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My daughter posted a sign  on Facebook that said: “Accusations from a narcissist are actually confessions.”  There were comments of people agreeing with this statement one hundred percent.  All narcissists use the same vocabulary and say the same words.  The fact that the sign said that their accusations were confessions is amazing.  If you have ever dealt with a narcissist you would understand. In the media, accusations are an everyday occurance.  They throw them out there and then wait to see what happens.  Sometimes they are denied,  proven to be just false or a new form of accusatory lies appear and the dust settles on the original victim.  This is a staple in politics.  As the politicians compete with one another, they start with all types of accusations.  Often when they are proven false they simply move on to new ones.  If a person doesn’t have proof, they should not say things that are untrue just to hurt another person.  That is really all it amounts to.  The majority of the time it is nothing more than lies.  It even happens in elementary all the way up to high school.  Once the words are spoken, the gossip spreads and before long a student is hurt.  It doesn’t achieve anything.  For the person dealing with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to confront them and solve your issues.  In the Good Gus series Bad Bart was accusatory towards Bob.  However, Sheriff Gus solved the problem and proved that Bad Bart was wrong and that there was a different approach that could solve the problem.  You can easily access the books online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of characters who think nothing of making accusations.  The book would be great for holiday reading.  It’s online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 

 Who can you trust who might not betray you?  It is not a question you think about when you make a new friend or even think about with your current friends.  Yet, it is amazing how frequently it happens.  In the old movies, particularly about the Italian Mafia, anyone who even considered betraying anyone would disappear.  In today’s life, you have to be extremely careful.  You never know who will betray you.  It may be a person you have been friends with for years. Without any warning, your life may be turned upside down.  Your friend may have decided to betray you for money, your girl or boyfriend, or just jealousy to make you suffer.  There are people who are so jealous that they compete with their friends over everything.  They are the type of people you need to remove from your life.  The worst part of all this is that it starts when children reach the teen years.  Gossip, jealousy, pretending to be a person’s friend and then when it suits them total betrayal for a higher popularity or status.  Once you are betrayed by a friend, trusting anyone again is not only difficult but may even be impossible. It’s a lesson in life we never forget.  As adults when one person in a relationship cheats, the other person not only feels betrayed but wonders why and questions their own self worth.  In any case, it’s better to go through life without ever knowing how it feels to be betrayed. In the Good Gus series, no story has a betrayal.  It would be a bad example for the young reader.  The books are available online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is full of people who think nothing of betraying each other for money.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Playster,  Scribd and Tolino.

Have you ever wondered if something just isn’t worth it?  Take family arguments, are they really worth it? They generally end up with both parties being hurt, insulted, aggravated and upset.  Sometimes they stop talking altogether.  There are countless families in the chapters in my “Misplaced Trust” with this exact issue. They also hold grudges.  But are they really worth it?  Sometimes children hold grudges against their parents because they wished they had divorced.  Of course, the parents thought they were doing the right thing.  Then there are the children who stay angry because their parents did divorce.  Either way no one wins.  Many people believe trying new things and getting out of their comfort zone is completely worth it.  It may be true unless you dive off a cliff and become injured.  There are also the individuals who think you need all of their advice.  If you just agree, they stop talking.  If you don’t, they will go on until they wear you down and you say yes even if you have no intention of following it.  There are also the individuals who will give unsolicited advice.  Ignoring is an ideal option.  We all have options and choices in life.  What and how we choose determines how we live.  If you make the wrong choice, it’s easier to change and make the right one.  In the Good Gus series, there are many adventures that are worth it.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino. Thank you for continuing to visit my crowdfunding site at:  https://www.gofundme.com/f/multicultural-gift-of-reading

Most people have the theory that if they can’t see it they don’t believe it.  However, it’s not a good one.  We can’t really envision electricity, yet it exists.  If you think about the internet, can you really see it?  No, it’s data on a screen.  The same is true with televisions, radios, computers, and anything electronic.  Just because you can’t touch it or feel it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.   Many societies in the world have belief systems that are invisible.  Does it make them any less real?  The whole idea that you have to see it is ridiculous.  If you hurt a person, you know you have made them sad or unhappy.  Yet, you can’t really view their feelings.  Sometimes even when you explain something to a person, you wonder why they can’t understand what you are saying.  If they respond, “I don’t see it,” it simply means it’s beyond their intelligence capacity.  For example, I am not handy.  It all looks so easy on the TV home repair shows that to try yourself can’t be that difficult.  I can’t even follow directions on YouTube.  However, the end result is that I can’t see  to fix the problem and I fail at what I am trying to accomplish.  I am also terrible at algebra.  The teachers really tried to make me see it with examples, simple step processes, yet, I never did understand and never will.  I am not interested in it.  I have a son who is well skilled and can figure it out should I need it.  In the Good Gus series, the children could see what they were supposed to do and frequently make a different choice.  The consequences were never bad but lessons were learned which is important for young children.  The series is available at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also available at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

I heard someone say the other day that, “Mistakes have no gender.” It’s true. We all make them. Some worse than others.  It’s easy to criticize and blame.  The victim personality is quite guilty in both of those areas.  When the person said mistakes have no gender it was indeed true.  It doesn’t matter whether you are a male or a female, young or old, it happens to all of us.  We don’t mean to do it, yet we do.  We try to improve and do better but frequently we fail.  Positive thinking is important when mistakes happen.  We all need to forgive ourselves and try to fix whatever the problem may be.  Sadly, it’s not easy.  In these times where gender has become an issue, it shouldn’t matter.  The same is true of ethnicity.  Claiming certain people of specific races are to blame is wrong.  I saw on Facebook a post about a young black girl who said she would never forget the first time she heard a racial slur.  My response was that it was equally shocking the first time I heard a slur directed at me because I am Irish.  Those statements were made on purpose and to hurt.  They were not errors.  Miss Patty sold a large number of books today at Balboa Park, San Diego. The series is still online at Nook, Kindle, Waterstones with hard copies also at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Why do people believe that personal secrets need to be exposed? I just saw a headline about a woman who had an affair with one of her staffers.  We really didn’t need to know this.  If a person is unfaithful it’s none of our business.  Bill Clinton was caught cheating and yet he remained in office. How did this affect his ability except for the fact he was busy being a womanizer and spent less time running the United States? You be the judge.  Men or women that are cheaters may have a need to be loved, an inferiority complex, or are narcissists.  In any event, what they do on their own time is none of our business.  Personal secrets should remain private.  Frequently, individuals ask others what their rate of pay or salary might be.  Just because you are curious doesn’t mean that you should invade someone’s privacy.  The people who brag about their high salary need to be noticed and want everyone to be aware that they can afford luxuries.  I follow different articles particularly on the Irish Post.  Occasionally, they have little skits. I saw one the other day where a selfish, spoiled young woman was mean to her boyfriend. She had a personal secret.  He had bought her a Kate Spade purse and she felt it should have at least been a Gucci. He really loved her and accepted all of her criticism.  He always asked her to please have faith in him as he had a really good business that would be successful soon.  Finally, when he proposed, she not only turned him down but criticized him for such a small ring.  She broke it off and told him she was going to her other boyfriend who would spend more money on her.  Eventually, the new boyfriend had his own personal secret.  He was seeing someone else.  She met the ex about a year later in a car park.  She started telling him she missed him.  She no longer looked upscale.  As she was speaking, an attractive woman walked up.  He introduced her as his fiance and she showed off her two carat ring.  She was in shock as he opened the door of a luxury car for his future wife.  Sometimes I think people use personal secrets to hurt others, hold it over them, seek revenge and frequently be cruel.  In the Good Gus series there are no personal secrets.  It is available online at Kindle, Waterstones and Nook.  Hard copies are at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust”  is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 A young woman twittered today about the kind and considerate act of five strangers. The people didn’t know each other yet they all joined forces to help this girl. They heard the girl say to a man following her, “Stop following me.  I don’t know you. You have been following me for blocks.”  His retort was unprintable and disgustingly rude.  The five strangers heard her and his reply.  They  joined together and formed a band.  They saved this innocent girl from a real creep.   Random acts of kindness are important to all of us.  It gives us hope that everything we read everyday that is so negative and makes it appear like everyone everywhere is a criminal or lurking just waiting to hurt someone.  Those five people were considerate of a person in need.  If only more people would help one another then possibly the creeps of the world would retreat back into where ever they came from.  The nice thing about life is that you accidentally meet people who are considerate.  It could occur anywhere at any time.  For example, a person who gives up their seat to an older person on a bus; holding the door for the next person; or assisting an individual who is having a difficult time with their groceries, etc.  It doesn’t take much but it certainly brightens everyone’s day.  In the Good Gus series, available on Kindle, being a considerate person is part of the make-up of the characters in all the stories.  In book five, “Lightning Strikes Pecos,” Sheriff Gus was riding back from the Kelley ranch, when he saw,  off in the distance,  J.C.and Bronco fishing.  As a storm was rapidly approaching, he hurried to rescue the boys.  As a considerate person, his daring act saved the day.  Not a single character who is looking for their money in “Misplaced Trust” has any consideration towards anyone.  The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 Have you noticed lately that no one seems to do their job? What is worse is that they fail to perform even reasonably well.  It doesn’t matter what type of job it may be either.  If you look at the news, for example, in the U.S., article after article has complains about people failing to perform tasks that are part of their job description.  If you accept a position and a salary, then you should at least try to do your level best.  Today, for example, the very agencies in the U.S. that are supposed to protect children, don’t.  In San Diego, California, the foster care program which was put in place to help children in need who were being abused or abandoned, once again failed in allowing the activities that the children were supposed to be protected from continue with the obviously untrustworthy people they left the children with.  The system, at least in the U.S., seems to ignore the true needs of abused children.  No one wants to stand up and take responsibility and put a stop to it.  They hide behind voicemail, refuse to assist, and even though they know that the children are being hurt, they let it slide.  What on earth does it take to make people take responsibility for the positions they are being paid for and do the right thing?  In the Good Gus series, available on Kindle, Sheriff Gus does everything possible to always do an excellent job.  Every book, on the first page says; “He is called Good Gus because he always does the right thing.”  A very important lesson for not only children, but adults as well.  Anyone trying to do the job they were assigned in “Misplaced Trust,” often find the difficulties of handling greedy, selfish, demanding individuals a little overwhelming.  Now that the heat has turned up almost everywhere, a relaxing read is exactly what you need to finish your day.  The book is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 Whenever anyone famous cheats on their spouse, the media seems to go out of their way to humiliate the victim.  It’s bad enough that they are continually in the public eye, but it almost seems that the media just loves to humiliate the other party.  Look at Melina Trump and Donald’s affair with a stripper.  She is the first lady yet the press thinks nothing of bringing up his infidelity as much as possible.  Don’t they believe that she has already been hurt, embarrassed and humiliated enough?  It doesn’t appear so.  What is worse is that they are constantly criticizing her clothing, her demeanor and overall appearance.  She should receive respect and should be treated decently rather be the target of the headline grabbing media.  It doesn’t stop with her, though.  Anyone in Hollywood, famous individuals in other countries, or anyone married to a high government official seem to be the targets of increasing revenue for newspapers, TV shows, and any way that they can humiliate individuals to make extra money.  What is interesting, though, is that if the press likes a person they treat them with kid gloves.  They never embarrass them, complain about their attire or their activities.  Sadly, the press will go to almost any length to bring in those high profits regardless of the consequences.  Since the Good Gus series had a newspaper that wasn’t issued every day, there were only articles about the town, the citizens and up coming events.  The series is always available on Kindle worldwide and for purchase anytime through the website.  If you are tired of reading about people being humiliated on the news, TV, internet, etc., take a reading break with “Misplaced Trust.”  It is always available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

 When we initially enter the world everything is bright and rosy. However, over time we begin to hear cruel comments and suddenly the world is no longer sunny and cheery.  What makes individuals think that by making cruel comments it is acceptable?  They never think about how much it hurts the other person.  As children, once we hear these cruel comments it often leads to bullying.  What is sad is that many individuals think it is funny to make cruel comments.  There is an ad on the internet about an obese woman.  She went to the movies and was refused seating.  The usher told her basically she could not fit into one seat.  The audience laughed and made cruel comments to her.  Her feelings were hurt and they didn’t mention it, however, I imagine she was in tears. The point of the ad was that she eventually lost all of her weight through their program.  There are individuals in life who have weight issues that have nothing to do with overeating or lack of exercise.  There are now so many different medical conditions that affect people in a variety of ways.  Nevertheless, it still doesn’t call for rude remarks and cruel comments.  Everyone in the Good Gus series everyone was in reasonable shape.  Not a single story includes cruel comments as it would be in poor taste for the young reader.  In addition, it would be giving the wrong impression that making unkind remarks was acceptable.  The series is available on Kindle worldwide and the first two books on YouTube at Mae’s Story Time.  In the workplace, cruel comments can range from any part of a company or a co-worker.  It’s best to ignore this type of behavior but if it persists the manager, owner or human resources need to be notified.  In the meantime, a quick reading break with “Misplaced Trust” will improve your mood.  It is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

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