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Good Gus Books, Children Books, Cowboys  People continually pass judgment on one another.  You see it in everyday life, in movies, on the internet and in public places.  I have never understood this.  What is it that makes people think that it is acceptable?  In the workplace, the workmates pass judgment on a variety of things.  They make remarks about their co-workers clothes, shoes, hair, and overall appearance.  The criticize their food choices particularly if they bring their own food.  I have never been a person to eat take away at the office.  I always brought my lunch.  I really didn’t care what others thought.  While they are so busy passing judgment, they were neglecting their work.  I saw a cute story about a set of twins.  One twin was quite popular and had her own group.  Her sister was quiet and shy.  The popular twin and her friends continually would pass judgment on the shy sister.  They made fun of her clothes and one day even threw a tomato at her dress.  Their mom had passed and the dad heard the two girls arguing one day as the popular twin and her friends had cut up the quiet girl’s dress that she had made for prom.  He said it was about time they knew the real score.  The shy twin was born healthy and vibrant.  The popular twin was failing.  The doctors said there was nothing they could do but a nurse had a better idea.  She put the healthy twin in with her and before long she began to thrive as well.  The dad said, “So you see, your sister saved your life.” After that the popular twin realized the value of her sister.  The next day they went to school together and no one was allowed to pass judgment, criticize or do anything negative to her sister.  A valuable lesson.  Always appreciate people and never pass judgment on anyone.  You could someday be in their shoes.  In the Good Gus series no one was allowed to criticize anyone.  It would have been negative reading and a bad example. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who thought nothing of passing judgment on their benefactors or their shared heirs.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Yesterday, I re-watched “Legally Blonde.” It still overwhelms me how cruel people were to Elle Woods just because she was blonde. They considered her to be dumb and stupid.  The writers did an excellent job in portraying her as a smart person.  In one of the scenes she walked into an expensive dress shop. One of the sales clerks said to her colleague, “Watch this.  I will sell this dumb blonde this dress at an inflated price” She proceeded to show Elle the dress and then Elle asked a few questions.  The woman said it was the finest fabric with specialized stitching.  When the clerk was finished, Elle politely told her that the dress was a fake, the stitching didn’t exist, and the fabric was not silk. The clerk’s face dropped and she walked away.  When Elle told here parents she wanted to go to Harvard they thought she was crazy.  Of course, she did get in. Once again, however, people humiliated her because she was a blonde.  I find it amazing as people dye their hair blonde and many are well known, famous and wealthy.  No one would dare criticize them.  Prejudging takes on a new perspective when you are criticizing and making fun of a person because their hair is blonde.  It’s not any better than all the other rude and snide remarks people make about others because of their clothes, lack of money, disabilities, and so much more.  In the Good Gus series it was important to me that no one criticized another character.  The series is online and ideal for this weather.  You can easily find it on Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. “Misplaced Trust” is also available to pass the time online at: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

Have you ever noticed that people can’t seem to stop asking questions that are really none of their business? If you are single, people ask if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend.  If you become engaged they want to know when you are getting married, at what location, if you are registered anywhere, etc. That is followed by are you going to live in an apartment or buy a home. Once you get married, they continue asking more questions such as when are you going to start a family?  If they don’t care for your answer they criticize, and ask why you are waiting.  Once you have a child, the asking continues with will you have more.  If you have a few more children, it moves on to why do you have so many. If you still haven’t bought a home, the asking continues with why not and when.  If you are in a relationship and it ends, once you start dating, guess what?  Why did you move on so quickly.  If you are older, when are you going to retire?  If they don’t like your answer, they decide you need advice whether you want it or not.  If you do retire, they ask how you fill your days?  It’s endless all along the way giving their advice that you really don’t want.  It is your life.  Be proud of yourself and your decisions.  You are the person that matters not the people asking continual questions.  In the Good Gus series that facet of asking was left out of every story.  It was a great day at Balboa Park, in San Diego, California.  There was also a March of Dimes walk so the park was overflowing with adults and children, many who were interested in the series.  Available on Kindle and at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California, it’s a great way to kick off the summer reading for the children in your life.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters asking questions.  You can relax this week-end reading it by clicking on these locations: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

Lately everything seems to be out of control in the news, on the TV and the internet.  The continual bashing, shaming, insults, accusations, lies, fake news and more is all too  much.  These people do not have lives.  They feed off of other people’s and feel they can condemn, criticize, make insulting remarks and in general show a total lack of good manners.   As children we were raised that if you couldn’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all.  The other old phrase, “Silence is golden’ should still exist.  People’s mouths and their computers are out of control.  Does anyone believe that the writers of all this would like it written about them?  There is little or no respect among individuals any more.  People tend to say and do whatever they please regardless of the consequences.  I have previously written about my condo association.  Now, it is absolutely out of control.  They are having recall elections, people are resigning including the current attorney, and the inflammatory remarks are flying faster than a speeding rocket.  You would think that adults would have respect for their community and its residents.  Their feelings, perceived sightings, insults, and innuendos are far more important that keeping the community safe and high property values.  Their behavior is insulting and inconsiderate to the entire community.  In the Good Gus series, in book two, “The Cattle are Restless,” they did become out of control.  The young reader will need to read the book, available on Kindle, to see how the story ends.  There are chapters in “Misplaced Trust” where the characters do seem out of control.  The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino

There are many individuals who are embarrassed easily. It can be about their appearance, their circumstances, their income or lack thereof, or behavior.  For some people it doesn’t take much to feel embarrassed.  When we were all in school we may have been ashamed of our clothes if the other boys and girls dressed nicer.  There were many families who couldn’t afford new clothing so they wore hand-me-downs.  It could be embarrassing if you received clothes from a girl who always dressed nicely and distinctively if you were the recipient.  The other girls and possibly a few boys would probably make comments.  Even in this day there are many people who rely on the kindness of others.  At Christmas many malls and churches put an ‘Angel Tree’ for anyone who will buy new items for those in need.  In some cases, the requests are from senior citizens.  They really need the extra help.  They may have worked their entire lives, paid all their bills, but just never had quite enough money to retire.  They were probably embarrassed to even ask but since it’s all anonymous they may feel less humiliated.  There is no shame if you do your best. There are people who will always criticize, complain, or say rude words to individuals to see if they can make them react and make them feel embarrassed.  In the Good Gus series,  there was no discussions about sharing clothes or even feeling embarrassed.  The stories are available on Kindle worldwide and books one and two on YouTube at Mae’s Story Time.  If you are feeling embarrassed,don’t let it affect you.  Take a few moments to read a book.  “Misplaced Trust” is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

Every once in a while we all reach the breaking point.  It usually arrives when there has been too much stress.  If a person is unemployed, and they have applied for what they feel is the perfect job, only to have it pass to someone else can turn into the breaking point.  Families can often cause anyone to reach the breaking point.  They can be too demanding, argue too much, criticize or just be obnoxious.  All that can affect you until one day, it becomes so difficult that you reach the breaking point.  Even when you tell them to stop, somehow they just don’t listen.  It’s as if they are always right and you are always wrong.  Even when you do your best to solve an issue, break up an argument, explain you are too old to be told what to do, or to just end the criticism, they never seem to listen.  There are people who believe that if you are related that you never do enough for them.  Even when you do your best, it is never enough.  A couple of friends of mine who have adult children have expressed that if you only have two, each one believes that you, as the parent, are doing everything for their sibling and nothing for them.  Then, there appears to be a jealousy factor.  Each child, no matter how much you do for them, somehow they are jealous of the other child.  Clearly, as parents, even though the children were raised the same and treated equally, somewhere along the line we failed.  Is a millennium thing?  Who knows?  It does, however, cause us to reach the breaking point and  some individuals completely lose it.  In the Good Gus series, Sheriff Gus does not reach the breaking point.  When there is chaos, he is cool, calm and collected.  The series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide.  If you have reached your breaking point, find a quiet relaxing spot, grab your tablet and read “Misplaced Trust.”  It is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 Have you noticed that wherever you live, celebrities or want to be are constantly in the limelight making news?  It is understandable that any notice of them is good for their public relations.  Yet, they are constantly making news and commenting about people, things, etc. just so their opinions can be heard and they are acknowledged.  It is almost as if they believe that we are all stupid and that whatever they say matters.  We all have minds and can think for ourselves.  Yet, somehow, by making news the famous people are recognized, in the limelight and giving their opinions on what we should think or believe.  My grandfather used to say that people will talk about anything just to be noticed.  Is it possible that they have an inferiority complex?  If you glance through the news on the internet, what do you see?  Many of the articles include celebrities and their lives.  They also express their opinions about world leaders, events, and their own lifestyles.  How does this affect us in any way?  There are serious issues around the world, yet making news by being exposed at a fashion show, real housewives shows with all their drama, scandals with sports figures, new hairstyles, who is dating whom and so forth isn’t really relevant.  None of this is making news.  It’s more like grabbing headlines and please notice me.  Yet, many of the famous people discuss their political views.  They criticize and attack anyone they dislike.  Again, their business.  The sad part is that if the average citizen spoke out, problems would arise.  They are attacked verbally and in some cases physically.  Recently, a group of older people were holding a rally to support President Trump.  They were brutally attacked by individuals who were against him.   Several individuals were hospitalized.  The point being is that it was a peaceful display of support and those people who attacked them were not allowing them their opinions.  No one has the right to attack anyone just because they oppose their views.  Sadly, though, that is the way the world is which is why there are so many wars.  In the Good Gus series there was a newspaper shop, but there were no famous people quoted everyday making news.  The published series is available exclusively on Kindle worldwide.  Rather than be bored by celebrities making news, treat yourself to a break and read “Misplaced Trust.”  It is available on Nook, Apple, Kindle, 24 Symbols, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd and Tolino.

beautiful horsebeautiful sign Everyone has a different definition of the word beautiful. It is not only applicable to people, but also to nature, food, and even animals.  What may appear beautiful to one person can be unattractive to someone else.  Lately, on Facebook, a few females have posted their pictures.  They have been told they were ugly, unattractive, anything but beautiful.  The women were missing limbs, yet they were still really beautiful.  There have also been postings of down syndrome children.  They are so gorgeous and full of love, it is impossible to imagine individuals calling them names.  What is wrong with people not seeing the true beauty of children and adults?  Just because they have a physical difference, doesn’t mean that they aren’t gorgeous.  I once worked with a man for one and one half years before I notice he was missing three fingers.  I may have never noticed except for the fact he was doing something that clearly showed his missing fingers.  It is appalling that people criticize individuals with handicaps especially children.  The words are painful and only remind the individuals of their difficulties.  If no one ever criticized them, they might never think that there was anything wrong or that they were considered by some to be ugly.  It’s a sad state of affairs that individuals think that way.  Most beautiful people are because whom they are on the inside.  They always have a smile or kind word for others.  It only takes a moment to brighten someone’s day.  If a person holds a door for you besides saying thank you, you could add, “You must have a wonderful mother as she has given you such good manners.” Do you have any idea how much that cheers people and suddenly they have a wonderful smile on their faces? Appreciation and the wonder of nature in all its splendor  are truly beautiful to most individuals.  However, there are people who hate the outdoors, and can’t see the stunning attributes of the grass, flowers, sky, moon, and even all the various types of trees.  It’s a shame as they are missing wonderful memories of beautiful places.  The illustrations in the Good Gus Series are indeed beautiful.  They light up a child’s face when they see the pictures.  If the so call beautiful heirs are making your life miserable, tell them to find a hobby while you read “Misplaced Trust” at maecharlesbooks.com. (books available on Kindle)

find fault fordfinding faultWhat makes people find fault with others? Is it a lack of confidence, a feeling that makes them feel more superior, or are they just plain rude.  I have heard individuals comment about different people and their appearance.  I know a person who feels he can say anything even though he is overweight and dresses poorly.  It always amazed me that he criticized individuals because they were heavy, while he was not a slim Jim or even physically fit.  He would also make comments about how people dressed when he himself was no where near a fashion plate.  Family members will find fault with others simply because they feel they can.  They will criticize if they ask you to do something and either you do it wrong or you didn’t have time for it.  They don’t seem to take into account that you may be busy and just didn’t get to their request by dropping everything to do it. The same is true in the workplace.  A co-worker will ask you for something such as a document and you are right in the middle of another document. If it is a supervisor or manager, you are immediately expected to drop what you are doing and provide the item.  Yet, if you are working on a difficult document, and ask if they can wait for a few, often you are met with hostility.  They may also find fault with you and consider you ineligible for a promotion or raise.  Demands that people put on others are sometimes more than they can handle at a given time.  Often people need to be considerate and give the other person a chance.  If a person is overwhelmed with work, responsibilities, duties, etc. they may not always be able to honor requests in a timely manner.  The requester should take that into consideration and not find fault.  There are people that are so unhappy that they find fault with everything.  They could be at a gourmet restaurant, seated in first class on a plane or train, a designer clothes shop, and still find fault with the food, the accommodations, the clothes, etc. Even if it was all exactly the way they wanted it or liked it, there will be one excuse or another to criticize, complain and find fault.  If the heirs of a will or trust continue to find fault with you, visit maecharlesbooks.com and read “Misplaced Trust.”  It might just give you the assistance you need.

 

finger pointingcriticizeofter+people+that+criticize+your+life What makes people think they have the right to criticize other individuals? You see it all the time, but what gives them the idea that they can do this? It just gets old when people criticize when there is no need for it. For example, my illustrator posted on Facebook that black lives matter. I posted that all lives matter. One of her friends found it necessary to criticize my statement. What was wrong with it? Everyone’s life does matter. Today on Facebook, a woman of color posted the following: “Black lives matter, white lives matter, all lives matter.” I wonder if she will receive criticism.  Do you find that the person always so willing to criticize has possibly the idea that they are perfect and never make mistakes, dress in the latest fashion styles, has impeccable grammar, and is educated by what they consider the finest college or university in the world? Seriously, they probably aren’t.  There is an internet show, that I have never seen but heard about.  It’s called the “Tipsy Gypsy Chicks.” It is hosted by California Kayt with her co-host Heather B.  The host is a large girl.  They have a number of regular followers for their show.  However, about one month ago a viewer had the audacity to criticize Kayt about her size.  He apparently called in and they had to disconnect him.  Their regular fans were furious. Several phoned in to say that they loved the show and enjoyed Kayt.  Did this man who felt the need to criticize have nothing better to do?  Is it possible that he is a large man himself and therefore hates anyone else who may be as well?  It all sound ridiculous.  One of the things I dislike the most is people who criticize while disguising it as a possible compliment.  For example, “That’s a lovely dress Jane, but don’t you think it’s just a little too baggy on you.”  Countless movies and TV shows around the world have characters doing that.  It is usually a nasty mother, sister, or a jealous friend.  It is uncalled for and unnecessary.  As youngsters we were taught to keep our opinions to ourselves.  Now individuals and even groups criticize ethnicity, race, religion, style, fashion, education, career skills, etc.  The old saying, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all,” should still apply.  In the Good Gus Series, there are no characters that criticize.  The stories show children that being kind is far more important than saying anything negative.  If people are upset and criticize you as you are always in the red on your finances, consider the Money Manager at maecharlesbooks.com.

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