Is there such a thing as unfair arguing? Yes there is. If you follow “Light Over Narcissism” by Nanette, many of her followers will tell you that it is true. However, it is not just the narcisst, it can be anyone with a large ego with a disposition to match. As children we argued with our siblings, playmates, parents and anyone who would not give us our way. As adults it is completely different. There are adults who firmly believe that they are more intelligent, always right and that they know everything. Sorry but they do not. How many times have you been in an argument when you have been told that you are overreacting? Usually when you are told that it is the originator of the fight that is overreacting. I have seen people in public behave this way and it is not pleasant. When they realize others are looking they grab the other person and move away. The sad thing is that it does not change anything. Another phrase they use is, “Why are you blaming me when it is all your fault?” Of course, the chances are it is not but it is a great way to deflect from them. The old standby, “If you loved me you would never treat me this way.” What does love have to do with it? Absolutely nothing as it is a disagreement. Again a way to make the other person feel guilty. The other old standby is “Why didn’t you notice I was upset?” How could you since you had no clue an argument was about to ensue. The other old familiar phrase is, “You always blame me. I am the victim here.” Not really it is just an argument. It is bordering on ridiculous how people find ways to defend their position, which is probably wrong, to find ways to guilt the other person and always be a winner don’t you agree? The Good Gus Series is available online at Kindle, Nook and Waterstones. Hard copies, personally autographed, are available through our website www.goodgusbooks.com along with past blogs for your reading enjoyment. Now available audio and videos for the Good Gus series on YouTube! Digitizing for all the books are available now on YouTube! “Misplaced Trust” is now available on Amazon in e-book form. It is also available digitally at www.misplacedtrustbook.com. If you are thinking of a Will or a Living Trust, “Misplaced Trust” will give you the information you need to make an informed decision. Please check me out on IHeart radio. The Good Gus series, books one through four, are now available at the Morgan Mill Mail/UPS. I am now on Instagram and Tic Tok!
Unfair Arguing
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Apr