a tantrum is unacceptable and that resolving issues peacefully is the best choice. Valentine’s Day is only a month away.  Also, don’t forget to check out maecharlesbooks.com.  “Misplaced Trust” is an ideal choice for an adult who hopes for a book for Valentine’s Day.

11-gusandbart2-300x2401-150x150-largebbb5e3c9-d1f9-4f11-9712-c807684ac705-large12-BOB2-300x2401-150x150-largeHow many times in life have you felt it would just be so much easier if you could run away? There are days, I am sure, for everyone when we just really want to escape whatever is going on and run away. A day away from work, pressures, occasionally family, and just the same old grind, should be taken by everyone. When we were little, we did run away. When we were in situations where other children were unkind to us; bullying us; parents angry because we didn’t do our homework, bad grades, or forgot to clean our room; or anything that was too unpleasant to face, we did run away. If we ran away even if it was home to escape the bullies, to our room to try to escape our parents, or whatever else was happening it was an easier solution. Its not good to run away from from problems because at some point we have to face them. I know adults who run away every time they have a difficult problem to resolve. Sadly, the problem magnifies itself and it doesn’t disappear. Sometimes the easy thing is not always the right thing. How many times have you seen couples get into a really bad row and then one of the duo runs away to their parents, a friend, or even a hotel. Marriage is difficult when you are together, but if one part of the team runs away, there is almost no hope as the problems cannot be resolved. We all have a variety of responsibilities, and as much as we would like to, we can’t always run away. Sometimes a little extra effort can take a negative situation and turn it around to at least neutral if not positive. I saw an article on the internet that said bullying has a life long effect. That’s sad. Whoever the bullies are, what happened to them when they grew up? Did they become the miserable boss, the person who threatens you because they have road rage, or even a criminal? I am assuming walking or even running away from negative situations may possibly save your life. If you stay and fight, you could be badly hurt. There is a bully in the Good Gus Series, Bad Bart in book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart.:” When he rides into town he looks so mean that the children do run away. The town and Sheriff Gus do stand up to Bad Bart and the sheriff takes a negative situation and turns it into a positive one.

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