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My daughter posted a sign  on Facebook that said: “Accusations from a narcissist are actually confessions.”  There were comments of people agreeing with this statement one hundred percent.  All narcissists use the same vocabulary and say the same words.  The fact that the sign said that their accusations were confessions is amazing.  If you have ever dealt with a narcissist you would understand. In the media, accusations are an everyday occurance.  They throw them out there and then wait to see what happens.  Sometimes they are denied,  proven to be just false or a new form of accusatory lies appear and the dust settles on the original victim.  This is a staple in politics.  As the politicians compete with one another, they start with all types of accusations.  Often when they are proven false they simply move on to new ones.  If a person doesn’t have proof, they should not say things that are untrue just to hurt another person.  That is really all it amounts to.  The majority of the time it is nothing more than lies.  It even happens in elementary all the way up to high school.  Once the words are spoken, the gossip spreads and before long a student is hurt.  It doesn’t achieve anything.  For the person dealing with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to confront them and solve your issues.  In the Good Gus series Bad Bart was accusatory towards Bob.  However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem and proved that Bad Bart was wrong and that there was a different approach that could solve the problem.  You can easily access the books online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who think nothing of making accusations.  The book would be great for holiday reading.  It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 

As cell phones have become more popular, people are dropping their landlines. They are also bringing them everywhere. I find it amazing that they bring them to the restroom.  I was on the phone one time with a client and all of a sudden I heard the toilet flush.  It was appalling. If you are a church going person, do you ever notice the number of people on their phones?  I saw a short video about a woman telling her pastor that she was not attending service any more.  She couldn’t take watching people playing on their phones, gossiping, and not focusing on the service.  Why are phones suddenly so important?  Before COVID, people would be in restaurants on their phones.  Aren’t you supposed to be enjoying a meal and having pleasant conversation?  If parents allow it, their children will be on the phone during dinner.  That is the special time of the day where we all speak about what we did, school, work, etc.  It’s not take a bite, answer a text, a call or play a game.  How many times have you passed a group of teens and they are all together but there is no conversation.  They are all on their  cell phones messaging each other within the group.  What happened to good old fashioned conversation?  It almost seems like it has gone out of style.  In the Good Gus series, cell phones did not exist.  When families ate together they talked about their day.  We should all return to that.  The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” can bring relief from boredom and this cold weather.  It is on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Everybody’s talking today about Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. I find it amazing that Harry , as part of the royal family, spoke out.  Previously, the servants, assistants and maids while they lived in England, complained bitterly about Meghan.  Many people have a variety of thoughts and the comments are non stop.  It does make me wonder as you listen  that there is a possibility that she was not treated kindly, but when you listen to the snippets of the interview it truly sounds she was picked on and a victim of the royal family.  It’s difficult to understand why they gave this interview.  They have plenty of money.  There are many individuals who will not take this well.  The continual banter on the internet shows everybody’s talking about the royal family and of course, politics. Including Kate Middleton and giving her a name of ‘waity Katie’ was at the very least demeaning.  Most countries who are free have groups who do not agree.  You will find rumors, innuendos, and lies about each side. Now that Trump has left office, the media can’t let go of him.  There are articles every day about him.  He is out of office, move on.  Do you ever wonder that they just don’t have enough to write about so they go to the old reliables?  I dislike gossip, revealing family secrets even if you are famous, the tabloids, continual data on anyone famous, etc.  We all have problems, secrets, and difficulties.  To spread it out into the world for money is wrong in my mind.  In the Good Gus series, there were problems but no secrets or gossip.  It sets a bad example for the young reader.  The series is available on Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of all the above.  Many individuals find it an interesting read.  It can be found on these websites: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 Have you noticed how easy it is to discredit someone?  It occurs everywhere.  It’s in the gossip papers, online, in court, and by word of mouth.  What I don’t understand is why people want to do it?  Once a person says something negative to another person, that person repeats it and before you know it the original discredit spreads like a wildfire.  I know people do it to make themselves feel better.  How long can that last?  There are people who enjoy saying negative things about others.  It’s their way of seeking revenge.  I know a man that has no friends.  He is lonely and would love a girlfriend.  However, he loves gossip, and even if it’s not true he spreads it anyways.  People quickly realize he is lying and no longer associate with him.  Wherever he goes, or wherever he lives, he has no one.  People are who they are.  Oh, they can pretend for a while but eventually the world sees who they really are.  If you are involved with a person, be it at work, a colleague, an acquaintance, or even in a legal matter remember this.  The person who says that a person did something yet the other not only claims innocence, but is charming and so personable that you have to believe them, then you should realize that is just a front.  Underneath is a person who is a liar, possibly a narcissist, and has the goal of destroying you while seeking revenge.  This can easily be documented.  In the Good Gus series, no one was allowed to discredit anyone.  The children face this in school, they don’t need to read it in books.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” has characters easily seeking to discredit others.  The book is a gread read under a shade tree in this heat.  You can find it at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino. I appreciate the continued interest in my crowdfunding.  The site is:  https://www.gofundme.com/f/multicultural-gift-of-reading

Innuendos are dangerous. Today I saw an article about a woman whose life was destroyed over fifty years ago based on innuendos and rumors. No one checked the facts before it was printed in a newspaper.  People do this all the time in the gossip magazines and even in the news now.  Whatever happened to thinking before speaking or writing to make sure you are telling the truth?  That poor woman in the article lost her career over falsehoods.  The article doesn’t say what happened to.  She was an actress.  Yet the innuendos were so damaging that she could never work in the movie industry again.  People don’t realize what they do by spreading rumors and lies as it is not a laughing matter.  When we were in high school, it was a daily occurance.  The boys in particular loved to insinuate about girls they had dated making them feel manly.  In reality, they were only hurting themselves.  They obviously did harm the girls’ and their reputations.  Life in these times isn’t easy but it’s also unnecessary to flood the internet, Twitter, Facebook and any other social media sites with innuendos, lies, gossips, assumptions or falsehoods.  We need to be returning to being kind decent human beings.  That is the real basis of the Good Gus series.  It has been a multicultural series for ten years.  It is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

The royal family has no privacy. Every move they make there is media speculating what is going on and then writing about it.  Right now their lives and what is happening within their family is becoming public knowledge.  Just because you are from the royal family doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have privacy.  What makes all news and media groups feel that whatever happens needs to be public?  I don’t think they would appreciate it much if their privacy was invaded and all their thoughts, arguments, troubles, etc. became public.  Not only is it embarrassing but the world should mind their own business.  Gossip is fodder for many people.  They ignore the rules of etiquette and probe, spy, and possibly harass to gain information.  Celebrities have the problem.  If they run to the store and aren’t wearing fancy clothes or make-up it is posted all over the internet with foolish reasons as to why they look that way.  Did it ever occur to these gossip mongers that they were in the middle of cooking a meal and needed an item?  The news used to be about real events.  Now there is fake news.  There are also people wanting their fifteen minutes of fame and lie to gain attention.  When does it end?  Maybe average people should investigate the media mongers and see how they like their privacy being invaded and going viral on the net.  In the Good Gus series there was no need for privacy.  There were no gossip mongers, media, or anyone looking to harm others.  The series is available online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  Hard copies are at the UPS Store, Tierrasanta, and at Balboa Park tomorrow with Miss Patty.  “Misplaced Trust” does have characters who utilize lack of privacy.  It is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Why are people mocking and bullying Greta Thunberg? She is a brave girl standing up for her beliefs.  Teens are mocked and ridiculed particularly as they are about to be part of the future millenniums. Rather than sit at home reading fashion magazines, playing video games, hanging at the mall or trying to figure out the latest trends, she has pushed forward for climate change.  Yes it is a growing concern and people certainly talk about it.  However, very few do anything about it.  Even George Soros placed a ‘plant’ in her group.  What is wrong with people?  This girl is taking climate awareness to an entirely new level.  Yet, instead of applauding her, she is being tricked, ridiculed and even ignored.  Whomever her parents are, they raised her with a conscious. Of course, anyone who doesn’t like her or her climate action summit, are not participating.  Even the media hasn’t give her the appropriate publicity she deserves.  They would rather focus on any and all gossip and celebrities.  Pollution is a real problem, and the climate does vacillate.  However, there is not sufficient scientific data to determine if this is normal or if there is a real issue.  She did say that people were dying from poor air quality and she is correct.  I hope all the bullies are really proud of themselves for picking on a sixteen year old girl.  The only bully who also had a temper tantrum was Bad Bart in the Good Gus series, book one, “Pecos Meets Bad Bart.”  You can find the series on Kindle and Waterstones and at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  There were also bullies in “Misplaced Trust.”  Your choices online are 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Why is deceit so easy for most people?  If you think I am exaggerating, look at the political campaigns in the United States.  You can’t find the truth.  If if exists, it is so buried in lies and deceit it makes it impossible to come to an understanding of the issues.  Everyday my email is full of political parties and candidates attacking one another.  I have tried to unsubscribe, but it is completely ignored.  For the first time voter, wading through all the gossip, innuendos, rumors, lies and often insulting remarks including bigotry, would seem a daunting task.  Hollywood gossip loves deceit.  They thrive on it as does  the magazines you see in line at the grocery.  Even if you are interested in an article on the internet, it is so full of possible teasers that you can never read the article as they are trying to entice you with adverts.  For example, anti-aging products make outlandish claims.  Are they ever true?  They certainly have celebrities saying their products are fabulous.  However, the discriminating buyer does his or her research through reviews and can easily spot the deceit.  It’s really sad that the truth has become a joke.  A person who does tell the truth is rare.  They are to be cherished and revered.  The only thing that does help in many western countries are the consumer laws.  They force companies to sell products, make the appropriate claims, warranties, etc.  Sadly, that cannot be said for every  company as they do find ways to get around the laws.  The pharmaceutical companies always protect themselves with disclaimers.  Unfortunately, they speak so quickly you have no idea what they really say.  In the Good Gus series, deceit was never an option in any story.  Yes children ignored their parents, but no book contains a character lying.  I felt it was import to keep the truth alive.  The second Christmas book is entitled, “The Christmas Pageant.”  Remember, the series is available online at Kindle and Waterstones and hard copies at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Anyone in the public eye is a target for people to discredit them and their reputations.  It’s easy to criticize.  Look at the tabloids, the internet and even the news.  Any member of the royal family cannot make a move without someone trying to discredit them and make them look bad.  Do you ever wonder if the shoe was on the other foot, how would they feel?  The favorite target for these types of individuals is anyone in the news, celebrities, politicians, and if you look locally any and all of their neighbors.  Homeowner associations are notorious for putting forth effort to discredit anyone they dislike or that they may be jealous of.  Often the people in office of the homeowner associations tend to let the power overtake them.  Then, if they are removed from office or the board, they retaliate trying to discredit anyone they feel may be against them.  It’s all foolish.  These people live petty lives.  The average person doesn’t have time for any of this nonsense.  They would prefer to follow their dreams, plan their next holiday, spend time with their family and friends and in general try to enjoy their lives with the least amount of hassle.  Reading is a great escape from people who try to discredit you.  There is no point in trying to defend yourself because not everyone is going to like you.  However, books allow you to escape into a world that is relaxing and enjoyable.  This is true for young children.  The Good Gus series offers the escape of adventure along with good morals and values.  It is readily available at Waterstones and Kindle with hard copies at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” is only a click away at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

children's books, Good Gus Books Often people justify their actions whether they are right or wrong.  Frequently, a person who is in the wrong will tend to justify their behavior.  They may have plausible excuses but it still doesn’t make it right.  Everyday in the media people, including the reporters, justify whatever is written.  The worst part is that there is generally no justification for bad behavior, harm to others, gossip, lies, etc.  As human beings, we should act decently towards others and not expect people to make changes just because we say so.  When immigrants moved to the United States they did so to escape the disagreeable life they had in their countries.  They learned English and adapted to the American ways.  Now, however, people expect to be treated special.  They want their language listed on all forms and if you call a government agency they demand to speak to a person that can understand their language.  Their justifications for this boil down to they expect to be treated better than the other citizens.  There are even groups that feel that if you want to decorate for Easter you shouldn’t.  Their ideals and goals are more important.  People will say or do anything to justify their actions.  It is wrong and unfair to believe that your opinions are the only ones that matter.  When Bad Bart demanded chocolate ice cream in “Pecos Meets Bad Bart,” he attempted to justify his temper tantrum because the sign on Bob’s Sweet Shop said they served vanilla and chocolate.  Sheriff Gus fixed the situation but the point was that if the shop was temporarily out of chocolate, there was no need for his behavior.  You can easily read to your young reader, books one through four on Kindle.  The behavior of many of the characters in “Misplaced Trust” completely justified their actions because they felt entitled.  It is good reading for the weather that has suddenly turned cold again.  It is available at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

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