Many questions can be answered with either a yes or no. When you ask a person a question, the longer they talk the more they avoid the answer.  When you are listening to continual verbiage, you know not only they will not answer what you asked but they will circumvent whatever you asked.  Even if it is through a text, they can speak paragraphs without really saying anything.  The narcissist is really good at not answering and coming up with a variety of lies.  Their only problem is that they cannot always keep their lies straight. It is really true in life about almost anything.  For example, an employee decides to ask for a raise. They are entitled to one as they have worked quite hard and their performance reports state that they are doing an excellent job, always on time and stay late to finish projects.  The boss can easily say yes or not to his question.  Instead, he receives the basic run a round and his question is never answered.  He then walks away wondering what had just happened.  I have seen this in movies, court, the workplace, and even with family members.  You repeatedly ask the same question but never even receive a yes or no answer.  If we start now teaching our children to be truthful the world would be a better place.  In the Good Gus series, particularly in book four, “Johnny the Cat and Bronco Ride that Bull,” the boys skip off to see the rodeo and don’t even answer either their mother or father.  The point of that story was they were disobeying their parents and there were consequences.  The series is available online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones. Getting a yes or no answer by the characters in “Misplaced Trust” is close to impossible.  The book is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Do you hate the phrase, “I don’t know?” How often do you hear it?  It frequently means I will not answer you or tell you anything so the “I don’t know” phrase is easier.  Sometimes people genuinely don’t know.  They may not have the data, unsure of their answer, or they are struggling whether to tell you the truth.  The person who says that phrase frequently needs a better way to respond.  If you ask a teenager where they are going you will hear those words.  However, they always know where they are going so you know they are lying.  When I was a teen, I was always discovered as to where I was going.  I would start out with the truth, but then a few boys would come along.  If one had a car, the girls I was with would jump in and take off.  Of course, at that time, we weren’t allowed to ride with boys.  I had a guardian who didn’t trust anyone and used to drive around until he located me.  Plus, he knew all the neighbors and they were spies as well. If I told him I didn’t know I would see those boys, he would call me a liar.  He was partly correct in that my girlfriend and I tended to walk past their homes in the hopes they would pop out and visit with us.  In the Good Gus series, “I don’t know” was not a common phrase.  I clearly showed in the stories that the boys, primarily, would head off knowing full well they had every intention of not listening.  The series is online at Kindle with a few books on Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also available for your reading pleasure.  It is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

It’s easy to blame others and make them a scapegoat. When something goes wrong in a person’s life they automatically blame another person and make them the scapegoat.  They don’t want to accept responsibility for their actions or the consequences. If you look at the news, it becomes apparent that there are so many people blaming others and not accepting the truth.  The truth is our only virtue.  When you toss it aside for greed, an affair, negative actions, then you are a zero as a person.  There are continual videos on YouTube that show the husband having an affair and claiming it was the wife’s fault.  They give all types of reasons such as she is too fat, doesn’t cook well, house isn’t clean enough, doesn’t give all of her paycheck to him, etc.  She is the scapegoat for all of his inadequacies.  It’s understandable when children do it to their siblings.  What is wrong is when a parent does something that upsets a child and then passes the blame onto the other parent.  Parenting has its own challenges without a parent making sure they are not to blame for anything.  They really need to grow up.  There was an old time comedian, Flip Wilson, who was really funny who had a standard phrase.  It was “The devil made me do it.”  Now that is taking the passing of blame to a whole new level.  In the Good Gus series, there were no stories with a scapegoat.  Children need to accept responsibility for their actions.  The series is online at Kindle with a few books at Nook and Waterstones. Now is the time to order your personally autographed book for your child for Christmas. A good read for any adult, and an easy gift for Christmas is “Misplaced Trust.”  It’s an ideal self help book for your guide to estate planning.  It is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

There are many things in life including people who are perfect on paper. Yet, reality is  an entirely different story.  In the dating world, particularly on the computer websites many people look perfect on paper.  However, meeting someone and spending time with them can give you an entirely differently perspective.  For example, a person may have the ideal profile that a dater is seeking including good position, wants to marry, own a home, have children, etc.  Then, after they meet and get to know them, the dater realizes that the profile is not true.  The same is true when constructing a legal case.  The data looks ideal, yet there may be no truth in what has been written.  The legal system tends to gather facts but frequently not all facts and the person in charge is sure that they have an airtight case.  Once in court, it’s all different.  Their facts may be inaccurate and the other side could provide proof that refutes their statements.  You see it frequently in movies and TV shows.  This is also applicable to applicants applying for a position.  Their CV or resume could look perfect on paper.  Yet, once they are interviewed they may not have all the skills they state, nor worked at the various jobs during the time periods specified, etc.  It’s common knowledge that people do fudge their CV’s and resumes but if a person overdoes it, they will not be hired.  In the Good Gus series paper was used in school and for receipts.  The series is online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones.  “Misplaced Trust” is also online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

There was an old TV show in the states entitled “Who’s the Boss?” It starred Tony Danza and he was the housekeeper but really the boss.  He was fair in the show and not a bully.  However, many individuals who are a boss tend to be a person whose title goes to their head.  They are frequently overbearing, demanding, rude, and inconsiderate.  A boss is supposed to be a leader.  They should set an example and be considerate of the people they supervise.  When have you ever heard of a world boss?  You have heard of a world leader frequently.  I saw a short video today in which a man appeared to be the newest member of a team.  The boss was horrific.  He treated his staff without respect, criticized them unnecessarily and made a mockery of being the manager of a company.  When the new man stood up to object the boss told he would lose his job.  He presented a folder which he said was his resignation.  The boss didn’t even look at it.  The new man began speaking  and stated just about everything I just wrote.  When the boss asked him just who did he think he was?  The new man’s answer was amazing.  He said, “I started this company and am the CEO.  I expect to see you at the board meeting tomorrow.”  When the boss opened the resignation he saw immediately that the man was telling the truth.  If you are the boss, remember the people you manage are the ones who help you receive a paycheck and make you look good.  It’s not the other way around. In the Good Gus series, Joe Kelly ran a ranch and he was indeed a boss.  He treated the people in his employ with respect.  A  good lesson for the young reader or the parent reading the book to their child or children.  Miss Patty did well today in sales despite the cool weather.  She may go back to Balboa Park tomorrow.  It depends upon the weather.  The series is online at Nook, Kindle and Waterstones with hard copies at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” is online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Frequently I have discussed new finds from scientific studies. Often they are genuine provided they are not being secretly paid by various organizations or businesses.  Now there is a new release of data backed by scientific studies claiming red meat doesn’t clog your arteries or cause heart disease.  What makes this study so interesting is that the former scientific studies were funded by groups who did not want people to eat red meat.  Apparently, even the scholastic professionals are willing to take a kick back and can be bribed.  Whenever one of the new scientific studies is released that may have interest to my readers, I pass on the information.  I always include my personal thoughts and ideas.  That way you, as the reader, has an idea of possible other views.  Truthfully, the red meat is a difficult call.  For example, high cholesterol runs in my family.  We eat well, have avoided red meat, include fresh fruits and vegetables in our daily eating along with lean white meats and fish.  However, my late aunt had a heart attack and she rarely if ever ate red meat.  In addition, she walked every day and danced a little on Saturday nights.  She was ninety-two when she passed.  How would she fit into this study?  She probably did have clogged arteries and then they finally caught up with her.  Once data is released by these so-called scientific studies, we really need to read further to see how much we can discern is the truth, and how much is a lie.  In the Good Gus series, the citizens of Pecos ate any and all foods available.  Cholesterol was discovered in early 1815.  However, the testing and diagnosis came slightly later.  The series is available online at Nook, Kindle and Waterstones.  The hard copies are available at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” should be considered if you are a property owner and have a family.  You can locate it online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Why is deceit so easy for most people?  If you think I am exaggerating, look at the political campaigns in the United States.  You can’t find the truth.  If if exists, it is so buried in lies and deceit it makes it impossible to come to an understanding of the issues.  Everyday my email is full of political parties and candidates attacking one another.  I have tried to unsubscribe, but it is completely ignored.  For the first time voter, wading through all the gossip, innuendos, rumors, lies and often insulting remarks including bigotry, would seem a daunting task.  Hollywood gossip loves deceit.  They thrive on it as does  the magazines you see in line at the grocery.  Even if you are interested in an article on the internet, it is so full of possible teasers that you can never read the article as they are trying to entice you with adverts.  For example, anti-aging products make outlandish claims.  Are they ever true?  They certainly have celebrities saying their products are fabulous.  However, the discriminating buyer does his or her research through reviews and can easily spot the deceit.  It’s really sad that the truth has become a joke.  A person who does tell the truth is rare.  They are to be cherished and revered.  The only thing that does help in many western countries are the consumer laws.  They force companies to sell products, make the appropriate claims, warranties, etc.  Sadly, that cannot be said for every  company as they do find ways to get around the laws.  The pharmaceutical companies always protect themselves with disclaimers.  Unfortunately, they speak so quickly you have no idea what they really say.  In the Good Gus series, deceit was never an option in any story.  Yes children ignored their parents, but no book contains a character lying.  I felt it was import to keep the truth alive.  The second Christmas book is entitled, “The Christmas Pageant.”  Remember, the series is available online at Kindle and Waterstones and hard copies at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

The Beatles wrote a song entitled, “It’s Just Another Day.” Do you ever feel like that when you wake up?  The song was well written.  Most of the world gets up and does the same things every day.  There is no excitement or adventure.  If they scrimp and save they may be able to go on holiday, but when they return it’s the same old grind – just another day.  Many people reach the point where work is so dull and boring that they do it without thinking.  It’s easier.  Most people drive the same route each day, possibly stop at the same coffee shop, eat lunch at the same restaurant and return home to handle family matters, do chores and prepare for the next day.  There needs to be stimulating conversation somewhere along the way.  You should be be broadening your horizons and trying new things.  Many people prefer the daily routine.  It helps to keep them grounded with no surprises.  The funny thing about life is that there are always surprises.  In an old ‘Frasier’ show, he was at his usual coffee shop when a man walked in with a gun.  At that moment everything changed.  Bull Dog used Roz as a shield but everyone saw it as him saving Roz.  If I recall he never admits the truth except to Frasier and begs him not to tell anyone.  You may see people post on Facebook to tell everyone you love them because you never know what  might happen that will make it  not be just another day.  Any parent or grandparent who has read the Good Gus series knows that each book has a story line that is not just another day.  Sales were slow at Balboa Park today because it was just too hot.  If you missed it, they are still online at Kindle and Waterstones and the hard copies in Tierrasanta, California.  “Misplaced Trust” is also available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

When we were little we thought secrets were fun. As we began to grow into our teen years they frequently became hurtful. One little mistake, a friend suddenly isn’t your friend, and your secrets ruin you and your reputation. It could be something small and insignificant that they exaggerate which can end up being cruel.  The trouble with secrets particularly with teenagers is that they can be easily spread almost like gossip.  Social media has become a new target for teens They seem to depend on what their peers think or possibly believe.  If a cyber bully finds a way to release secrets onto social media it seems to literally destroy their target.  There are continual jokes about teens all together but on their phones on social media.  At least when we were younger, if any secrets were released we could confront the person personally rather than have no clue as to whom is trying to destroy us.  Most people have been bullied at one point in their lives.  They have been taught the lesson that if you are honest and tell the truth, even if you think that person is a true friend or trustworthy, they may find a better friend or offer and try to ruin you as a person.  I have never understood what type of joy they receive from hurting a friend or even a family member.  Possibly it makes them feel superior.  But, how long does that feeling last?  Real people with real friends, regardless of age, will never let each other down and if they know any secrets they will never reveal them.  Secrets were never part of the writing in the Good Gus series.  Sure the characters ignored their parents, but they were always caught.  Delightful as a bedtime read, you can find the series on Kindle and Waterstones.  Hard copies are available at the UPS Store in Tierrasanta, California.  As cooler nights approach remember yourself and try reading “Misplaced Trust.”  It is available online at 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

Our lives are full of misinformation. Everyday the fake news leads us to believe lies. Even advertisements tend to give misinformation.  The truth seems to be almost nonexistent.  When we were young we were punished if we gave misinformation.  If we were evasive, misleading, left out important facts about whatever we were saying, everything went wrong.  The worst part of giving misinformation for most people is that once a lie is established, they don’t always remember it.  All the TV shows mention that if a person is going to lie, always add a dash of truth.  Yet everyday, when we try to figure out what is really happening the misinformation leads us down the wrong path.  Often, individuals don’t really give all the facts on a resume or CV.  They fill in the holes of their unemployment periods and expand greatly on their experience and duties.  If they aren’t careful, either their references or their performance will give way to their lack of expertise.  It’s tiring, though, to try to discover what is really happening in the world only to realize that you don’t know what is really going on.  If you decide to change positions or move to a new location, the lack of data that is accurate can cause you to make serious mistakes.  In the Good Gus series, until Charlie and Heather moved to Pecos, they didn’t even have a newspaper or a library.  When they did, however, the misinformation issue still didn’t exist.  Available on Kindle,  the books are ideal reading for young children as winter rapidly approaches.  For those cold nights by the fire, a good book is always a treat.  “Misplaced Trust” is available on 24 Symbols, Apple, Nook, Kindle, Kobo, Page Foundry, Scribd, Playster and Tolino.

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