My daughter posted a sign on Facebook that said: “Accusations from a narcissist are actually confessions.” There were comments of people agreeing with this statement one hundred percent. All narcissists use the same vocabulary and say the same words. The fact that the sign said that their accusations were confessions is amazing. If you have ever dealt with a narcissist you would understand. In the media, accusations are an everyday occurance. They throw them out there and then wait to see what happens. Sometimes they are denied, proven to be just false or a new form of accusatory lies appear and the dust settles on the original victim. This is a staple in politics. As the politicians compete with one another, they start with all types of accusations. Often when they are proven false they simply move on to new ones. If a person doesn’t have proof, they should not say things that are untrue just to hurt another person. That is really all it amounts to. The majority of the time it is nothing more than lies. It even happens in elementary all the way up to high school. Once the words are spoken, the gossip spreads and before long a student is hurt. It doesn’t achieve anything. For the person dealing with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to confront them and solve your issues. In the Good Gus series Bad Bart was accusatory towards Bob. However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem and proved that Bad Bart was wrong and that there was a different approach that could solve the problem. You can easily access the books online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who think nothing of making accusations. The book would be great for holiday reading. It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
When I hear the words song and dance I think of old time TV shows and movies. They were all about the song and dance of people doing tap, waltzing, etc. Although today that phrase has another meaning. We hear it all the time from a variety of sources. The media loves to give the public a song and dance when they are changing the news, modifying it to their opinions and omitting the truth. It’s also true in everyday life. Now that numerous people are working from home, everything is different as well. For example, the work at home sales person who takes calls for the internet, cable, insurance, etc. is trained a very specific way. Yet, frequently when something unusual occurs, their rep follows the protocol only to be told by a supervisor that they are wrong and they should do something different. Then, when the rep asks if their team should know, they are told no. This is an interesting song and dance. How are these people supposed to do their jobs properly if they can’t follow the training? It’s fun being the customer when you are told that you have a unique circumstance and the rep calls you back with a variety of excuses which you then think is just a song and dance for the real situation. In the Good Gus series, there are stories with excuses primarily by the children and, of course, their parents already know it is a song and dance to cover up whatever they did wrong. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. In “Misplaced Trust” the beneficiaries always give a song and dance. They are perpetually lying which makes it very difficult which is why it is so important to have an estate plan. The book can open your eyes to making the right choices. You can find the book online at these fine websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster, Scribd and Tolino.
Many of the larger department stores, specialty stores and even some fast food stores are closing because of our changing times. COVID will not last forever but many business have lost so much money from walk-in traffic that they cannot continue. These changing times do call for many adjustments. Many stores are also closing and keeping an online presence only. The stimulus in the United States is supposed to help but without real sales everyday, it may be impossible. We all need to continue our vigilance. New companies will evolve and small businesses will open. During these changing times what I found interesting is that the wealthy became even richer. I heard it on CNBC. Whatever happens within the next six months will determine the life and death of many businesses. The changing times have also affected the school system. There may also be the possibility that home schooling will become a new way of education. For some children it is fabulous. For others, they need the visual learning with an instructor. It is clear that many types of continuing education programs are now online. They are also offering extreme discounts as people aren’t even sure if they will have a job when the pandemic ends. The trades will remain safe as we will always need a plumber, appliance repair, mechanics and more. There were changing times in the Good Gus series. New inventions were the start of changing times for them. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is a good read for these cold wintery days. It is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Have noticed the way people drive is getting worse? Today I saw a young man on a motorcycle go back and forth in a crisscross pattern in traffic. That is dangerous for everyone concerned. Another driver was so upset that there had been a delay in traffic to allow people to cross the street, that he sped through a red light at rate above and beyond the limit. As we all try to keep in our appropriate lanes, people cut in front of us, tailgate, or if in an opposing lane, drift back and forth. They don’t even look drunk, they appear to be unfocused. I also love the people who are so busy on their phones they almost hit you and ignore what they are doing. Learning to drive and continuing to do so is serious business. It’s a quicker way to go from one place to the next without walking. When I lived in Ireland, I could not drive on the left hand side of the road. On Saturdays, I would walk up to a specific grocery and purchase everything I liked that was on sale. Now that I am in the states at the moment, I appreciate driving. There were times though, that I would walk to the Post for packages, and the clerk knew me so well, he would ask people to give me a ride which helped on various occasions. People need to simply pay attention to the way they drive and not take their anger, frustrations, etc out on others. That is how accidents occur and people are injured. In the Good Gus series, horses and wagons were a way of life. In “The Special Gift,” it took over a day for Sheriff Gus to reach Monahans to find the orphanage. It took even longer to find the orphanage as it was out of town. In the end, though, it was a Happy Christmas for all. The series is online on Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. If the crowds and fear of COVID are getting to you, give an online book to the adults on your gift list. There is still time for “Misplaced Trust.” It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
“Teach your Children Well” was a song by Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young which was released in 1963. It should be released again today. Why is it that people don’t feel it’s necessary to instruct their children in cleanliness, manners, eating, and cleaning up after themselves? I know a man whose sister won’t allow him and his two teenagers at her home any more because they are messy, lazy, slobs. She loves them but she doesn’t want to clean up after them. People need to return to the ‘old days’ where manners were part of their upbringing. Teach your children to do chores, cook, vacuum, mop, sew, laundry, iron, clean the home areas both inside and out. How can you expect them to survive or do plan on waiting on them when you are in your eighties and they are still living at home? I know a young man in his thirties who no one can stand to live with. He lives with his parents and they have a woman clean and pick up after him. They aren’t doing their son any favors. We all need to teach our children while they are young. How would you feel if your son or daughter went to a sleepover and the parent called the next day to say, “That although your child is very nice I don’t want him or her to return. They left a mess, didn’t clean up after themselves, etc. so they are no longer welcome in my home.” I imagine you would be angry until you realized it was really your fault. Do it now before you end up being their maid when you are old and gray. In the Good Gus series, chores were expected along with cleanliness and being neat. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” has many tips but one important one was teach your children to be fair, treat their siblings with respect and don’t be greedy. The estate plan guide is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Are you tired of the get rich quick ads that bombard us on our phones, YouTube, Facebook, and others? I decided to do a bit of research on several of these get rich quick ads. This is what I found and my opinions. The first get rich quick was for a company out of California. They assured you, although did not promise, that you could change your life with their program. It sounded interesting and it was. They had the long video which I like to refer to as the ‘reel in’ to get and hold your attention. It took me over the course of a few days to listen to the entire video. The one thing they have learned is you cannot fast forward. The owner of the firm discussed his great success. He said he was only allowing one hundred individuals into the program. He said he had so much money that he had to allow more people to join. Towards the end he listed out the cost of everything in his program. At the very beginning it was stated that there were no start up costs. Not true. The amount of money for his course was well in excess of the twelve hundred mark. However, because he had so much money, he was willing to offer his course for only $37.00 as it is in the states. So, here is my question. If you have so much money, and want more, why aren’t you hiring and training people on a commission basis, giving them leads, and assisting them to make money for you and them? Answer, he needs the $37.00. Let me give you one more. This is an ad that starts out advertising that you can make money doing voice overs for other people’s’ work. However, the reality is you need to write a book, then publish it, then put it on Amazon, and then maybe you can hire someone to read it and offer it online. Seriously, there are no words for this. Yet, I think people are falling every day for the get rich quick schemes. In the Good Gus series, there were no get rich quick schemes. The series is online at Kindle, with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” would be an ideal audio book if I could just figure out how to promote it. My comments along the way about wills and estate plans would add to the listeners’ interest. You can easily find it online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Have you noticed how easy it is to discredit someone? It occurs everywhere. It’s in the gossip papers, online, in court, and by word of mouth. What I don’t understand is why people want to do it? Once a person says something negative to another person, that person repeats it and before you know it the original discredit spreads like a wildfire. I know people do it to make themselves feel better. How long can that last? There are people who enjoy saying negative things about others. It’s their way of seeking revenge. I know a man that has no friends. He is lonely and would love a girlfriend. However, he loves gossip, and even if it’s not true he spreads it anyways. People quickly realize he is lying and no longer associate with him. Wherever he goes, or wherever he lives, he has no one. People are who they are. Oh, they can pretend for a while but eventually the world sees who they really are. If you are involved with a person, be it at work, a colleague, an acquaintance, or even in a legal matter remember this. The person who says that a person did something yet the other not only claims innocence, but is charming and so personable that you have to believe them, then you should realize that is just a front. Underneath is a person who is a liar, possibly a narcissist, and has the goal of destroying you while seeking revenge. This can easily be documented. In the Good Gus series, no one was allowed to discredit anyone. The children face this in school, they don’t need to read it in books. The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” has characters easily seeking to discredit others. The book is a gread read under a shade tree in this heat. You can find it at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino. I appreciate the continued interest in my crowdfunding. The site is: https://www.gofundme.com/f/multicultural-gift-of-reading
When you hear the word spoiled your mind immediately thinks about children. It’s not just about children anymore. There are many spoiled children particularly in western countries. They are used to getting everything they want, having their own way and not having to work to earn money. Many children don’t even do chores which they really should. It gives them responsibility and if they earn a small allowance then they can save for a toy or item that they might want to purchase. It also teaches them how to save and the value of money. They are also spoiled because many of them eat take away almost every day. If they had to eat what was put on the table, they might think twice about being so wasteful. As they mature, they demand designer clothes, the latest electronics and eventually a car. The top brand isn’t everything. Dressing nicely, in clean clothes with neat hair is far more important. I once obtained a job simply because I wore a suit and high heels. The other candidate wore a skirt and blouse with flats. She was sure she would land the job because her mother worked there. Instead, she ended up in the mail room as a clerk. Adults are spoiled also. They think nothing of spending a fortune on outside food rather than eat at home or at least take cooking lessons and learn how to cook. During this difficult time, many famous TV chefs are giving cooking lessons online and on TV. In the Good Gus series no child or adult was spoiled. Everyone was expected to carry their own weight and work together. The series is online at Nook, Kindle and Waterstones. In “Misplaced Trust” many of the characters were spoiled and expected large inheritances. They were frequently in for a rude awakening. It is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Being shallow is a personality trait that many people prefer to ignore. There was once a movie entitled “Shallow Hal” which clearly proved that the man was not real. I never watched it but saw the description and review. It was popular but I didn’t think a story about being shallow should even exist. During these difficult times, I have been watching old shows such as “Doogie Howser, M.D.” I saw an episode last night which displayed a shallow girl. Doogie’s friend Vinnie appeared to rarely have success dating any girls. He suggested that Doogie introduce him to a blind girl as she might like him for who he really is. Doogie was against the idea but Vinnie was available one day when the girl had just finished being checked by Doogie. Of course, he introduced him. The girl like Vinnie immediately. He fell for her. They did things together and he looked after her. Her parents even liked Vinnie. Then the call came for the cornea transplant. Vinnie remained devoted to her. When the day arrived that she could see, it was clear the first time she saw Vinnie she was disappointed. He was heartbroken. However, it proved that if you like a person for themselves, without sight, you are truly shallow if you are no longer interested in him when you can see he is not a handsome guy. It was a great point for the show and the viewers of that period. In the Good Gus series, no one is shallow. I wanted all the characters to be real to give the children a positive example. Also, because the books are all multicultural, the characters are enjoyed for who they are not their ethnicity or the color of their skin. The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. Hard copies are currently only available by mail. “Misplaced Trust” is full of shallow characters. The book is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.
Hello everyone! Through weeks of effort the website and blog are finally back! As everyone is staying home now, it’s a great time to read a few of my past blogs. It seems that many countries and states within those countries are on lockdown. I hate the term but we really shouldn’t complain. Anne Frank was living in a small confined area for twenty-five months. Her only option was staying at home. It does appear that some of the hoarding in the United States is beginning to slow down. The tissue paper issue was out of control. Over the decades many people were confined due to wars. Rather than whine and act as if everyone is suffering, we should remember the positives in our lives. As parents moan about the fact that their children aren’t in school, they should consider homeschooling. They can not only be taught their lessons, but how to cook, sew, really clean, balance a checkbook and even a bit of family history. A friend of mine in Galway, Ireland, who’s mum’s was visiting and now is staying at home with her and her family indefinitely as she cannot fly home to Poland. Her family is delighted to have the extra time with her. We are all used to our freedom but it’s better to be safe than sick. Staying at home with the TV and reading is at least a plus. If you have neglected your reading, now is the time to start again. Of course, the libraries are closed, but you can order online and choose to read my books for yourself and/or children. With everything happening, I have not finished the “Christmas Pageant” featuring the new characters Fiona, Helen and Sean Dunne. I had many plans with various schools to read to the children with an event at the end of the school year. Unfortunately, the virus made other plans for me. Remember, while you are staying at home, the Good Gus series is available online at Nook, Kindle and Waterstones. “”Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.