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Many questions can be answered with either a yes or no. When you ask a person a question, the longer they talk the more they avoid the answer.  When you are listening to continual verbiage, you know not only they will not answer what you asked but they will circumvent whatever you asked.  Even if it is through a text, they can speak paragraphs without really saying anything.  The narcissist is really good at not answering and coming up with a variety of lies.  Their only problem is that they cannot always keep their lies straight. It is really true in life about almost anything.  For example, an employee decides to ask for a raise. They are entitled to one as they have worked quite hard and their performance reports state that they are doing an excellent job, always on time and stay late to finish projects.  The boss can easily say yes or not to his question.  Instead, he receives the basic run a round and his question is never answered.  He then walks away wondering what had just happened.  I have seen this in movies, court, the workplace, and even with family members.  You repeatedly ask the same question but never even receive a yes or no answer.  If we start now teaching our children to be truthful the world would be a better place.  In the Good Gus series, particularly in book four, “Johnny the Cat and Bronco Ride that Bull,” the boys skip off to see the rodeo and don’t even answer either their mother or father.  The point of that story was they were disobeying their parents and there were consequences.  The series is available online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Getting a yes or no answer by the characters in “Misplaced Trust” is close to impossible.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Have you ever known anyone that seems to have infinite excuses? No matter what happens they have a variety of reasons for why something didn’t occur, the lie of why they may not doing something, or  why they made a mistake. It’s never ending.  When people had to go into work, they always had a high number of reasons why they were late. Rather than do what they should to make the effort to be on time. Parents always have infinite excuses to their children It’s a bad example.  Let’s say you are in an area of snow.  You promise to take you kids out to play and then it begins, the infinite excuses or even better you say we will do it tomorrow.  When tomorrow arrives, there are new reasons.  It doesn’t matter.  When you don’t want to do something, say so.  If it is your children, then go out and keep your word.  It’s a bad example.  If you blow all your paycheck on drinking and gambling, rather than give the infinite excuses your family is sick of hearing, stop.  If you can’t, then get a second job so you have no free time. In the Good Gus series the children did have excuses but they were also called out on their mistakes.  The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” has literally an infinite amount of excuses by the thieves and family members who rob others of their inheritance.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

Why do people focus on trivialities?  Most people tend to knit pick about minor things and not focus on the big picture.  For example, in the workplace, individuals pay attention to anything minor that occurs particularly if they feel they have been singled out.  If it is  an issue to be addressed, they tend to let the trivialities fester and let them eat away in their thoughts.  Frequently, people become angry because they can’t let go.  If they are being criticized, and they feel it is unjustified, they should speak up.  Losing your temper doesn’t solve anything and can make you redundant.  It is better to recognize if you have made a mistake and then correct it.  If your boss is complaining that you make too many mistakes then possibly you should suggest that you need additional training.  In that way, there are no hurt feelings and you will succeed at your job.  Family members tend to focus on trivialities and never let them go.  Whenever there is a family event they bring it up.  If they drink too much it generally leads into a fight or argument while they complain.  Letting go is not easy if things are difficult or you feel slighted.  However, you need to feel good about yourself and be happy.  Letting trivialities fester harms you physically, mentally and emotionally.  In the Good Gus series, Bad Bart always had a grudge.  However, Sheriff Gus taught him it was not necessary to be a mean person.  Any children that I have read to have always loved the series.  Available online at Kindle and Waterstones, they are easy to locate.  Hard copies are always available at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  If you read “Misplaced Trust” you will be amazed at how the trivialities affect people.  It is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

The DNA testing companies are changing lives.  There have been articles in the newspapers and on the internet. Because so many people are interested in their family’s history, the results are often shocking.  A relative of mine discovered his father had been married before his mother and he had three sisters.  Many individuals have also discovered that whomever they thought  their parents were, they were wrong.  Suddenly, they have new relatives.  There are a few companies that offer the DNA testing and frequently individuals test with more than one company.  A person I know discovered that the people she believed were her parents were not.  No one ever told her she was adopted.  Her nieces and nephews are now her cousins.  She can trace it to her grandparents, but that is where it ends.  How does she find out?  The now adopted parents are deceased.  Any relative she could ask has also passed.  That only leads to more DNA testing.  Many individuals when they find out they have other relatives are happy others are not.  The surprise is what affects more individuals.  They may have grown up believing their family consisted of specific people only to discover that not only are they not related to them, but now they have to find out, if they desire, who their real family is.  It is complicated.  In the Good Gus series, “The Special Gift,” the Christmas story, has an adoption.  However, Liam knew his real parents but being rescued from an orphanage to have a dad who truly loved him, was much more important.  It’s a story all children love and it can be easily found on Kindle.  DNA plays a significant role with many of the characters in “Misplaced Trust.”  It is available at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

 Media Manipulation is prevalent in our daily lives. The articles on the internet are nothing more than fluff. Often there are writings about media manipulation.  They don’t seem to discuss what is really going on in the world.  It appears to be more important to discuss which celebrity is engaged, fighting or dating.  The wildfires currently in California are but a few lines.  The bad fires in Greece have already left the news.  These are serious situations.  Many of the individuals have lost their homes, vehicles, family members, pets, and all of their belongings.  Yet it is far less important that the basic celebrity gossip.  We need to know what is happening in the world.  They may claim it is not media manipulation, but in reality it is.  What about all the immigrants sneaking into Spain and Italy?  They countries cannot accommodate the huge numbers and yet there is again a short tiny paragraph.  Why didn’t they write about overcrowding, how these countries are expected to handle these situations, or even make any suggestions for assistance?  The same is true of the wild fires in California and Greece.  The media manipulates what they believe is most important and interesting to the average reader.  It says a lot about what they think of the reading public.  Frankly, it makes us all look stupid.  In the Good Gus series, the newspaper was the only source of news.  Available on Kindle, it was impossible for media manipulation.  The stories may show children what the world was really like prior to technology.  A quick history lesson!  If you think “Misplaced Trust” could possibly have a form of media manipulation, you would be correct.  However, it comes from the greedy money grubbers and they will say or do anything to get their money.  The book, ideal for a relaxing summer week-end reading, is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

There are often people in life who pretend to be your friend but in reality they are nothing more than a phony.  As children we learn early on who a phony is and we avoid them.  However, even as children adults who are a phony can trick us.  That is one of the reasons there is high abuse among children as they cannot tell the difference.  If they are tricked it will cloud their judgement as they mature.  They will find it difficult to distinguish the difference.  On “American Housewife” obviously a TV show in the U.S., her son has a friend who is rich but tends to be a phony.  In the most recent episode, the mother (Katy Nixon) was teaching him how to become a down to earth person and stop flaunting his parents money.  It is very disappointing as adults to realize a person you may really like is a phony.  If it is a best friend or a family member it is extremely difficult to handle.  Over time, though we all learn.  If it is a person you are in a relationship with, it can hurt almost as much.  When you learn he or she is not real, it can take time to adjust to the situation.  We all know one or two people who are phonies but they never existed in the Good Gus series.  Remember it is an ideal Easter gift and is available on Kindle worldwide.  If you are tired of anyone in your life who is a phony, it is better to face who they are and then move on.  As you recover, reading is always an ideal escape.  “Misplaced Trust” is a good start and is always available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

Every now and then people just have a rough day. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, it’s just difficult. It could be a family member giving you a bad time, arguing or fighting over inconsequential matters, or rude insulting people.  Even if you try to ignore what is happening, eventually it gets to you and your good day turns into a rough day.  There are individuals who seem to feel that if they are miserable, then everyone deserves to be as well.  It is difficult to ignore. Do you ever wonder about these people?  There are individuals who will go to their grave with a miserable attitude and will project it onto everyone they come into contact every day. As children we start with happy days.  We enjoy our lives and look forward to the little things in life.  Anything new is a treasure to us.  However, as we slowly mature, the children who are living in difficult situations, begin to have an effect on us and over time, we become those unhappy people.  We all have a rough day now and again at work.  However, for most of us, at the end of the day, we can leave it all behind.  Anyone who owns a business often is on call, or just can’t leave the day’s ups and downs at work.  It isn’t easy.  For the most part, many of us do have a rough day, but rather carry it through to our home life, we let it go when we walk away from our jobs.  It is a little more difficult now with the number of people who work at home.  The best thing is to close our office door and forget about it.  In the Good Gus series many of the characters did have a rough day now and again but it was always resolved with a positive ending.  If you like YouTube please visit Mae’s Story Time.  Your children may enjoy it.  The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide.  If you have had a rough day, take a breather with your tablet and read “Misplaced Trust.”  It is available 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

If you or a family member is having noticeable memory issues or possibly symptoms of dementia, seek professional medical help. The first thing you should understand is that memory issues can either be dementia or Alzheimer’s.  What many individuals don’t realize is that it can start as early as one’s forties.  If you see memory issues in yourself or someone else, also see if they are having impaired thoughts and behavioral changes. After a stroke occurs one may also develop vascular dementia.  If you believe that once you are diagnosed that there is no hope you are wrong. There are medications that can slow it down and engaging in mental exercises such as puzzles and reading regularly will help.  There is a man I know who is constantly doing word puzzles everyday.  It is clear that he has memory issues yet I think he is afraid to know what is really wrong.  If you exercise, have mental stimulation, improve your sleep and eat a healthy diet then it could even reverse cognitive decline.  As we all age, how often have you heard, “You are getting older now.  Of course you have memory issues.  It’s a natural part of aging.”  No it is not part of the aging process.  Just because you are getting older doesn’t mean your brain is going to stop working and you will fall into cognitive decline.  According to the World Health Organization, an estimated forty-seven million people are currently living with dementia worldwide.  If you think it’s slowing down, think again.  The WHO believes it will increase to seventy-five million by 2030.  If no one has memory issues in your family history, don’t rule it out for yourself.  Certain factors contribute to memory loss such as living near a busy road, taking certain medications, smoking, lack of exercise, and even a vitamin D deficiency could increase your risk of developing dementia. As you read this blog and begin thinking you have memory issues it may not be dementia or Alzheimer’s.  It’s quite possible that prescriptions, chronic stress, lack of proper nutrition and possibly deficiencies in vitamins B1 and B12 could lead to memory issues.  So rather than worry, seek medical help if you feel any of this article applies to you or a family member.  In the Good Gus series, there were older adults but no one had memory issues.  It is available on Kindle exclusviely worldwide.  If you choose reading to help your memory issues, please consider “Misplaced Trust.” It is available on these excellent e-book websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Yesterday, for the first time, I heard the words tone policing.  “Tone policing focuses on the emotion behind a message rather than the message itself – and you might think you’re helping by making the conversation more “comfortable.” This is a direct quote from an article on the internet regarding feminism by Robert Hugs.  People now have  a name for a way of quietly bullying individuals in an argument or discussion.  He refers to it as protecting privilege.  I am not sure I understand his idea of privilege.  He wrote a cartoon about how people use various phrases for tone policing during a discussion.  I have discussed this in previous blogs, but not in his way. Individuals will make statements such as:  “You are not acting like a mature adult.  You have too much anger and you need to remain calm so that we can discuss this rationally etc .”  He refers to tone policing as a “silencing Tactic.”  It is true.  When a person raises their voice to another individual, a reaction ensues.  Often if they are loud they will emotionally force the other person to be quiet.  Rather than allow them to speak, they literally shut them down.  There are, however, people who do not tolerate this type of behavior, and instead raise their voice to be even louder.  In Mr. Hugs’ cartoons, he stated that “people distant themselves emotionally, along with their fears, anger or frustration in order to be heard.”  There was a second article with a video in which Jonathan Scott expressed his admiration for the women’s marches held last week-end.  As a celebrity in both Canada and the United States, he wanted people to know that he supported the women.  Instead, he was instantly cyber bullied.  A form of tone policing via the internet.  Everyone is allowed their opinions, and if famous people choose to express theirs, they shouldn’t be bullied or tone policed.  Our children cannot learn if they are unable to see all points of view.  It is the only way they learn and form their own thoughts, ideas and opinions.  In the Good Gus Series, there definitely was no tone policing.  The series is still available exclusively on Kindle worldwide.  If family members are using tone policing tactics on you while you handle legal affairs, voice your opinion by reading important information in “Misplaced Trust” which is available on Kindle, Nook, Apple and several popular e-book websites.

mis-smilemis-textThere are times that people who know me misinterpret what I am saying in my blogs.  I recently wrote a blog entitled “Count On” and a family member thought that for sure it was directed towards them.  They couldn’t have been more wrong.  The person who believed this is one of the few individuals that I can count on in life for just about everything. Sadly, this happens to many people throughout life.  The circumstances may appear that way, yet the reality is that it’s not the whole story.  I often write about events that occur in life to family members, friends, etc.  Many of the comments for this blog seem to enjoy personally related experiences.  There are, however, individuals who mishear or misinterpret and become angry which leads to an argument.  I know an older gentlemen who misheard one day and went off in a huff simply because he perceived he was insulted.  If he wasn’t sure, he should have asked.  The news media, if you see any of the other articles, tend to use manipulation in such a way as to make sure that anyone who reads their stories will misinterpret the information and rumors will fly along with sales.  It is a great way for celebrities and famous people to receive publicity.  There is an old saying that whether it is good or bad, some publicity is better than none.  It doesn’t make sense but for celebrities they want their names out there and for people to constantly remember them.  There have been countless articles after Trump was elected as President of the United States about what all the rumors were prior to the election.  Apparently, press releases were set in motion to discredit Trump even though they were not true and anyone could easily misinterpret them into something terrible.  It is foolish to think or believe that when it comes to politics that anyone plays fair and doesn’t spread half truths.  The Good Gus books do not contain story lines that could be misinterpreted by young readers.  The books are a great source of reading for young children on chilly winter nights and are available exclusively on Kindle worldwide.  If you have family members who are misinterpreting you or you actions, take a break and read “Misplaced Trust” which is available on Kindle, Nook, Apple and several other popular e-book websites.

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