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My daughter posted a sign  on Facebook that said: “Accusations from a narcissist are actually confessions.”  There were comments of people agreeing with this statement one hundred percent.  All narcissists use the same vocabulary and say the same words.  The fact that the sign said that their accusations were confessions is amazing.  If you have ever dealt with a narcissist you would understand. In the media, accusations are an everyday occurance.  They throw them out there and then wait to see what happens.  Sometimes they are denied,  proven to be just false or a new form of accusatory lies appear and the dust settles on the original victim.  This is a staple in politics.  As the politicians compete with one another, they start with all types of accusations.  Often when they are proven false they simply move on to new ones.  If a person doesn’t have proof, they should not say things that are untrue just to hurt another person.  That is really all it amounts to.  The majority of the time it is nothing more than lies.  It even happens in elementary all the way up to high school.  Once the words are spoken, the gossip spreads and before long a student is hurt.  It doesn’t achieve anything.  For the person dealing with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to confront them and solve your issues.  In the Good Gus series Bad Bart was accusatory towards Bob.  However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem and proved that Bad Bart was wrong and that there was a different approach that could solve the problem.  You can easily access the books online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who think nothing of making accusations.  The book would be great for holiday reading.  It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 

My late husband always said that in the matter of trust  it depends upon the circumstances. He was right.  People frequently put their trust in people only to find that they have lied, cheated and stolen from you.  One time my daughter had help moving and her late father was assisting.  He was dying of cancer so they hired two people to help.  He trusted them which was a big mistake as they stole two of her televisions and more.  The circumstances were ideal for these two thieves.  The matter of trust because he was sick proved to be wrong. Then, when my daughter gave to the police,  the thieves names, and pictures but nothing happened. When couples get married they believe in each other.  However, in the matter of trust, it can all change if there are money issues, or if they are wealthy, an individual decides that the marriage should end because they want the money.  The men and women who seek money and have affairs to destroy marriages is obviously high.  There are many videos where people are tested to see if they are trustworthy.  Again, it’s all a matter of circumstances.  If a person is asked to hold one thousand Euros or dollars, if they are doing well, the money is safe. However, if they are in financial straits, that money could disappear instantly.  In the Good Gus series, everyone counted on each other so the matter of trust was always one hundred percent. The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. In “Misplaced Trust” no one trusted anyone.  Now that the weather is improving, it might be a nice read lounging on your front porch.  The books can be easily located at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

  Remote learning is the old home schooling but with a different twist. The problem with remote learning now is that it is not by choice.  The children, according to numerous articles, are falling dreadfully behind.  They are not keeping up and see this as an opportunity to avoid school.  This will lead to new tutoring jobs along with older graduates from school.  My children were in public school and home schooling.  They both have degrees, with my son having two.  However, their home schooling were from two different programs.  For my son’s final year, he went back to high school.  It was a joke for him as he had completed everything and was attending college classes for free as he was in high school.  My daughter’s education really focused on classical literature.  The biggest different from then and now is that they participated in activities.  My son did baseball.  They both had music lessons for various instruments and went on filed trips including digs for fossils.  With COVID children are becoming bored and now having mental issues.  They can’t socialize or play with their friends which is necessary for social development.  Playing is important for all ages but children expect to play.  That is how they learn how to interact with each other. Hopefully, the pandemic will truly end and life can return to normal.  In the Good Gus series the children went to a one room schoolhouse with Miss Patty as their teacher.  The books are online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

 All of a sudden I have begun to notice the media, including emails to me, of misconstruing words. It’s a new commonality.  For example, today I received an email that started off, “Now that Trump has been evicted.” Why are people doing this?  The man did leave but he didn’t receive an eviction notice.  Many landlords are trying to evict their tenants for nonpayment. I can understand as they need and want their money, but using threats and pretending not to know the law is blatant misconstruing words for their personal advantage. The laws are clear  but people try to go around them.  Unfortunately,  many of the individuals have been let go, laid off, businesses have closed, and yet they are still trying.  They aren’t misconstruing words, just trying to pay their bills. Many individuals now, at least in the United States, if they never purchased a home, will be able to use a fifteen thousand dollar credit towards their down payment.   This will make a difference for those who are working. I saw a short video of a dad and his daughter.  She was going on a date and the father had already met the young man.  He knew in an instant he was not suitable for his daughter.  He argued with her and sent her to her room.  His wife showed him a video which pointed out that he needed to trust his daughter and let her go.  He had a conversation with her and she left for her date only to return in five minutes.  She quickly saw what her father saw when her date said he was going to get a little sugar that night.  She somehow managed to cover his face in sugar and rushed back to her home.  Her father was right.  The young man was misconstruing words and the dad could clearly see he was a jerk.  In the Good Gus series, everything was plain everyday vocabulary with no underlying or hidden meanings.  The books are online at Kindle with a few on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is a plethora of misconstruing words by the characters. It’s easy to spot. The book is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

This is the season of giving. There are families who will be unable to give any gifts and will barely have any food. There are also families that will celebrate that they are together and not care about gifts. Then there are the people in the middle who will give gifts and make a lavish Christmas dinner. I saw a video on Facebook that I enjoyed because it really was about the season of giving.  A dad was desperately trying to sell the last few Christmas trees on a lot.  He had three left.  His daughter reminded him that her late mother had said it was the season of giving and that he should just give the trees away.  He was very sad as he had no present for her, they had no food and he was going to be evicted.  Reluctantly he agreed.  The first home they went to was a couple in their building.  The wife was struggling with cancer and they had decided not to have a tree.  When the man knocked on the door the husband looked very sad.  He said I have something for you and gave him the tree.  His wife appeared and they were both delighted. Then they moved on to a woman around the corner that they knew.  She was a widow and her daughter had passed the previous year.  When she opened the door and he gave her the tree she was overwhelmed.  She cried and thanked him so much. A woman who had passed his lot previously and said she wouldn’t buy a tree was the final recipient. He saw her in the car park and when he approached her, her immediate response was, “I told you previously, I will not buy a tree.”  He said, “I am giving it to you.  Merry Christmas.”  She was quite surprised.  He helped her put it in the car and then he and his daughter walked home.  They were only home a short while when there was a knock on the door.  It was the first couple with a large pan of a baked casserole.  The daughter said, “See dad, it is going to work out.” The next knock was the woman who had lost her daughter.  She presented him with a bag with a beautiful home made sweater.  She told him that he had given him joy earlier and since she always made a sweater for her daughter, she thought it would be a nice gift for his daughter.  The girl was thrilled.  The final knock was the landlord demanding the money or leave. The man begged for more time but the landlord was insistent.  Just then a woman came by and asked what was going on.  She instantly recognized the tree man.  Then, she said to the landlord, “This is the man that gave me the tree.”  She then turned to the tree man and said, “Today you saved our marriage.  We were headed for divorce, but when I brought the tree home, we sat down and talked and realized we didn’t want a divorce.”  With that, the landlord said, “Thank you.  Let’s call this even.”  He ripped up the eviction notice.  So you see, even though it was a story, it was positive because the season of giving is now and should continue every day.  In the Good Gus series, the season of giving, Christmas, was the very best.  It is still time to buy online “The Special Gift” on amazon, or other books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is still available online for the last minute gifts for adults on your list.  It is easy accessed on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.  Happy Christmas everyone!

 They say that dogs are man’s best friend and I think it is true. However, not everyone likes dogs. There are individuals who like cats only.  Dogs, though, are always happy to see you.  If you leave for a few hours, when you return they are patiently waiting and when you open the door their tails can’t stop wagging.  Dogs keep people company.  They are recommended for older people who live alone. There are businesses who rescue dogs and then have them checked out by a Vet and sell them for the costs of tags, license and shots.  Dogs are used for rescue and more are trained regularly.  It has always amazed me that people abandon dogs.  They just leave them somewhere thinking they can take care of themselves.  How can they when they have always been cared for?  Many people post videos about their dogs on Facebook and YouTube. They are funny.  For example, I saw a man playing an electric guitar. He had two dogs next to him.  One was laying passively and the other dog was moving to the beat.  My daughter tends to rescue dogs.  The other day she was singing to her daughter and the dog left the room.  Apparently, he did not care for her singing.  People are so attached to their pets that they have carriages, backpacks, and side cars or trailers on motorcycles and bikes.  I recently saw a man skateboarding and his dog was in a backpack and seemed to be loving it.  No one had any pets in the Good Gus series.  The books are online at Kindle with a few copies on Nook and Waterstones.  In “Misplaced Trust” there are characters who leave money to their pets.  It’s a new thing.  This self help guide  for estate plans can be found at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Many families don’t believe in children doing chores. If they are wealthy, their children do not know how to exist on their own as they become older. I have known a variety of children in my life time.  The children from wealthy homes, for the most part, have no clue about laundry, cleaning, vacuuming, dusting, and general home maintenance.  Poor children expect that doing chores are part of their daily routine.  The parents in the middle go two ways.  Some parents don’t believe in their children doing chores because they had to so their kids are slobs and expect everyone to pick up after them.  I always had my children do chores around the house.  As a result, my son, in particular, learned how to cook, clean, iron and be responsible.  Over time his cooking skills increased dramatically so that now, only at home, he is a gourmet cook.  My daughter did do chores and learned the same things but she frequently found ways of getting out of doing it.  Of course, now she has to do it all which does not thrill her.  She can actually cook and her food tastes quite nice.  Many parents don’t realize that when their children go away to college they are completely on their own.  If they don’t know the basics, they will have a difficult time in their dorm and may not have roommates as they will be slobs.  In the Good Gus series everyone did chores as it was a way of life.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 Many families look at the mother, wife, or female in-law as their servant. I have seen several videos where the mother and/or wife is the servant.  They pick up after everyone but are never appreciated.  If a mother ends up living with a child, particularly a daughter, it is automatically assumed that the mother is the servant.  It is her job to cook and clean and do the laundry.  After all, she did it when her child was young.  The same is true of many men.  They expect everything to be perfect and they rarely help with discipline so the children become lazy slobs that the mother or grandmother has to clean up after.  The sad part is whoever the woman is she is not appreciated.  In many of the videos, the women work at a job as well.  When they run out of time to go to the gym or exercise and their figure deteriorates, the videos show men finding younger, more attractive women.  Frequently, they leave the wife thinking things will be better.  Then, after a period of time, they realize that their wife was ideal and they made a horrific mistake.  When they try to win the wife back, it is always too late.  She usually finds a man who appreciates her.  The same is true of the mother-in-law or grandmother.  They reach a point when they realize they don’t want to be a servant any more, and they leave too.  In the Good Gus series, no one was a servant and there were no families who were wealthy who could afford a maid or a servant.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” definitely had characters who were so spoiled that when it was time for inheritance, they were in shock when they received little or nothing.  The book can be found at: 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino. Thank you for your continued support for my crowdfunding.  The site is: https://www.gofundme.com/f/multicultural-gift-of-reading

All children in all families believe that their parents have a favorite child. Today I saw a video about a favorite child.  The dad was extremely proud of his son who had just won another game.  Add to the fact that the reports arrived, and he was an honor roll student.  The dad worked with him every night.  When the daughter asked for help he always said he was too busy.  The dad also practised sports with the son every evening but never the daughter. When her report card was revealed, she was failing.  He had planned to go out for ice cream to celebrate, but he told the daughter no ice cream for her and that she had to go to her room.  Once both children were out of the room, the wife explained to her husband that the son was his favorite child.  The dad, of course, denied it.  She went on to say that whenever the girl asked for help with her homework he was always too busy.  However, he was never too busy for the son, his favorite child.  She explained further that possibly if he had helped her all those times she had asked, her grades might be much better.  All of a sudden he realized that he was not doing right by her.  He proclaimed he was a bad father.  The wife said no, but that he needed to stop favoring the boy so much and start helping and spending time with the daughter. When he went up to his daughter’s room she was sitting on her bed crying.  He apologized and asked her to forgive him. He promised to help her with her homework and sports activities.  Then he suggested that the whole family go out for ice cream. Not all parents realize that sometimes they do have a favorite child.  There are two families in Pecos, in the Good Gus series with more than one child.  J.C. and Bronco, who are twins, and Katie, who is in a wheelchair and her brother Andy.  Katie does receive a great deal of attention, but Andy doesn’t mind.  Actually, all the children are eager to be her friend.  The series is online at Nook, Kindle and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” has characters who believe someone else was the favorite child and wreak havoc while settling an estate.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

  I recently watched a show entitled “Indebted” which featured an episode they called ‘Hot Gossip.’  The parents had to move in with their son and his family because they went broke.  They usually have one night a week at dinner that is entitled ‘Hot Gossip.’ Whoever wins with the juiciest gossip wins a treat.  The whole family was literally addicted to it.  The parents have a daughter who runs a veterinary clinic.  She brought a girlfriend over who was furious that the family was so involved with hot gossip.  She left and the daughter was so upset that she asked the family to refrain from any type of gossip as she wanted to bring the girl back again.  The family had a difficult time not speaking about other people when the girlfriend and daughter returned.  Suddenly, the mother realized that her daughter-in-law had some hot gossip.  The daughter-in-law excused herself and the mother-in-law quickly followed. They headed out to the garage.  Pretty soon the father and his son realized that the women knew something and they leave the dinner table as well.  In the end, they all cannot contain themselves.  When the daughter found out she was furious right up until she was told that her friend belonged to a cult.  Once she realized this she was furious.  After, she appreciated the fact that her family told her.  The son couldn’t understand why his workers were quitting until the gossip his him.  The rumors were that his parents moved in with him, because he is broke.  His business partner had to fix the situation.  They also could not understand why neighbors kept bringing them food until their child told them that everyone at school thinks he is poor.  It’s a fabulous lesson in recognizing that rumors and gossip spread like wildfire and need to be wiped out.  In the Goos Gus series there was no hot gossip.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

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