Many of the videos on YouTube and Facebook from the coaches talk frequently about self sabotage. Where does it come from? People say negative words about themselves, to themselves which goes directly to their brains. Their brains retain this data and is reflected in their daily thoughts and lives. A person may make a mistake. They will criticize themselves and possibly say they are stupid. The brain listens and then reflects back in their thoughts and behavior. So now they believe they are stupid so they fail at everything. This is also true in parental programming. A parent may reprimand a child for doing something wrong. They may be a poor parent and call their child names including loser, stupid, failure, etc. All this becomes programmed in their brain and they believe it. One of the parts I really liked about the “Ron Clark Story” was that he was encouraging. He taught his class to not only believe in themselves but to actually learn. I loved that all the students mastered their lessons so much so that they were the top in the city. Many of his students had been self sabotaging as they didn’t believe they were smart or could possibly succeed. Sometimes all a person needs is encouragement. There are frequent times in a marriage where self sabotage is inevitable. One partner may criticize their mate so much due to a poor job, lack of money, failure to make home repairs, etc. that the person they are insulting not only will believe but truly fail. We all need to speak nicely to each other. There is no need for continual criticism towards others. Compliments are far more important than insults, don’t you agree? The Good Gus Series is available online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. Hard copies, personally autographed, are available through our website www.goodgusbooks.com along with past blogs for your reading enjoyment. Now available audio and videos for the Good Gus series on YouTube! Digitizing for all the books are available now on YouTube! “Misplaced Trust” is now available on Amazon in e-book form. It is also available digitally at www.misplacedtrustbook.com. If you are thinking of a Will or a Living Trust, “Misplaced Trust” will give you the information you need to make an informed decision. Please check me out on IHeart radio. “The Special Gift” is now available at the Morgan Mill Mail/UPS.